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My hero, Diego Fuentes…


This is my hero, Diego… He’s my son Justice’s best friend, and he’s a gregarious and articulate 4 year old boy with a rare form of cancer, Localized Stage 3 Spindle Cell Embryonal Rhabdomyosarcoma.

Diego is so brave that he has endured numerous MRIs requiring him to remain motionless for extended periods of time, a round of radiation and chemo therapy lasting months and requiring him to have a feeding tube, be isolated from his friends due to a severely weakened immune system from the radiation and chemo, extensive surgery to remove the cancer and reconstruct the muscles and nerves in the affected area (his wrist) with tissue and nerves harvested from both legs, only to still find cancer in the margins, and have to do it all over again. This has lasted almost 2 years !!! [written in Feb, 2008]

Why is he my hero ??? Because I often bitch and complain about having to endure much less, and will even quit at times because I am so impatient that I just can’t wait it out. Many times I have left items at the checkout line and walked out of the store due to my self-centered impatience. He has no choice, he just does it, he still smiles, and more importantly… He doesn’t quit !!!


This is a pic of him at the annual Jonathan Jacques Children's Cancer Center Torch Run 2007, held in Long Beach:

He was initially having trouble carrying the torch, as this was after his surgery, and his wrist was notably weakened by it… His mom, Michelle, asked him to let her help him, and he said, “No Mom! I can do it myself!”, clutched the torch tighter and picked up his step so much that all of us behind him had to quicken our pace just to keep up. He doesn’t quit !!!


Here he is at my son’s 3rd birthday party about a year ago, just weeks after the major surgery:

He just will not quit, and will try to do everything the other kids do !!!
Once again… He just doesn’t quit !!!


Here he is at his 4th birthday, just months ago, with the end to this battle in sight:




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He love’s that now he can go out to eat, and even go to school and play with other kids:



He’s even a great big brother to his little sister, Lilia (little mama):





Unfortunately, we have just learned that my hero, Diego, may not have beaten this, and may have to endure this all over again, and will likely even lose his arm. There appears to be another tumor at the site.

Diego, his family, and all of his many friends, which I am proud to be one, will endure this with him.

And once again, he will not quit !!!


That’s why Diego is my hero.



Please take the time to visit his page, and leave him a message in his guestbook:
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes



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EDIT - The above was written in Feb of '08. On Christmas Eve of '08, Diego died after a long fight. The next morning, Christmas day, Diego's mom wrote the following on his page:
Michele, Diego's mom wrote:
THURSDAY, DECEMBER 25, 2008 09:26 PM, CST

Diego died in our arms surrounded by people who love him. He started having breathing problems the night before and went from 4 liters of oxygen on the nasal cannula to 10 liters with a mask. At one point his saturation was only 72 and his heart rate was falling to 87. He had been at 97- 98 breathing saturation and heart rate of 130's. He was working so hard to breathe. His heart rate went up to 183 and 100% saturation but still was struggling to breathe and it just did not stop. I think a tumor in his lung burst and took over what was left of his breathing space. We told him about an hour before he died he could rest now, that he could stop fighting. He said I want to fight. He was so loving up until the end. Leaving him cold and alone in his bed was the hardest thing we ever did. We know he was not in there but it is hard to except. We miss him so much but the gravity of the loss has not really sunk in so I imagine that this will get harder. For now we watch videos and look at pictures. We cry uncontrollably but also still laugh. It does not seem real.


Read his story, and of the people he touched in the following pages.


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Some people in life get dealt a hand seemingly so unfair as to be overwhelming, crushing even.

Its amazing the bravery Diego has shown in the face of Cancer. Most adults dont have that resolve.

Saddly it doesnt sound like is fight is over.


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notapplicable wrote:
Some people in life get dealt a hand seemingly so unfair as to be overwhelming, crushing even.

Its amazing the bravery Diego has shown in the face of Cancer. Most adults dont have that resolve.

Saddly it doesnt sound like is fight is over.

Perhaps that is exactly why they get dealt these hands, because they can handle these burdens that would make the rest of us wilt. They take them all for the rest of us.

Best wishes and prayers to Diego.


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GO DIEGO!


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Wow, that's quite a kid. I see why he's your hero, Adam. Oh, and uh, what's up with the ghost legs?


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j_ung wrote:
Wow, that's quite a kid. I see why he's your hero, Adam. Oh, and uh, what's up with the ghost legs?

^^^^I was thinking the same thing. Albino maybe?

Kids are amazing creatures. The reason they are able to handle such unimaginable burdens is that they have yet to learn self pity. Ask imnotclever. He understands this. He has an amazing kid like Diego. They just don't know how to feel sorry for themselves, which lets them take this sort of thing in stride. I couldn't do it. And I couldn't tell you when the turning point for me was. I feel self pity, just like all other adults, but I don't know when it started.

I hope Diego can muster the resolve to keep fighting. I'd be shocked if he couldn't. It is my worst nightmare, something like that happening to one of my kids. But I know they'd handle it better than would I.


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Awesome Adam thanks for sharing that!


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We often say that children need to learn from the adults, but I often think that maybe we've got that the wrong way 'round.

Brave kid. Amazing attitude.


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thanks Adam for the kick in the pants...what a cool friend you have there....diego rocks!!!!


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A touching story. An awesome young man.
I wish him the best of luck.


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I want to thank the few who have taken the time to leave a message for Diego on his page, as Michelle and Frank read it to him, and they appreciate all the well wishes... It makes Diego smile and feel very special.


~Adam

ps... This is also a hint to all of you who haven't. Wink


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Thanx Aaron. Smile


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Diego's site wrote:
GOOD NEWS! The lymph nodes and bone marrow are clean!! Pathology still shows embryonal subtype and 70% necrotic tissue! Me and Frank actually let out a huge sigh. I have a lot to say but not much time. Will update later tonight.
This means that it has not metastasized, and that amputation of the arm is all that is recommended at this time... Doesn't sound like good news, but compared to how it could have turned out if it had metastasized, it is... We are concerned with "survival".

Again, please take the time to leave him a message in his guestbook:
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes


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Diego officially gets a 10 on the coolness scale!


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Thanx Marge, Brad, Todd, & Andrea for signing his guestbook... It meens a lot to him and his family to know that so many people care.

Diego's actually looking forward to getting a "robot arm"...
He's gonna be the bionic boy.


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Wow, I hadn't seen this until now. Brave young guy. Bionic arm; damn those kids, always positive aren't they. I can't begin to imagine the stress for these parents. It's got to be tough.


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Yea... Michelle and Frank are a bit stressed, but all the well wishes and messages help quite a bit:
On Diego's site, Michelle wrote:
The next update is about how wonderful people have been to us already. Bringing lunch and dinners. At Frank's work people are donating there vacation days. One of his colleagues donated a whole week! Another is working on setting up a fund. Diego's preschool has offered to let us use the playground when school is out and the volunteer said she would clean a classroom for Diego to come and play when he can't attend school. Not to mention all the people who have told us that they are willing to help when we need it. It means so much to us and has brought us to tears. It gives us strength and hope knowing we have so much support and prayers all around us.


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Quite the kid, to say the least. I'll say like you Adam, things like this help put everyday stuff in perspective.

Thanks for posting the professor's lecture as well, BTW.


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come on folks, sign the guest book. unlike wjca and myself who are indulging in a pity party, Diego is moving full steam ahead. he's definitely my hero!!!!


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Karen (i.karen), my wife, was telling me about the Mom's night at the school last night, as she was sitting next to Michelle, Diego's mom...
Michelle, on Diego's site wrote:
Diego received the coolest gift from our Parkcrest Teacher family. A giant T-Rex puppet. It is almost as big as Lilia. He LOVES it and said it is the best T-Rex he has ever seen and napped with it today. I'll have to post of picture of him with it. Last night I went to Mom's night at Diego's school and it was so precious. He made me a necklace. When I tried to help him he said I can do it myself. Then they sang the sweetest songs to us. We then all got together as a school and sang songs. I was glad we could go. Keep praying for us. Diego told me a friend in his class can do lots of cool things he cannot do on our way to the park today. He said he can do a handstand and I can't. He then broke down and cried. I told him there would be thing that he cannot do but that there will be things he will be able to do that others cannot and that his friends like him whether he can do a handstand or not. He said thank you and sang one of the song from the previous night, You are my Mommy (You are my Sunshine tune). It was really sweet. I knew he had these feelings and was really glad that he finally shared them with me. Keep praying for us. Especially Diego.
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes

And thanx for leaving a message on his guestbook Jeff.Wink


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You know it is stuff like this that restores my hope for the climbing community and makes me proud to be a part of it!

Go Diego!


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c4c wrote:
You know it is stuff like this that restores my hope for the climbing community and makes me proud to be a part of it!

Go Diego!

yup, there is a underlying humanity under all that internet posturing, trolling and name calling!!!!


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Thanx Marge, Brad, Todd, & Andrea for signing his guestbook... It meens a lot to him and his family to know that so many people care.

Diego's actually looking forward to getting a "robot arm"...
He's gonna be the bionic boy.

Not gonna lie, bionic arms are pretty friggen sweet. So is he definitely having the amputation?


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carabiner96 wrote:
rrrADAM wrote:
Thanx Marge, Brad, Todd, & Andrea for signing his guestbook... It meens a lot to him and his family to know that so many people care.

Diego's actually looking forward to getting a "robot arm"...
He's gonna be the bionic boy.

Not gonna lie, bionic arms are pretty friggen sweet. So is he definitely having the amputation?

From the update on his page that preceded the one I posted above :
Michelle, on Diego's site wrote:
MONDAY, MARCH 03, 2008 02:19 PM, CST
I'll start with Sea World. We had a nice time but Diego was really tired as he was in much pain the night before and woke about 3 times. He did sleep for an hour on the way to Sea World but apparently that was not enough. Our friend Julie bought us dine with Shamu tickets and he was so tired that he really did not enjoy the show until one of the orcas splashed him in the face! Then he was excited. Lilia loved it.

We met with the oncologist today and Diego's surgery will be next Wednesday to amputate his arm. We will have a 3-5 night stay depending on his pain. The oncologist proposes we follow up surgery with 6 months of chemotherapy using 2 drugs. Adriamyacin and Ifosfamide and possibly radiation later on to his lymph nodes. We will talk to Dr. Calderwood and see what he thinks. I'm a bit tired so that's all for now. Feel free to ask questions in the guestbook and my personal e-mail is: MichelleFuentes19@hotmail.com


And Mo... Your message was perfect, and will do a lot to help.

You rule !!!


