Rumor has it the downtime this past week was the mods installing kryptonite to slow me down. This is clear proof that it is working.





But in order to "not kill the thread" - positive experiences don't always lead to kids growing into good adults, and negative experiences don't always lead to kids growing up to being bad adults.

My experience with my mother and stepfather (by far and away mostly him) was very negative, and I think I turned out OK. My sisters haven't done what I've done, but they turned out OK, too. We survived, learned from what we saw, and made our own lives.

I've seen kids who had the most loving parents really struggle when they hit the real world. I've known a lot of folks who had alcoholic parents - many of those parents were also abusive - go on to lead very solid and productive lives, with no abuse.

No one should have to put up with shit like that, but in reality, not all kids who grow up under abusers become abusers themselves.

Should parents stay together for the kids? No, they shouldn't. But to assume that the kids only learn what they see and aren't able to make thier own decisions is terribly misguided. A child possesses the ability to form opinions, regardless of how innocent we think they are.