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Aug 2, 2011, 9:08 PM

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Re: [hannah.wolfmom] how does a female noob look for partners?
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I think much of the advice given here is good. When I was a female noob doing the same, I think I was in the right place at the right time. I did not know that and similar websites existed, so I posted on craigslist activities. I got a lot of responses (I did live in a big city) and met several people that way, two of whom were my gateway to climbing with many more people and both of whom were fairly proactive in inviting me to group outings.

Not to say I was not proactive on my own behalf, as I was. And these people became good friends outside of climbing, which I feel made a difference in my integration into a wider world of climbing.

At times I have now been in the reverse role: noobs contacting me and asking me to take them climbing when they don't have any partners or don't know anyone else. Currently, much of the style of climbing I do is not conducive to noob teaching, but when it is, I am usually open-minded and willing to invite.

However, what I can recommend is that, as the noob, there are certain things you can do in the way you conduct yourself that will make yourself a more attractive partner.

1. Do your best to be in reasonable condition for whatever kind of typical approach you may encounter while carrying whatever portion of gear is normal for you.

2. Show up with an "I'm willing to learn and proactively ask questions about things I don't know or haven't seen before" attitude. I have encountered noob partners who I have gradually come to realize think all they have to do is show up, plug and chug, and somehow knowledge will come to them with no further effort or curiosity. They then overestimate their abilities soon after and believe they have a competence they really don't. I then no longer want to climb with them since I am not interested in risking my life.

3. Even if you think you know how to lead belay, think about taking another lesson from one of your new, experienced partners who is good at it and has caught many falls. I learned great lead belaying skills from some of my first partners: guys who were sport climbing hard 11s and 12s and knew how to do it right.

4. As you learn what you need, be prepared. Even if you don't own a rope, draws, or rack, make sure you always have your own harness, shoes, chalk bag, belay device, helmet (if applicable), a personal set-up for cleaning anchors, nut tool (if you are learning any trad), enough water for the day, enough food for yourself, a packable windbreaker, sunscreen, and a roll of tape. Everyone forgets things sometimes, but if you are the new person chronically missing needed items when you're out at the crag, it gets really old to your more experienced partners.

5. Learn to lead climb (if you haven't already). Females can get away without lead climbing (ever, for the most part, with or without a boyfriend), but you'll really do yourself a favor if you can share the load...or at least put up the routes YOU want to climb. DON'T show up and expect all your new friends to be interested in ropegunning everything for you.

Well, not to make this too long Wink, I'll leave it at that. Best of luck!

(This post was edited by aerili on Aug 2, 2011, 9:09 PM)

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Post edited by aerili () on Aug 2, 2011, 9:09 PM

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