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Here's a pic Michelle sent me of Diego and my son, Justice, dancing at the above mentioned Mom's Night at their pre-school:



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Here's a pic of Diego's and his new T-Rex that Michelle mentioned in a previous update quoted on the last page:



Diego is scheduled to have his arm amputated Wednesday.

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes


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Yesterday on Diego's site, Michelle wrote:
SATURDAY, MARCH 08, 2008 09:16 AM, CST
So our fight against cancer began just weeks before Diego's 3rd birthday. We spent 10 days in the hospital and for the first time I saw Diego shut down. I started to worry and realized that we could not do this alone. We needed to work on our relationship with God. Diego of course came home from the hospital and bounced back to his spunky self. We bought him a Doctor's outfit so we could do play therapy. That is when I realized how I has a Mother was able to get though all we had been through. Diego was always a fighter. Whether it was at therapy while they were stretching his hand or if he wanted to do something and we said no. It was exhausting at times. This spirit carries over to learning and love for his family and friends as well. When Lilia was a baby and started sitting I would take her out of her sling and sit her on a blanket to play while we at the park. If any child got close to her he would get right in front and say, "That is my sister!" I would tell him it was OK and he would say no it is not! As she got older if she started playing with other kids he was always by her side making sure the kids were nice. He would watch her with an eagle eye across the park. He never backed down.

I share all this as we have many new readers. Of course you can go back and read the journey of the last year and a half. Diego has always been the kid to make friends in a minute with kids and adults. I know that him losing his arm may not be easy but I do know he will adapt and exceed our expectations as he always does. He is a lot like his Mother. Although his life has different challenges than mine he has the same spirit. That is how I know.


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wow adam, my heart goes out to michelle.l There's nothing harder than watching your child struggle and suffer and battle a life threatening disease.

she's my hero too!!


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Michelle, on Diego's site, wrote:
So tomorrow is a big day. We meet with our oncologist in the morning while Diego is at school and talk about our next course of action. We then have to be at City of Hope at 2 for pre-op blood work and exam. We are all having a bit of a ruff time right now. Not sure if I will update before surgery on Wednesday but will try to update after surgery.
As I'm sitting here typing this I noticed the hummingbird outside the window. It always seen to come around when I need extra strength but I was so in a daze all I thought was that it was strange that it was actually coming right up to the window screen. Then I was here looking at our friends blog and the hummingbird came back and did the same thing. As soon as I realized that this again was my little messenger saying things would be OK he dashed away! Thank you God! I needed that!

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My wife just emailed this:

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Just wanted to let you all know that Diego is out of Surgery and is ok. He is in the NICU.

Karen

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I am glad to hear surgery was a success. My prayers will be for his healing now. That has to be tuff for a kid.


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Karen updated Diego's page last night at Michelle's request:

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The surgery went well and he will be held in ICU over night for observation. Diego is awake and hasn't been in any pain. When they have a chance and internet access I'm sure they will update.

If you haven't already, please take the time to leave a small note in his guestbook:http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes


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Michelle wrote:
Sorry it took me long to update. We now have internet here as we moved out of ICU! Diego did have some pain last night but not to bad. Today he is doing great. His first reply when he was half awake from anesthesia was I have a little arm, now I can't pray! I told him all he needed to pray was to simply talk to God in his own mind and that there is no correct way to pray. He does not want to move much yet but his spirits are up. I will try to update more later. Keep up the prayers. I know they have lifted us as I was not afraid even when they (s)aid we would spend the night in ICU because he received 10X's the normal dose of morphine to control his pain during surgery. I knew he would be fine and he was. Woke up better than ever. Well Diego calls. Update when I can.

Love,

Michelle

Thanx again to all who have left a message to Diego in his guestbook... It makes a big difference.

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Michelle wrote:
In my dreams last night Diego still had his arm. It was in much pain. I wonder how long it will take for me to dream of him without it. Our oncologist said many of his teenage patients take 7 years to dream of themselves without it. I do not miss his arm. It has been a source of great pain but I do worry of course about how it will affect his self image but am quite assured that he will be just fine. He always makes new friends of all ages wherever we go. As a mother though you know that it does not change one bit how you love and perceive your child. Just knowing that this surgery will most likely save his life puts it into perspective. Today he said Mom this is my good arm and this is my bad arm. I said it is not bad and soon it will be your super arm when you have your robot arm. He had a big smile on his face.

I am not going to pretend that being here is easy but I cannot say we are devastated. We still have our baby. It is not going to be fun but you have to keep your eyes on the prize. When we talked to child life before Diego had surgery they gave him a bear with its arm amputated at about the same place and wrapped in an ace bandage like his is today. He brought it with us along with his puppet T-Rex and books and some dinosaur figures. Well today a social worker gave Diego two dinosaurs. One was a maybe a little bigger than a beany baby sized T-Rex that looks very much like his puppet T-Rex. He really liked it but then said I will give this to Lilia. Then he said she can have the bear too! So sweet a he really treasured the bear and really liked the T-Rex. She was so happy and I think it is now going to help her deal with her brother's arm. All the nurses can't stop saying how cute Diego is. I have a whole gratitude piece to write but will save that for tomorrow or the next day depending. Thank you all for signing the guestbook and keeping us in your thoughts and prayers.
Love,
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FRIDAY, MARCH 14, 2008 04:47 PM, CDT
Looks like we will be going home tomorrow! Dr. Femino said Diego is doing better than any kid he has seen and healed amazingly. He said he needed to get out of bed today. We did and he has not been back in bed since! We played video games, scaled the library bookshelf- yes I'm not kidding and had a great time painting, playing with toys, and playing soccer in the playroom. He told me he likes his little arm. Amazed is just not enough to describe how I feel. I think I am just in awe of him. He has yet to get frustrated. I think I will make a slideshow if I have time tonight and post the link. Keep praying. I hope to take Diego to school next week.


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What keeps me going besides faith? The kindness and generosity of so many people. Knowing so many people genuinely care about us. Some people who are our closet friends and family and others we have never met. All the prayers and encouragement. I feel like we have so many families out there surrounding us. Diego's school said when Diego has a low immune system he can go after school and they will sanitize a room for him and we can enjoy the playground! People sending card with kind words, leaving messages here and to my personal e-mail, hearing about all the churches and groups praying for us and people cooking us meals. Just last week two people who have never met us gave us incredible gifts and made us both cry. The first was a friend of Diego's teacher who wanted to makes sure we knew about Make-A-Wish foundation. I explained we did and were waiting to find out if we were approved for Give Kids the World our first choice or Disneyland our second choice as Diego had never been. Well this friend offered to send us to Disneyland. I wanted so badly to say no but all I could do was cry as I was so touched that someone who had never met us would want to do that for us. She did not know that we had planned to go to Disneyland after we caught up on bills from our previous years battle with cancer but now I knew we were headed for more of the same so we would just wait until after treatment for our Make-A-Wish as Diego will be in the hospital our have a low immune system for most of the next 6 months. Diego had been talking about going to Disneyland and I felt bad having to postpone but Disneyland is very expensive and we really are in no position to go. So now we are going to Disneyland and Mom does not ever have to regret not going or ponder it during treatment. I am just so touched that someone who has never met us would care so much as to do that. Later in the week we received $250 dollars from a woman that only knows me via the internet through a site I joined when I was pregnant with Lilia. Also Frank has had two guys at work donate a week each of there vacation time. I told Frank we could not take that much but they both had extra time banked from the previous year. Made me feel better but what person would not like to spend an extra week away from work? VERY generous. I don't think gratitude is a big enough here as it is so much more profound and moving to have people supporting us in so many ways.

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If you haven't already, click the link Michelle provided at the end of her last update above... It's a slideshow of Diego in his hospital room with family.

It really is remarkable how Diego is up and smiling, and even playing just 2 days after the amputation of his arm.

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Diego and his little sister Lilia.



Diego and Lilia with Daddy (Frank)



And he loves his dinosaurs. Smile



This is exactly why he's my hero !!!


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I can't believe he's doing so well....well, actually I can, based on what I've seen. He's pretty remarkable.


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I'm glad to see that Diego is taking this recent development in his usual confident and brave manner. Its really refreshing and impressive to see someone so willing to put aside, not only the physical discomfort but the emotional difficulty of a thing like this and continue on with their life so quickly.

Its unfortunate that they had to amputate to a point above the elbow but compared to the promise of a long life such things are hardly worth dwelling on. From what little I have heard, innovation in prosthetics has been very progressive as of late. I'm sure they are going to hook the kid up.

Do they have some sort of exchange program for prosthetics? It occurs to me that at his age he will out grow them pretty quick and it would be quite a bit more cost effective if he could draw from a bank of modern and up to date but used arms.


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From yesterday:
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We are home! Left the hospital at 12:30, ate lunch, played a little and we napped with Diego. Still not unpacked but that will happen. My Mom is making a St. Patrick days feast. Lilia and Diego helped make the Irish bread and decorate the table. They loved it. Very tired parents. Please pray Diego does not have pain tonight. It seems to come on at night. I will be waking every 4 hrs to give him pain meds.

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Michelle wrote:
Diego had no pain at all last night!!! He seems to be adjusting well to his amputation. He did have a melt down when we put his long sleeved jacket on yesterday. He wanted part of his arm to stick out but was nervous about us fixing it. Today though he was fine when we put it on for a walk. I'm glad it is warm enough for short sleeves as that is what he is comfortable in. he constantly reminds me he only has one hand. PaPa had his mandolin on Saturday and the were singing songs. I went to get him a maraca and he said just one Mommy I only have one hand. I said I know baby. He also ask for help when needed with confidence which is nice. He also told me today he only has 5 fingers and when Frank and his were playing and Diego was the villain Frank asked his which villain he was and he said the one armed bandit. He actually makes jokes about it! We have had to help him with so many things already because of the limited function he had that it has not changed our life much. We went to the aquarium today and it was really nice. We also found out from Make-A-Wish that we are going to DisneyWorld and staying at Give Kids the World. The lady said Mickey would write him a letter so he had something to look forward to after treatment. I cried after getting off the phone. I can't wait to take them and completely spoil them for a week. Here is the link: http://www.gktw.org/

We go see Dr. Femino tomorrow and will have our first chemo in about 2 weeks. Once we figure out the exact plan. Diego is going to school tomorrow.

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I feel like I am running around 100 mph but can't seem to get it all done! My brain is not working so well. I have been trying to get our house in tip top order as I know that will go to the wayside the next 6 months and of course focus all my energy on the kids. Leaves little time though for the mind to wander. I am also reading a new book given to both of us by my dear friend called The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. I talked to our oncologist on Tuesday and we will start chemo on Friday April 4th. We could start a week earlier but we want to go to Disneyland after Spring Break and I feel Diego really needs that one week of school before we start chemo again. We will have a five night stay. We saw Dr. Femino today and the pathology confirmed clear margins and that it is all embryonal rhabdomyosarcoma. Thank God. That is good news. Diego was really nervous about seeing him today and is scared about his prosthetic now. He will not be fitted for about a month and then we have to wait for it to be made. Not sure how long that will take but we will know more when we see the prosthesis doctor in 2 weeks. We are working on really explaining this to him better and the Dr. will show him too. Oh and the pre-school director told us that Nick Vujicic will be speaking at her church. He was was born without limbs. Check out his story here: http://www.lifewithoutlimbs.org . What timing! As Mrs. Henderson said- God timing. We are very excited to have this opportunity. Also we were unable to attend the St. Patrick's Day (patron Saint of Ireland) bash at my Grandma's house and they took up a collection along with cards for us. Thank you all so much! We are taking Diego to the Discovery Science Center tomorrow. Last but not least Diego is on the flyer/poster for this year's torch run. Check it out here: http://www.jjccc.com/ . You can find our page under Michelle Fuentes under Search for Fundraising Page on the left hand side. Click on 2008 Torch Run tab too. OK- I hope this all makes sense- I am tired.
Love you all,
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Wow! $500 dollars already raised for the torch run! Awesome! We have been very busy. On Friday we went to the Discovery Science Center in Santa Ana. They have a great Dinosaur exhibit and there was a fantastic bubble show. On Saturday Diego's cousin Javiera and her Mom (Frank's Aunt) Angie flew in. The live in Chile. They left here this morning for Florida. We had a wonderful visit and the kids loved every minute. On Easter we had dinner and our Easter Egg hunt with my parent's at our dear friend's house. It was so yummy and fun. I cannot believe in 9 short days we will check into the hospital. Yesterday we went to Mission San Juan Capistrano and it was beautiful. We ate lunch and checked out the train depot. We will have to go back there again it was very nice. Today we walked to a park and played tennis. Diego still is great, even with 1 arm and played at the park which included picking up trash, rolling down the hill and eating lunch. Diego cannot wait to go back to school next week and DISNEYLAND on Wednesday! We are all very excited to go to the happiest place on earth! So as you can see we have been living life to its fullest.

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Diego, Michelle, and Lilia


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TUESDAY, APRIL 01, 2008 01:19 PM, CDT
Disneyland was incredible! At first Diego was a bit overwhelmed and we made the mistake of going on Snow White as our first ride. He left crying. Pinocchio was a bit better but still scary. Then we went on Mr. Toads Wild Ride and Peter Pan and he loved them. Especially Peter Pan. By 10:30 a.m. we had been on all of those plus, Dumbo, The Circus Train, Storybook Boat, and Alice and Wonderland! Next we headed to Pirate's of the Caribbean which was both of their favorites. I was sure Diego would be scared but not at all. Then we headed to the Jungle Cruise which they both loved. After lunch we headed to Toontown. That was great fun to just run around and play. We also saw Minnie, Pluto, and Goofy. Pluto hugged and patted Diego on the head but we could not get a good picture as everyone was swarming him. Lilia wanted to have no part of getting close to the but waved. We also found out that Diego does not like rollercoaster's but Lilia loves them. Also Lilia wanted to freeze more often than not so she could show off her Minnie Mouse shirt. We then headed to the Buzz Light Year ride which Daddy and Diego loved and then Nemo. After that it was parade time and the waiting for that was pretty painful as Lilia's lack of nap had her a bit delirious. As soon as it started though they we blown away. Next off to dinner, more Lilia breakdowns and I was certain we would have to leave soon. We had to tell to eat or no steamboat ride which we could see and hear from our table. Once we went on the Steamboat Lilia really calmed down and Diego absolutely loved it. Then we were off to Pirate's again and ended the night with the Disneyland Train. Mickey, Pluto and Goofy were on the next car! Mickey kissed us trough the glass! They were being really silly. The kids loved the train ride, especially the dinosaur exhibit which was really impressive. We walked out of the park at 10:30 p.m. Both kids asleep in the stroller. Diego woke up this morning, put on his Buzz Light Year hat from Disneyland and grabbed his Buzz laser shooter and said, "Hi Mommy can we go to Disneyland again?"


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THURSDAY, APRIL 03, 2008 09:27 PM, CDT
Chemo tomorrow! We went for our pre-treatment labs and check up today. Diego did really well. He left and said that was easy. Thank God. I was about to cry as I swiped our yearly parking pass at the entrance. Please pray that Diego does well these next 6 day/5 nights.

We had Diego's sutures removed on Tuesday. We gave him Ativan before the appointment and he did really well! We then saw the prosthesis Dr. He will order a special sock called a shrinker that Diego will wear for 2-3 weeks and then he will be mold casted for his prosthesis. So it will be a couple of months. We see Dr. Femino and his eye Dr in 3 weeks. I will update from the hospital.

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I stumbled across this post tonight for the first time while visiting to see what old friends have been up to in our internet Community that I don't visit nearly as often as I used to. Thanks for creating this thread and for keeping it alive, Adam. Diego and his family are fortunate to count you among their friends. There is something both profoundly sad and inspirational about kids who have to endure the worst of the worst health conditions when they are so small and innocent. It makes no sense to me why children so young and nearly helpless must endure the battles they wage with painful disease and agonizing treatments. Then it inspires me to see how resilient and courageous they are in facing these challenges, and how they never seems to lose the heart to keep fighting the battle even as that battle takes too many of them away from us too soon.

The kicker...is the parents. The children are courageous but it's the parents who have the full intellectual capacity to grasp the gravity of the situation, and realize in the instant of a diagnosis that their lives have changed forever, no matter the long term outcome or prognosis. The parents fully understand with grief in their hearts the long agonizing journey their child is about to undertake, knowing there's nothing they can do to make it go away or to mitigate their suffering. Any they know there is no way their child will ever been able to recoup the precious days of childhood which will be lost to doctors appointments, trips to the hospital, and long waits in the recovery room. Credit has to be given to the parents in these circumstances because while the child uniquely has his own character, he gets his ques from those around him who he values the most. My heart goes out to Diego's and his family and I pray the worst of times will soon be behind them.

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Thanx Ed !!!




Michelle wrote:
FRIDAY, APRIL 04, 2008 09:14 PM, CDT
Diego has had a fantastic day! He was nervous when we arrived but shadow the dog was here playing her piano and performing other special tricks. Talk about timing! Next Diego painted a wind chime and played with some animals in his room. Then at 2 back in the playroom to make a heart shaped box. He covered it in sand with glue and then decorated it with shells. He has not got sick once and has been eating like a champ!

. . .

FRIDAY, APRIL 04, 2008 11:40 PM, CDT
Still doing great. Diego is sleeping. Here is our Disneyland slideshow:
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Pastor Bill asked Diego what his favorite place was and he said, "DISNEYLAND!"

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SATURDAY, APRIL 05, 2008 08:50 PM, CDT
Day 2 is done. 3 to go. Tomorrow he will finish a 48 hour infusion of Doxyrubicin. He still is doing well physically but had a couple of I want to go home crying fits. His appetite was OK today but he also slept more.


If anyone reading this hasn't done so yet, please take the time to leave him a note in his guestbook... It really does make a difference to Diego and his family.

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Just posted a wee message....not using my rc.com name that's for sure ;)


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Thanx bro.



Michelle wrote:
SUNDAY, APRIL 06, 2008 09:32 PM, CDT
Diego is still good health wise. Homesick but left the room for over an hour and had fun in the playroom with Lilia. We were really concerned about Diego getting sick as he would throw up so much with is one night stays. 15 plus times and at the end there would be some blood. This would have been devastating since he already is on the slim side. He is on a constant zofran drip, along with periodic doses of benydrl, reglan, prevacid, and decadron. We are so thankful that he doing so well but he is sad to be here.

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MONDAY, APRIL 07, 2008 07:09 PM, CDT
Diego did much better today! He was being a goofball most of the day. I think being off the other chemo really helped. We all cannot wait to go home. Lilia had a great time visiting this morning.

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TUESDAY, APRIL 08, 2008 08:27 PM, CDT
Another great day! Diego has been really silly. He was scratching his hair today and I said are you itchy and he said I'm tying to look like a Pachycephalosaurus (yes I looked up that spelling). Later I moved him on up on the pillows on the bed and put his DVD player between his legs. He said that I am not comfortable, I look like a snow angel! So as you can see spirits are high. Only concern is a dry cough. Please pray it turns out to be nothing and he stays well. His WBC will be going down which are what give you the ability to fight infection. Hopefully we will be going home tomorrow early afternoon. We can't wait.


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WEDNESDAY, APRIL 09, 2008 09:34 PM, CDT
Little Miracles! Diego did so well. Not throwing up and actually asking for food! He did not need a feeding tube! Amazing. Nothing seemed to work to control his nausea before. Thank God! He has truly protected Diego.

Thank you all for thinking about and praying for us. I am exhausted and far behind with my thank you cards. I cannot wait to get to them. Hopefully tomorrow. Just know I am so thankful for all the support here and through e-mails. Just that means the world to us. Keep praying that we stay fever free and out of the hospital. We go in for blood counts and exam next Thursday.

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THURSDAY, APRIL 10, 2008 03:55 PM, PDT
Diego is still doing great. A few things I left out of our hospital stay. We reached the 3rd floor on Friday. Waiting for the secretary to get off the phone I just started bawling. Nurses hugged me others gave me compassionate looks and the child life and nurtitionalist quickly walked us to our room. putting there arms around me as we walked. It just reminded me that we came back to right place. They truly care for our family. We had a great conversation with our social worker and our favorite nurse told us he was really sorry and cannot imagine what we are going through but to please let him know if he can do anything or if we just want to be left alone. Whatever, he understands. I could go on forever about what a great person this nurse is and how excellent he is at his job. The child life specialist showered Diego with gifts and found all the toys he loves to play with. Then before we left the nurse coordinator who is a cancer survivor herself heard that Dr. Calderwood wanted to send us home with a little catheter in his leg so we did not have to poke him every night for his GCSF and she remembered she had a sample and brought it up for us to use! They really are like a family there. This is why we love our unit and so much more.


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WEDNESDAY, APRIL 16, 2008 10:13 PM, CDT

Sorry it has been so long since we updated. I think we officially avoided a neutropenic fever! His white blood cells are going up. Diego did have a fever these past 3 nights but they were just below 100.5 and went away. We may still need a platelet transfusion. Diego has mouth sores and has to eat soft and cool foods. We are all struggling with being back in the fight but are grateful that we are blessed so far. We plan on going to school tomorrow. Diego wants to go but insists I stay with him. Frank is home on stress leave so that makes that easier. We see the oncologist and Diego will get fitted for his prosthesis tomorrow and then we see his oncologist at 4. On Friday we are going to California Adventure thanks to free tickets from a neighbor. We are so excited!Then the following Friday we are in for round 2. Thanks for continued prayers. We will have scan again after his 3rd round of chemotherapy.
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SUNDAY, APRIL 20, 2008 12:30 PM, CDT

I had to stay with Diego at pre-school. I guess I will for a while. He did have fun though and that is what is important. Diego did OK with the casting on Thursday. He will try on a mold next Thursday when we see Dr Femino and then we should get his prosthesis in a couple of weeks. We then headed toward Long Beach for our oncology appointment having to take an alternate route due to a bomb scare on the 605/5 interchange. We went to California Adventure on Friday and that was really nice. The Aladdin Musical and Electrical Light Parade were great! Diego's hair started falling out today. He said he likes being bald. It is just another reminder. We are headed to friends for dinner and playdate this afternoon and will go to the oncologist for counts and a visit tomorrow. If all is well we go in for round #2 on Friday. We also take Diego for an eye exam and I think a new lens prescription on Wednesday. Good to get these appointments done while counts are good.
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They were at my house last night, and Diego had a blast with my sons, and other friends.


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WEDNESDAY, APRIL 23, 2008 11:14 AM, CDT
We had a great time at our friends Sunday evening and a wonderful week! We went to the park on Monday. I went with Diego to school on Tuesday and he really had a good day. I was sad that he wants me to go with him now but it does put my mind at ease to be there in case anything comes up health wise. We then went to the park and home for naps and baths. Then it was off to family night and book fair at Diego's school. The kids had a great time. We finished of the night with a trip to Island's and of course reading our new books! This morning Diego had an eye appointment and his vision has improved in just 3 months! He will keep the same prescription and go back in 6 months. We saw a different Dr today and he was great. We will see him again next time. In the scheme of things this seems small but it really makes us happy to know that his vision will be corrected! Thanks for the kind comments and verses in our guestbook. This experience is a rollercoaster and the support and encouragement really helps. We go in Friday morning for chemo.
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SUNDAY, APRIL 27, 2008 12:08 PM, CDT

Well Diego is doing well. No vomiting and his spirits are as good as can be for a 4, excuse me 4 and 1/2 year old in the hospital. He has been doing homework or funwork as his teacher calls it. Reading to us with his Bob books. Loving his very cool new dinosaur books from Mrs. Moons and looking at a sea shell his little sunbeam friend Julia found and gave to him at school on Thursday. He should feel better tomorrow when he is done with is 48 hr doxyrubicin infusion. He will most likely get red blood cells today or tomorrow which will give him an added boost. Don't worry we have our running shoes on! I bought Diego four new animals for this trip. A chipmunk, beaver, hedgehog and a wholly mammoth. Now he is asking for a Koi Fish and Liger! Cannot find those so if anyone does send me a link or message as to where you saw them. Then a lipluerodon, deinosuchus (both dinos), a tadpole that changes into a frog and a porpoise! I'll be busy online finding the best deals on those. Goodness! I need to set up a toys for Diego fund! LOL! If all goes well just four more chemo stay to go. Thanks for checking on us and I'm happy to be in an air conditioned room while it is 90 degrees out there.
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Wow, tough kid, congrats to his parents.

Maybe it would be easier to make the toys themselves? Or get into contact with someone who can.

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It's a sad time for my family and Diego's...

We have sold our houses in Long Beach, and the family has left California today... Last night, Karen and the kids visited Diego in the hospital, as Diego and Justice have been best friends since before he was 1 year old.

Diego and Justice will miss each other.

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We came home yesterday at 2ish. Diego is doing great but gets depressed in the hospital. I'm not sure about children other than family visiting. I did see a child's nephew there. I know he would love to have his friends visit so I will ask. We said goodbye to Diego's best buddy since he was about 8 months old last night. He was glad to see him but sad that we can't meet up at the park anymore. Please pray we stay fever free and out of the hospital this next week. Also that he remains cancer free.

Please take the time to leave Diego and his family a note in his guestbook... Michelle reads all of them to Diego, and it makes him feel special to know that so many people all over the world care about him.

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It's a sad time for my family and Diego's...

We have sold our houses in Long Beach, and the family has left California today... Last night, Karen and the kids visited Diego in the hospital, as Diego and Justice have been best friends since before he was 1 year old.

Diego and Justice will miss each other.

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THURSDAY, MAY 01, 2008 11:14 AM, CDT
We came home yesterday at 2ish. Diego is doing great but gets depressed in the hospital. I'm not sure about children other than family visiting. I did see a child's nephew there. I know he would love to have his friends visit so I will ask. We said goodbye to Diego's best buddy since he was about 8 months old last night. He was glad to see him but sad that we can't meet up at the park anymore. Please pray we stay fever free and out of the hospital this next week. Also that he remains cancer free.

Please take the time to leave Diego and his family a note in his guestbook... Michelle reads all of them to Diego, and it makes him feel special to know that so many people all over the world care about him.

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it's sad that you will be leaving such good friends. keep the updates coming adam.


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Michelle wrote:
WEDNESDAY, MAY 07, 2008 01:56 PM, CDT

Diego is doing great. No fever so we get to stay out of the hospital! We plan to go to school tomorrow after his 8:30 Dr appointment. Many of you remember Miles. I wanted to pass on this article which includes his speech for the Leadership in Courage Award from the Sarcoma Foundation. It is such a powerful speech. http://www.freep.com/...505/NEWS03/805050342

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Diego, the Pirate... Arrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



Michelle wrote:
SUNDAY, MAY 11, 2008 04:29 PM, CDT

Happy Mother's Day! Mine has been really nice! We had a wonderful breakfast with my Mom and our friends at their house. My Dad sang a beautiful song he wrote for us.

Diego is doing really well. He went to school on Thursday and a birthday party. We went to the park with his buddy from school on Friday, had dinner at CPK with my parents and then came home and watched a movie Friday night. We flew kites at the beach yesterday and are going to Sea World tomorrow. Diego goes in for chemo number 3 on Friday. He will have scans sometime after that. If he continues to be disease free we will be half way done! Thanks for your continued support. Also don't forget our Torch Run to benefit the cancer center at the hospital. I posted the link in the about me section. Every dollar counts. *

Miles speech for the Leadership in Courage Award from the Sarcoma Foundation. It is such a powerful speech. http://www.freep.com/...505/NEWS03/805050342

* Link to donate for Diego's Children With Cancer Torch Run is HERE
There is a really cool slideshow of Diego in that link.

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Bryan,

Thanx for donating to the Children's Cancer Run!!!

Seriously bro... Thanx! It means a lot to Diego and his family that so many of us care agout him.


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Michelle wrote:
THURSDAY, MAY 15, 2008 08:23 PM, CDT

We go back into the hospital tomorrow. We will also get an MRI of his arm while we are there. Most likely Monday or Tuesday so pray extra hard. We also may get other scans done so we don't have to do them outpatient. I was praying with Diego tonight and at the end of the prayed he added and that we can trust you! Wow, just what Mom needed to hear right now.

Don't forget our Torch Run to benefit the cancer center at the hospital. Less than a month to go! I posted the link in the about me section. Every dollar counts.

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes



Note - Link to make a donation to the children's cancer torch run on behalf of Diego:
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Michelle, Diego's mom wrote:
SUNDAY, MAY 18, 2008 02:22 PM, HST

Diego is taking his nap right now. So far all in uneventful here. I did find out that his little buddies can visit as long as they are well. Diego's new thing is going in the wagon. This require one to pull the wagon and one to push the IV pole. It is tiring and he would do it all day if we let him. It really lifts his spirits and got him out walking when it was just me here. We have also visited the playroom everyday and that has been nice. Lilia loves it in there. We should have his MRI tomorrow or Tuesday. Please pray that Diego is disease free still. Also pray for our friend Ariel who also has her MRI on Thursday http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/ariel_gariano. Thank you to those who have donated to the torch run. We are more than half way to our goal!

Don't forget our Torch Run to benefit the cancer center at the hospital. Less than a month to go! I posted the link in the My Story section. Every dollar counts.
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes

HERE is the link to donate on Diego's behalf in the Children's Cancer Torch Run.


And a BIG thanx to all those who have donated!!!!!! You guys really rule!!!!!!!!


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http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes

HERE is the link to donate on Diego's behalf in the Children's Cancer Torch Run.


And a BIG thanx to all those who have donated!!!!!! You guys really rule!!!!!!!!



Hell yeah. Diego is up to $725.00 so far and his goal is only $1,200.00.

If there is anybody out there that deserves to reach such a modest goal as that, its Diego. Chip in a little if you can, the fact that Diego is well enough to do this charity work is a testiment to the true value of the foudation.


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This is a pic of him last year at the event:


It's the same event I was talking about in my initial post to this thread. Of course, the pic is before we found out that he had a recourance, and he has now lost his arm.

They even used that pic for this year's flyer.


If he is able, he will be there, and he will run his leg of the event, as he does not quit!!!!! That's why he is my hero.



If you cannot afford to make a donation, at least sign his guestbook in the link provided above... Michelle reads all the entries to him, and he is amazed at how many people all over the world care about him. He also likes being my hero. Smile


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Five updates since I've last been online:

Michelle wrote:
WEDNESDAY, MAY 21, 2008 02:40 PM, CDT

Were home! Not sure when we will get MRI results but will post when we do. Diego had a blood transfusion last night from our direct donor from Frank's work. If you would like to donate blood the link is in the link section. Diego has O but all types are needed. You can direct donate for Diego and if you are a match they hold the blood for him. Keep praying for good results. Diego is so happy to be finally home again. Also please pray for our friend Ariel who also has her MRI on Thursday http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/ariel_gariano.

Thank you to those who have donated to the torch run. We are more than half way to our goal!
Don't forget our Torch Run to benefit the cancer center at the hospital. Less than a month to go! I posted the link in the My Story section. Every dollar counts.




THURSDAY, MAY 22, 2008 08:28 PM, CDT

MRI results are inconclusive.We have a tiny little mass, 8mm.We knew this. We still do not know what it is. I think the Dr wanted to be sure that it was not growing behind where we feel it. He wants to watch it via ultrasound every 2 weeks. So just pray that what ever it may be that his body heals itself of it and it disappears! I am feeling good knowing that it is very small. Diego does not mind ultrasounds either. Diego also told us that he does not cancer anymore. Also while we were in the hospital his 7 year old buddy who had rhabdo also in the right forearm and was diagnosed just about 6 weeks after Diego visited with his Mom and twin brother and sister who are 4. Diego had so much fun! The nurses were so surprised at how silly he is.




FRIDAY, MAY 23, 2008 02:35 PM, CDT

Wanted to clarify that this tiny mass or scar tissue as I would rather call it has been there since they biopsied Diego's lymph nodes and it is just under the scar line. His lymph nodes were negative for cancer.





SUNDAY, MAY 25, 2008 11:06 AM, CDT

It is wonderful to be home! Diego is doing well. If all goes well we only have 3 more inpatient treatments to go! We go back in Friday the 6th for our 4th treatment and July 18th if counts stay up would be our last chemo. We are looking forward to the torch run and everyone is invited who wishes to attend. It takes place right behind The Aquarium of the Pacific on June the 14th. You may want to bring a beach chair. We will set up next to Diego's starting point. Email me if you would like more information. MichelleFuentes1(at)hotmail(dot)com

Diego is asking to go to the Zoo so we plan to go when his counts go up.





MONDAY, MAY 26, 2008 07:29 PM, CDT

I used to have a social life! People invited me to parties and BBQ's. I guess once you can't go so many times because the parties land on the wrong weekends they stop asking. I was thinking of life before cancer today and since I missed it I decided to make buffalo chicken breast strips with homemade blue cheese dressing and Frank is making blue cheese burgers and I'm adding sweet potato fries. Another weekend of low counts. We actually only have one good weekend every 3 weeks. Normally if we were not invited anywhere I invite people over but entertaining and my new life don't work as well. I used to love doing parties at my house. Today we are thrilled to not be in the hospital and that Diego is alive. We are blessed by friends and family who have stuck by us and been our crutch when we are weak. Life changes and I cannot wait for the day when I am hosting and a bit more carefree. For now I'll take good food and our family under one roof.

Thank you to everyone who has donated to our torch run! We are almost at goal! We posted posters and flyers at Frank's work last Thursday too. Remember those who donated it is tax deductible!


Hope you all had a relaxing weekend.

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes


We've reached the goal for donations, but we can always go over the top, as it really goes to help all the kids with cancer!!!

Here's a link to donate for the Torch Run:
http://event.lbmmcf.org/...cid=197&frsid=19

And thanx to all from this site who have donated.


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A new pic of Diego... Arrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Michelle wrote:
WEDNESDAY, MAY 28, 2008 08:06 PM, CDT

So the pirate obsession continues! No FEVER!! Counts should be up by now. We check them tomorrow and go to school. We are officially half way done! This was sent to me by a fellow Rhabo Mom: "For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all." 1 Corinthians

That about sums it up!


And hurray!!! We are over the top in our donation goal for Diego's upcoming Torch Run to benifit children with cancer:


But we can always go even higher above the goal and help Diego to make a bigger contribution, as every little bit counts:
http://event.lbmmcf.org/...cid=197&frsid=19
(Note - It is tax deductable.)



And you can always leave him a message in his guestbook:
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FRIDAY, MAY 30, 2008 09:04 PM, CDT
First of all I think Diego thinks he is Jack Sparrow! His WBC was up to 7800 yesterday! The highest yet! We are getting ready for the warm weather by cleaning up the back yard and setting up pools for the weekend. The oncologist said he sees no reason for scans besides the ultrasounds until the end of treatment. He thinks it is a lymph node that was irritated by the biopsy. We go back in for chemo 4 of 6 next Friday. Until then it's all about fun! Diego kept saying my counts are up. I even heard him singing it while running around the backyard today.


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Three updates:

Michelle wrote:
TUESDAY, JUNE 03, 2008 06:44 PM, CDT

We had a great weekend! Made up for last one for sure. Pools were up and BBQ in full swing! Makes you forget about the reality of our life for a week! Thank God his cousin made it as he does horrible with disappointment and it really breaks my heart to see him disappointed as he already deals with so much. Diego had a great day at the school and park today and tomorrow we are off to the zoo. Diego's last day of school until September will be Thursday. We go back in the hospital Friday and I hate it! I know how much he will want to be with his friends. I guess the best I can do is bring them to him. It was amazing to see how much a visit from his friends brightened him up the last stay. He went from not wanting to get out of bed to being so silly that he managed to become unhooked from his IV line! We have one visit lined up and I'm working on two more.




WEDNESDAY, JUNE 04, 2008 02:42 PM, CDT

So we did not make it to the zoo today and I guess yesterday's post was premature. Diego had a 102 fever last night at 3 am. Because his counts are good, we were able to give him a fever reducer. So now we are watching and waiting. I called our Dr and he believes it is a virus. We hope the fever does not return so he can attend his last day of school. We see our Dr tomorrow afternoon. Diego got over missing the zoo better than I thought he would.





WEDNESDAY, JUNE 04, 2008 11:16 PM, CDT

Diego has a 103.5 fever and is headed to the hospital. Will update tomorrow.

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And hurray!!! We are over the top in our donation goal for Diego's upcoming Torch Run to benifit children with cancer:



Nice.

I bet Diego is stoked. Is it looking like his is going take part this year? I know for awhile it was uncertain.


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Hopefully!!! It's next Saturday, the 14th, and he went to the hospital last night (as per the last update), so hopefully it's just a virus that will pass.

So much has happened since the torch run last year.. That's where the pic of him carrying the torch in my original post (and higher up on this page) came from, where we all had to pick up step to keep up with him.


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2 not so good updates...

Michelle wrote:
THURSDAY, JUNE 05, 2008 04:30 PM, CDT

Well last night was fun! NOT! We arrived at the emergency room and with the bald head and surgical mask and were rushed right in. We then spent 11-5:40 in the emergency room. The Tylenol kicked in and he was dancing and clowning around with all the nurses and staff. We finally fell asleep around 4:30 and were woke up 5:30. We arrived at our room and were left alone at 6. Diego slept until 10 and spiked another 102.5 fever at 11am. We did a chest x-ray and consulted with infectious disease. She said she did not expect anything. His ANC is 10,000 so we are trying to figure out what is going on. Hopefully not a central line infection or anything serious. He is on 3 antibiotics, an antifungal, and antiviral. Hopefully the antibiotics will kick in and the fever will be gone. I hope we know more tomorrow. It takes 3 days to rule out most central line infections. Thank's for all the prayers and words of encouragement. I did have a small breakdown this morning thinking of how Diego would miss his last day of school and all the things Cancer has taken. I was really tired mind you but I think I needed a good cry. I am filled with much more peace now.





FRIDAY, JUNE 06, 2008 12:03 PM, CDT

Not exactly sure what Diego has yet but the Dr's believe we will know soon and that he will be fine in a week! The Chest CT and X-ray show that he does have a small amount of fluid in his left lower lobe. We will go down there with a tube and put in some saline and draw it out so we can treat it with the appropriate medication. We caught it quickly so he should be fine in 5-7 days. It could be bacterial or viral pneumonia or a fungus. Since it is in the early stages and Diego's immune system is acting like that of a normal child right now this will just be a minor set back and the Dr believes we will be at the torch run on Saturday! Then we will come back and do our 5 day chemo. Diego's ANC was actually 22,000 yesterday! So his body is fighting. Today it is 12,000 so possibly the antibiotics are killing a bacteria. Will update when I know more. Thanks for the thoughts, prayers and kind words.

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes


We are still hoping that Diego will be well enough to run his leg in the Children's Cancer Run next Saturday the 14th... It means so much to him.

Some of you here at this site have donated for his leg in the Event, and I and the Fuentes family thank you... They have gone over their goal, and that's good for all the kids.


If you haven't already done so, please, take the time to write him a small message in his guestbook. Michelle reads them to him, and it really makes him feel good to know that so many people all over the world care about him. You can do that at the above linked page.


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SUNDAY, JUNE 08, 2008 07:37 PM, CDT

Sorry guys. Meant to update yesterday but Diego is keeping us on our toes! They decided to do a chest x-ray Monday before doing the bronchoscopy So pray that it has all cleared up and we will not need one! He would have to be sedated and I'm not sure what it could be if all of the antibiotics, breathing treatments and antifungal are not doing the job. He sounds clear but he sounded clear when we arrived. His fever spikes are gone, only one low grade fever today which could of been a result of a medicine he is on. He really has kept his spirits up but wants a constant playmate and stays up really late as he is not being knocked out with benydrl like when he is on chemo. I will update tomorrow after his chest x-ray results.




MONDAY, JUNE 09, 2008 08:00 PM, CDT

Good News, bad news...

So the good news is the chest x-ray shows over 50% improvement. The bad news is he has spiked two 103 fevers in the past 12 hrs since I took him off the tylenol and motrin. So we will do a bronchoscopy tomorrow. He will be sedated. We will not have immediate results from that. Hopefully by Friday we will know exactly what is going on or his fevers will cease. Not sure now if we will be at the torch run. Diego seems fine otherwise. He is getting a blood transfusion tonight. I hope I can get some sleep. Please pray it goes well tomorrow and that his fevers go away.

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TUESDAY, JUNE 10, 2008 01:53 PM, CDT

Diego is back in his room. The procedure went well and he woke up great. He also has not had a fever since a low grade one at 10pm last night. They said there was not much in his lung and we may know it is bacteria, virus or fungal tomorrow. While Diego was in the operating room I went to the gift store and they usually have pretty basic stuffed animals but this time they had one muircat! So exciting. He loves it. I actually did get some sleep last night and Frank will sleep here tonight so I can get some rest. So keep up those prayers for no fever and that we can attend the torch run on Saturday. This verse from a fellow cancer Mom really got me through:

Philippians 4:6-7 (New International Version

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Thank you Shannah.



WEDNESDAY, JUNE 11, 2008 09:58 AM, CDT

NO fever since Sunday ! Thank God! The preliminary results are it is most likely a virus. Looks like we will be at the TORCH RUN!!! Not sure when we will be released. Thanks for all the support and prayers. I will update when I know more.



WEDNESDAY, JUNE 11, 2008 06:16 PM, CDT

Diego is now unhooked from the IV poll and all medication will be oral! Looks like we are going home tomorrow! What a turn around! As if the news could not get any better we called Make-A-Wish about our DisneyWorld vacation and they said if we can go October 3-10th we will be on a private flight with 25 other Make-A-Wish families non-stop from Los Angeles to Florida. There will be a big party thrown by them when we arrive. Crying tears of joy as I type this. God Speed. Only one family from our chapter will attend! Amazing, magical and we are so excited!
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes


Karen and the kids will be excited too, as when they fly out to Florida, I will take off work out here in North Carolina and we'll drive down to see them. And, it looks like he may still run his leg in the Torch Run. Cool


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See... This guy just doesn't quit!!!

Michelle wrote:
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We are home! We will be at the torch run! It starts at 10:00 am for those interested. Still excited about our Make-A-Wish trip. Tired but happy. We go back in Tuesday for our 5 night chemo stay. Pray Diego stays strong and healthy through these last 3 rounds of chemo.
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This little guy was in the hospital with a high fever, getting IV antibiotics just this week, yet he will still run his leg of the Torch Run for Children With Cancer in the LBC tomorrow!


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MONDAY, JUNE 16, 2008 08:51 PM, CDT

Thank you to everyone who supported us in this years torch run. The torch run was great. Diego was a bit overwhelmed as more people noticed him this year. His picture from last year is quite popular and was on the poster for the event and in many slide shows and in the Grunion Gazette last Friday. He had fun hanging out with everyone. On Sunday we had Father's day dinner here. My sister is here from New York and Frank's Mom from Chile. It was nice. Sorry I did not update sooner but we had a lot to do for the torch run and Father's Day. Not to mention just getting over the 8 day hospital stay. We have been home 4 days but go back in tomorrow! I will try to put up a slide show soon. I still need to unpack from last week and pack for this week!

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes


Diego ran his leg in the Torch Run! He was jazzed!

This after spending a week in the hospital due to a high fever and infection, as outlined in previous updates. He's back in the hospital for 4 more days for a planned round of chemo.


This kid really sucks it up... Which is just another example of why he is my hero!

Karen, the kids, and I wish we could have been there this year, but we now live on the East Coast.

We are looking forward to when the Make-A-Wish Foundation flies him and his family out to Florida in October for a weekend at Disney World, as we will travel down to see them... Diego and Justice miss each other and talk about each other often. Smile


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Ahhh, one plus one equals 3, I now know what you were talking about in the other thread in the soapbox forum Adam.

I purposely avoided clicking on this thread for some reason. Had time to review it today for first time. Kudos to you bro and I hope the long term prognosis for the little fella is excellent. Keep up the good work mate of cheering kids up.


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FRIDAY, JUNE 20, 2008 08:53 PM, CDT

Sorry I did not update earlier. Diego is doing well. Misses home but doing good. Looks like the Torch Run slide show may take a few more days. Too hard to work on it here. Diego still has a little bit of congestion in his chest so we will go home with albuterol. Pray he stays healthy through these last rounds of chemo and continued healing. On a really exciting note that little bump we were worried about has disappeared! Maybe the antibiotics? Very exciting.




MONDAY, JUNE 23, 2008 08:32 PM, HST

We arrived home yesterday at 10:30 am! We had a nice day. Unfortunately Lilia spiked a 102 fever today after vomiting. She was laying on the ground covering herself up with her blankie saying I don't want to be a princess anymore and I don't understand. Funny but scary. After that no more vomiting and she ate fine but still feverish when the fever reducer wears off. I am taking her into the pediatrician tomorrow and praying Diego does not catch whatever it is. I don't think we can stand any more time at the hospital. It has been a challenging couple of weeks and now I'm worried about Lilia and hoping it is an ear infection as that would not be contagious. I did enjoy cuddling with her extra today as she usually is not as cuddly. We really want to attend the Long Beach Pirate invasion this weekend at the pier mate. Being in the hospital with all of the adorable children and families who are also struggling through made me even more grateful for the support for the torch run. The service they provide to families in all stages of this horror is really a bright light. They took a group of teens to Disneyland last week. I know it was such a lift for our buddy Jeffrey when he attended last year. I also wanted to share the youtube videos for those of you not reading Julian's carepage. Diego is in the 2nd video. Please do not turn a blind eye to the reality of childhood cancer. As disturbing as it is to you it is 100 times worse to be in the battle. People need to be aware and support funds specific for childhood cancer as much of the funding goes elsewhere. The videos are called Cancer's Hell:
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STILL FIGHTING GIRLS & BOYS
STILL FIGHTING & ANGELS

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TUESDAY, JUNE 24, 2008 01:27 PM, CDT

Lilia is fever free but may have hand, foot and mouth! There are two sores on the back of her throat but no where else. She will no longer be contagious tomorrow night. Not sure where she picked it up other than the hospital. Really hoping Diego does not get this. He had it about a year ago.




TUESDAY, JUNE 24, 2008 11:19 PM, CDT

Well no fevers but Diego had some green mucus. Sorry to gross you out. I called the oncologist and he called in an antibiotic. So Diego took 7 different meds today! Bactrim he takes every M-W as an anti pneumonia and diflucan everyday to quell fungus, plus his wonderful GCSF shot which is very painful to bring white blood counts up, solutab for heartburn caused by one of the chemos, acyclovar to prevent a mirage of mouth sores caused by herpes symplex 1, augmentin for green stuff and cold and cough medicine. Nurse Mommy can say his chest sounds clear and energy level is up. Eating very well too. Weighed 16.3 kg in the hospital if you can do the math! Our goal is to get to the Pirate Invasion Mates! Pray for health. Slide show of the torch run is coming. Hoping to get actual picture of him running from the photographer.

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MONDAY, JUNE 30, 2008 12:58 PM, CDT

Sorry for the delay in updates but I have been busy here. It seems to never end. Lilia vomited everyday once or twice a day until Friday. Diego has clear mucus now but his cough sounds pretty bad. He will see the Dr on Wednesday and gets blood work today. Hoping it will go away soon. It is not inerupting his sleep so that is good. I am really behind on emails but should catch up soon. Busy working on projects around here. We made it to the Pirate invasion but at 1:30 they still had not invaded the pier! Diego was very disappointed as were many other kids. He quickly got over it though when he got to go play in the sand. Frank is going to try and get the torch run pics from the photographer today at the hospital so I can make the slideshow.

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SUNDAY, JULY 06, 2008 09:57 PM, PDT

Hope everyone had a great 4th of July weekend. The kids actually saw fireworks for the first time! We did try to see them at Disney but they cancelled the show due to wind. They both were just amazed! It was so cool to watch them. The rest of the week was nice as well. Frank's Mom is still in town from Chile. We played tennis at the park. The kids love watching Wimbledon too. Diego is getting better all the time. We then played at the park. Daddy and Diego saw Kung Fu Panda on Thursday and loved it and went to lunch at Island's just the boys! We met Diego's buddy from school at the park on Thursday afternoon and at the fireworks show at the park on Friday night. Diego's teacher also made Diego the most precious picture book ever. My parents want to buy a copy and are taking it to Bible Study to share. Also my niece Michelle stayed with us this weekend. The kids love her. We went to the park again today and are gearing up for our 5th of 6 chemos tomorrow. Hopefully we will have a few visitors while there and Diego's spirits will be high. Diego will also get another chest x-ray to check on his pneumonia. I hope we will finally get the torch pictures. They do not have them at the cancer center yet but the photographer works in Miller's West so we will visit him this week. Oh and FINALLY....parts from Germany arrived and Diego's robot arm is ready! We will try it on Monday the 14th! I hope he likes it. He is doing so well without it. We also then should start physical therapy to help him use it.

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WEDNESDAY, JULY 09, 2008 04:38 PM, HST

Diego has been doing well so far. He has had fun playing games in the playroom and watching movies. There was a dwarf horse, the smallest in the world named Thumbelina that visited yesterday and today was Pandie-monium over the resident therapy dog. Diego's buddy from school also came with french fries! Yummy! 2 nights down- 3 to go.
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THURSDAY, JULY 10, 2008 10:16 PM, CDT
Diego still has a partial lung collapse. The pulmonary Dr wants to do another bronchoscope. I asked him to hold off until we come back in three weeks. Diego will be on breathing treatments at home. Please pray it clears up and we do not have to do another procedure. Diego is still doing great and Lilia loves being at the hospital with us. Today she chose a ballerina princess costume to wear and take home and had a ball with glue. She needed a bath after that! Diego loves playing board games and this mini air hockey game they have. There are so many new kids here lately and it is sad seeing little girls hair fall out and hearing the scared screams. Please pray for all the kids.
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FRIDAY, JULY 11, 2008 12:45 PM, PDT

So I must admit I have been a little worried and depressed. I keep telling myself in my heart I know he will be fine but it is hard not to worry. God has told me Diego will be fine but Satan is still trying to hit us with doubt. I talked to the pulmonary Dr and the oncologist. They both reassured me that it will be resolved and it is not urgent. I was thinking of how much better I feel and a hummingbird came right up to the window! God is good and we will be home tomorrow!
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MONDAY, JULY 14, 2008 09:38 PM, CDT

Diego did not get his robot arm today. His arm has grown so it will need to be adjusted. Diego asked if the arm could be camouflage instead of skin color! The Dr said yes. He was very comfortable with it and now is excited to have it. We will be seeing Diego's surgeon tomorrow as this past month his bone seems to be growing quickly which may require a minor surgery. I hope not but it was something we were told could happen. Also Diego has not been very well tummy wise. He got sick before we left the hospital, twice yesterday and once today.
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TUESDAY, JULY 15, 2008 07:04 PM, CDT

Diego seems to be on the mend. Long Day today with the x-ray and seeing Dr. Femino. He will need a minor 1 hr surgery to remove part of his bone. He has stump overgrowth. This will happen on August 27th and may or may not be outpatient. We are planning for an overnight at least. Diego will not get his robot arm until after that date! He will most likely need to be recasted and then just the top part will be redone. We hopefully will get our last drop of chemo ever in 16 days! Unbelievable. Seems like just yesterday we were at City of Hope removing his arm.




FRIDAY, JULY 18, 2008 09:32 AM, CDT

This has been a rough week. Diego was sick so I put him back on zofran around the clock. Last night his mouth sore woke him every hour in pain. Then he slept from 5-8 a.m. Poor guy. I really hope this sore goes away quick. His white blood cells should be on their way up. We did go for a walk yesterday morning and Diego wanted lemonade in our fancy plastic glasses(wine glasses) with a wedge of lemon on the rim. I added little umbrellas I had bought for him about a year ago. It was cute. Trying to keep my eyes on August and the end of this part of our journey.




SUNDAY, JULY 20, 2008 10:10 PM, PDT

Diego's mouth sores are not waking him up but are making eating uncomfortable. he threw up again this morning. His platelets are also obviously low and with him taking naps again I think his red blood cells may also be low. Hopefully on the way up. We go in for blood work and to see Dr. Calderwood on Wednesday and plan to check in on Sunday for our last chemo. Frank and I celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary last night. It was really nice to get out. We are very blessed to have each other. He really is my best friend and so much more. Today Frank, Diego and my niece Michelle saw Wall-E. Lilia and I enjoyed frozen yogurt and a walked around a small local shopping area that has fountains and bridges over the man made pond. It was nice to spend time together. Especially on the grass as it took Lilia about 40 minutes to eat her yogurt in my lap while basking in the sun with the cool ocean breeze talking about whatever came to her mind. Tomorrow we plan to go to the park. I hope his belly issues clear up soon.




MONDAY, JULY 21, 2008 02:58 PM, PDT
Forget to tell you about our dinner after the movie! We went to The Crab Pot on the marina where we ALL had calamari, shrimp, fish and crab! Oh and the dessert is this yummy yellow cake filled with rhubarb and strawberries baked fresh and served hot with French vanilla ice cream! It was so yummy. We watched the sunset seaside from our table and then walked along the marina until it was dark. It was a much deserved wonderful day! Diego begged us for a seafood dinner. Today we headed to the park and tomorrow we are going to see the Pirates Who Don't do Anything (a veggie tales movie) at the free family film festival! Also the photographer at the torch run said he again got a great shot of Diego. Hopefully next week we can get a copy and I will post it along with others in a slide show. One more thing. Diego's prayer quilt of love is on it's way and I am so excited! I will post a pictures as soon as we get it! Can't wait to see the look on Diego's eyes. Diego still is not 100% but his energy level is much better.

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TUESDAY, JULY 22, 2008 10:07 PM, HST

Diego's prayer quilt is here! Here is what was on the enclosed note: Patchwork Prayers is a simple idea with powerful results. The warmth of the quilts comes from prayers tied into each knot on the quilt. As Bridget made Diego's quilt for him, she tied each knot and said a prayer. When Diego has visitors, they can tie a knot and say a prayer, he will be wrapped in love and prayers. We hope Diego's quilt will bring him love, hope, warmth and comfort. Diego opened it and loved it! It is covered with bright colors and dinosaurs! Great quilting too. Tonight we talked about Diego's last chemo and praying that his cancer would never return. He said yes but we need my quilt and we need to tie a knot. Thank you Bridget and Marta and everyone at Patchwork Prayers.
We had another great day today watching the Veggie Tales movie and going out to lunch thanks to Grandma and just being kids playing throughout the house. Tomorrow we are off to the park and then to clinic.
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I took a photo of Diego praying with his blanket but the setting I used made the photo too big for the site so I will attempt again tomorrow.


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"Diego asked if the arm could be camouflage instead of skin color!"

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Thats awesome! When I was a kid I broke the hell out of my left arm and they gave me the option of several different colors for the cast, including camouflage. I got camo for the full arm cast and when they switched to the one that just covered the forarm, I changed to glow in the dark. Having those cool ass casts made me almost happy I broke my arm (that lasted untill I found out I couldnt get in the poolFrown). I hope Diego is just as excited about his new arm.


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THURSDAY, JULY 24, 2008 10:08 AM, CDT

Diego's counts are great but he did lose 2 lbs. The Dr did a couple of blood tests to make sure he is not malnourished. With the green and red powders and supplements he gets I don't think he is but I'm glad we are checking. He also prescribed an appetite stimulant to see if that helps. We also have to bring in a poop sample as he has had on and off loose stools. As soon as he goes today we have to drop it off. Diego said yuck! I hope they use gloves! So if all is well we will go in on Sunday for chemo and get our chest x-ray and maybe a couple of our other end of treatment scans.

We are tying our knots every night. Diego loves sleeping under his quilt!




SUNDAY, JULY 27, 2008 10:03 AM, CDT

Diego is eating a lot now and even though we are broke we took him to two restaurants as he had big cravings! We had a great week at the park at home. It is amazing the difference a week makes. We are supposed to be in the hospital today but there was a mix up so we will go in tomorrow instead. So today we will again go to Liberty Park enjoy there awesome playground, cool sprinkler water park and have a picnic lunch. Tomorrow we will be off to the hospital.

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And thanx a lot for signing his guestbook Chad! It really means a lot to them to know that so many people from all over care about him, and Michelle reads all the messages to Diego.


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"Diego asked if the arm could be camouflage instead of skin color!"

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Thats awesome! When I was a kid I broke the hell out of my left arm and they gave me the option of several different colors for the cast, including camouflage. I got camo for the full arm cast and when they switched to the one that just covered the forarm, I changed to glow in the dark. Having those cool ass casts made me almost happy I broke my arm (that lasted untill I found out I couldnt get in the poolFrown). I hope Diego is just as excited about his new arm.


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TUESDAY, JULY 29, 2008 10:28 PM, HST

Rocking and a rolling here at the hospital! Hope you all enjoyed the earthquake. Lilia and Diego were watching a movie and did not even realize there was an earthquake! The earthquake just added to an already anxious week. We come in on Monday and Diego has a 101 fever! His blood work reveals he needs a transfusion. He has been fine since. Our oncologist informs us his last day is Friday! Our CT reveals no change in his lungs and pulmonary wants to go back in! We are not going to do that and the oncologist agrees. Then we have an earthquake- pretty nice size one that seems to roll forever. Tomorrow we have a bone scan hope that comes back good so I can exhale. It is a really stressful time coming to the end of treatment but losing our wonderful oncologist is really hard. I remember the first day I met Dr. Calderwood. He asked me how Diego was doing and then he asked me how I was doing. None of the other doctors asked me that and I cryed a bit and said well I had not thought about that until you asked. He said just know this is the hardest thing you will ever go through. He never sugar coated anything but made me feel comfortable with the truth, even when he told me Diego would most likely loose his arm I could deal with it. He just always knew what was going on with Diego without looking at any notes. He always was so compassionate and would always answer my questions with such knowledge. He has to move on but we will never forget all he has done for us.


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THURSDAY, JULY 31, 2008 11:42 AM, CDT
Yesterday we did not have the bone scan. We will have it today at 2. We did get some concering news though. There is an area in his bone near his shoulder where he has something going on. The oncologist says it looks like a cyst rather than a tumor but we cannot rule that out without a biopsy. We are having a hard time right now, especially me. I'm hoping we will see Dr. Femino the surgeon in Tuesday but we most likely will not be able to biopsy it until the following week when his counts come up. Hopefully we will have his other surgery done that day as well. I'm thinking I may need to start an anti-anxiety med finally. I had a rough night. Please pray for our family. Some good news. Diego's weight has went back up to 16.1 kg! That is about 35 and a half pounds. He looks great and is doing well.


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THURSDAY, JULY 31, 2008 04:10 PM, CDT

Well some hopeful news. It did not light up on the bone scan. The radiologist who used to be an oncologist compared it to the last one and said there is no change. Prayers are working! Thanks for all your kind words. I'll post more tomorrow.




FRIDAY, AUGUST 01, 2008 05:03 PM, CDT

The bone scan came back completely clean which actually is a first for us! It is pretty sensitive so random things pop up on it. Also we found out the CT reports the spot on the shoulder is only 8mm. So that is much more promising. We will meet with Dr. Femino on Thursday morning and see if he want to biopsy it or watch it. The oncologist was very optimistic. It was still very hard to say goodbye.




SUNDAY, AUGUST 03, 2008 09:46 PM, CDT

Child Life had a great last chemo party for Diego complete with an awesome pirate sign, ipod, microscope (his favorite), and many other awesome gifts. He really loved it all and cannot wait to go back but just as a visit. The thought and love they put into it is amazing. We have had a wonderful 2 days home. Diego wanted another crab feast so I went to a wonderful market that carries Chinese food in the Artesia. I bought live Dungeness Crabs at $6.99 a lb and live clams at $2.99 a lb. We also had Trader Joes's Calamari and fresh baked sourdough loaf with whole grain rice pilaf and my cesar salad. My niece was here too and we all loved it! Tonight we had more of the rice, bread, salad and yellowtail that I bought on sale at the market for $2.99 a lb! Diego is eating very well and feeling great! He has had a great time playing and talking up a storm. He is so adorable and loves having dinner conversation. He explained that Lilia has been crying more and not listening because she really loves him and it is hard for her when he is at the hospital. We said but it is not your fault and he said oh no it is cancer's fault. Another conversation was about how he should talk to Lilia about potty training and school and how he has a pooping book that he would like to share with her! How old is my son? I could go on. He makes us smile on the inside too. Frank and I are doing really well but are feeling overwhelmed about our oncologist leaving but know in the end we will make the right decisions. We really feel in our hearts that Diego has been healed.
"Don't be afraid, I am with you. Do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. I will help. I will uphold with my victorious right hand." Isaiah 41:10
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THURSDAY, AUGUST 07, 2008 03:49 PM, CDT

We had our appointment today with both the surgeon and the sarcoma specialist at City of Hope. Dr. Femino agrees that it looks like a bone cyst but said that since he is already doing surgery on August 20th he would do a core needle biopsy at that time. The surgery will be in 20 days. So we are staying positive and plan to have tons of fun these next 20 days! We also had another scare this week. For 24hrs we thought my Dad had melanoma! The dermatologist from Kaiser read the result on the computer but the pathologist called the next day and it is actually just a-typical cells! PHEW! That is pre-cancer and he will have more tissue removed but thank God it is not melanoma!





FRIDAY, AUGUST 08, 2008 02:37 PM, CDT
OOPS!

Actually surgery is the 27th. Also left out that they will be taking a piece of his bone after cutting it and fusing it to the end. He will have metal pins in it for 3-4 weeks. This will hopefully prevent a future overgrowth and surgery.
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Every time I see this thread hop to the top, I get excited to read about any updates. It's hope; it's inspiration; and my well-wishes are for Diego and his family.


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"Diego asked if the arm could be camouflage instead of skin color!"

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Thats awesome! When I was a kid I broke the hell out of my left arm and they gave me the option of several different colors for the cast, including camouflage. I got camo for the full arm cast and when they switched to the one that just covered the forarm, I changed to glow in the dark. Having those cool ass casts made me almost happy I broke my arm (that lasted untill I found out I couldnt get in the poolFrown). I hope Diego is just as excited about his new arm.


I had a barbie arm for a while. It was a dark period in my life.


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Every time I see this thread hop to the top, I get excited to read about any updates. It's hope; it's inspiration; and my well-wishes are for Diego and his family.


A shared sentiment.


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SUNDAY, AUGUST 17, 2008 08:48 PM, HST
Hi everyone! Sorry I have not updated lately. We have been having fun doing normal kid stuff. We have been going to the park, playing in the pools, eating frozen yogurt, going to free family movies days and having play dates. We also went to the Cerritos Library which is beautiful and has a great kids library with a real 40 ft T-Rex skeleton and huge tropical fish tank! Lilia will be 3 tomorrow. I can hardly believe it. We have a full week and two days until Diego's surgery and although it weighs on our minds we are doing well. We have 2 full days of pre-op stuff at City of Hope on Thursday and next Tuesday. Thank for your continued support and prayers.



MONDAY, AUGUST 18, 2008 10:34 PM, CDT
FINALLY! The Torch Run Slideshow! http:////www.rockyou.com/show_my_gallery.php?source=ppsl&instanceid=120624918



SUNDAY, AUGUST 24, 2008 06:59 PM, PDT
We are only a few days away from Diego's surgery and biopsy. I would be lying if I said we are not worried. It is very scary to think that we could get such horrible news. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers. Right now it feels like we are on a roller coaster that has stopped with us at the top of the hill suspended.
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MONDAY, AUGUST 25, 2008 06:19 PM, PDT
We are doing much better today. The power of prayer and the Bible! So keep up the prayers and the messages. They have really helped us as well. Sometimes it takes times like these to really feel the power of God. I know I do not have an off and on switch and it and I feel him here.



TUESDAY, AUGUST 26, 2008 08:16 PM, CDT
We had a rough day today. Very exhausting. Not sure when I will have computer access tomorrow to write an update but I will as soon as I can. We need to be there at 6:30 am to do the CT that should of been done today thanks to our insurance company. Thanks again everyone our surgery should be about 10 am. God is good.
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WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 27, 2008 05:50 PM, CDT

Well not the news I wanted to report. Actually much worse. Diego has progressive disease in his lungs. Mostly in his left but a little in his right as well. There is nothing in his shoulder though and he is doing very well after his surgery. We are doing OK. The oncologist said she is not giving up because she has seen kids survive. We are taking it one day at a time. We expect to resume chemo in about a week.
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WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 27, 2008 05:50 PM, CDT

Well not the news I wanted to report. Actually much worse. Diego has progressive disease in his lungs. Mostly in his left but a little in his right as well. There is nothing in his shoulder though and he is doing very well after his surgery. We are doing OK. The oncologist said she is not giving up because she has seen kids survive. We are taking it one day at a time. We expect to resume chemo in about a week.
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Sorry to hear that Adam, thats rough news. Diego's a warrior though, I'm sure he'll fight as hard as ever.


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THURSDAY, AUGUST 28, 2008 09:03 AM, PDT

For those who asked progressive disease means the cancer is in his lungs.


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THURSDAY, AUGUST 28, 2008 07:47 PM, CDT

We are home. Diego is doing well. We have a big planning appointment on Tuesday and will most likely start chemo shortly after. I had a good 2nd half of day today. Frank is doing OK. Thanks to everyone for adding us to prayer chains, sending us e-mails, etc..

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FRIDAY, AUGUST 29, 2008 07:48 PM, CDT

So this morning Diego begged us to go to the zoo! Poor kid has been asking since we missed going when he was hospitalized for what we believed was pneumonia. So we went. It was miserable! Hot, humid- we have been sheltered in the hospital and obviously did not watch or read the weather report. The kids did not mind one bit though. We bought a year membership as going twice cost more than that. That made it easier for us not to feel bad about not seeing the whole zoo. They did not mind either and slept the ride home. Diego knows his cancer is back and is doing fine. He does not know what it means that it is back again. I guess we don't really know either. It is in God's hands. We can't imagine life without Diego and his sparkling personality, sense of humor, big heart and compassionate soul.

But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.

Matthews 19:26

Thank you Andi.




SUNDAY, AUGUST 31, 2008 08:51 AM, CDT
Please pray that the powers that be can get our HMO to approve us receiving treatment at City of Hope. We received a letter yesterday stating we are not approved. At this point we believe we need to be at a sarcoma center. We also for reasons which I will not disclose online do not wish to go back to the only choice left at our hospital for inpatient treatment. As much as we love our nurses, child life, social workers and other staff at Long Beach Memorial, our oncologist no longer works there and the oncologist we are seeing is only in the hospital for rounds on Fridays. We need to be surrounded by compassionite experts at this time.




SUNDAY, AUGUST 31, 2008 08:35 PM, CDT
Please also read our previous journal entry. We had a great day today. The kids playing and just being a family. We also went to CPK or Diego's Pizza Kitchen for dinner and walked around the beautiful shopping area afterward. Tomorrow we are heading to Sea World! It is the last day of Cirque de la Mer until next summer. We usually skip the summer and make up for it in the cooler season but the weather should be nice tomorrow and the kids are so excited. We are still planning on going to Florida but are not sure if we will be able to go that same week. I sure hope so. Thank you to everyone who responded to our previous entry. We will do everything possible to be treated at City of Hope.


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sending out some positive thoughts to diego and his family.

these are trying times.
i hope things go well with the treatment and the hospital choice.

stay strong


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TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 02, 2008 11:00 PM, CDT

Long day. Diego's bone marrow is clear- no cancer. I'll update more tomorrow on plans. To tired. We are doing well though and glad to hear some good news.




WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 03, 2008 02:56 PM, PDT

Please join us and pray for Diego at 6 PM tonight. The elders at Parkcrest church and his teacher and pre-school director will be laying hands on him tonight.


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TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 02, 2008 11:00 PM, CDT

Long day. Diego's bone marrow is clear- no cancer. I'll update more tomorrow on plans. To tired. We are doing well though and glad to hear some good news.




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Please join us and pray for Diego at 6 PM tonight. The elders at Parkcrest church and his teacher and pre-school director will be laying hands on him tonight.


Again... Please take the time to leave a brief note in his guestbook, as they need all the encouragement they can get.
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good news


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THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 04, 2008 05:22 PM, PDT

First I want to thank everyone who prayed with us last night. That was powerful and we were blessed to meet some incredible people. Today we signed the paperwork for a trial called D-ICE. It is dasatinib with 3 other traditional chemo drugs. The Dr hopes to start chemo next Wednesday and then we go in every 4 weeks and them take the trial drug for 17 days. We are excited about this drug as it just attacks the cancer and has shown promise in other cancers and adult sarcomas, especially rhabdomyosarcoma. The schedule means we should be able to go to Florida as planned!!!! Do we ever need that trip! After 2 rounds we will rescan and if we have stable or improved disease we will stay the course. We have 6 days to play!




FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 05, 2008 08:10 AM, PDT

September is Childhood Cancer Awareness Month.
Join the virtual walk:
http://host.curesearch.org/...012=uyioipqyr1.app8a

Tonight Stand up 2 Cancer is on:
http://su2c.standup2cancer.org/theshow

Later in the month head to Chili's:
http://www.createapepper.com/BigDay.aspx


We are looking forward to the trip to Disney World in Florida, as Karen and the kids will be going down to see them for the week, and hopefully I can get down there as well... We haven't seen them since we moved out here to North Carolina.


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FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 05, 2008 09:35 PM, CDT

After watching tonight I want to thank those who have stayed so close to me. I truly feel encircled. We really could not do this alone. I know some of you read Julian Avery's carepage. His journey is heartbreaking but his mother is on a mission. Although the words spoke tonight of his death were sad it was a powerful truth to be spoken. I am so proud that the truth was spoken. As they said the technology is in place. It is all about the money. Every 60 seconds we lose someone we love to cancer. I am very proud of this show. It does so much for awareness. STAND UP 2 CANCER! STANDUP@CANCER.org

September is Childhood Cancer Awareness Month. Join the virtual walk: http://host.curesearch.org/...012=uyioipqyr1.app8a

Later in the month head to Chili's:

http://www.createapepper.com/BigDay.aspx

"Diego will live and not die, he will tell of the works of the Lord." Psalms 118:17





MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 08, 2008 02:37 PM, PDT

So tomorrow is the big day. We will be admitted at 8 am and have an echocardiagram at 10:30 and then a CT guided needle biopsy of his lung at 1:30. Then we should start chemo tomorrow evening I believe. I will keep you updated as I can. We hope to be home on Sunday.





TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 09, 2008 09:56 PM, PDT

We are home! The trial drug has not reached the hospital yet so we will start chemo tomorrow- for sure! It was a very long day. Echo at 9am them CT needle biopsy at 3 which went the best possible. It only took 15 minutes! Diego did not wake up until 5 though. He woke a little then went back to sleep. Then we x-ray his lungs to make sure there was not a puncture. We go in tomorrow at 11am for chemo. Diego did so well today and everything went great. He was happy to come home tonight. Our nurse Ginger was great as were all the nurses at the infusion center. Dr. Sato is awesome as well. We also received a written confirmation that insurance is covering us at City of Hope! More good news to come.


"Diego will live and not die, he will tell of the works of the Lord." Psalms 118:17





THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 11, 2008 01:17 AM, PDT

I finally surrendered. When Diego was first diagnosed friends said set up an account. When Diego relapsed friends, family and acquaintances said set up an account. This time around after seeing my husband stressed over our financial matters agreed. It was not easy but so many send us checks and I would like for you to at least get a tax write off. I will post the information in the my story section. Please do not feel obliged to send money. Your family is always first and your prayers and messages, and support are more important than money. We have received a scholarship from the Pre-school board for Diego to go to school and Diego's pre-school teacher managed to get Diego on the front page of a local newspaper today called The Sun Newspapers and the fund she helped me set up was featured. The article was already printed before we came home last night to find the letter that we are approved for treatment at City of Hope. Since we are out of network the cost will be higher but nothing close to the real cost which would anywhere from half a million and up. I can forward the article to those interested- just e-mail me at MichelleFuentes19@hotmail.com. If I can find the link to the article I will post that as well.

Romans 8:28 -
And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.





FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 12, 2008 01:55 AM, PDT

The Bumpy Road to the Hospital
We started chemo a day later than anticipated this week. This meant leaving Lilia twice telling her we had to go to the hospital. Both days she was absolutely hysterical. Crying I need my Mommy, I need my Daddy! She now refuses to say goodbye to Diego or hug him goodbye. She told me she did not want Diego to get hurt at the hospital. Diego was fine the first day but the second day we left he was asking why me? Why is it only me? Why me Mommy? I'm not going! I told him that I thought he wanted to fight. He said no I don't. I said you know what will happen if you don't and he said I don't care. He was having his own meltdown at this point. Once he calmed down in the car he said I do want to fight Mommy but it is just so hard. We work so hard to be positive but times like those break you down a bit. The kids are resilient but as we embark on this 3rd year of fighting- most of Lilia's life and almost half of Diego's I sometimes wonder why me too.
Diego thus far is handling the chemo very well and Lilia was with us all day today. She is acting up a bit but happy to be here. This seems to set Diego off too so Mommy and Daddy had our hands full on very little sleep. Frank took her home and spent the night and will bring her tomorrow for a few hours. I will go home tonight to try and get a bit of sleep while Frank stays here and will bring Lilia on Saturday. God is holding it all together for us.

1 Corinthians 13:13
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.






SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 13, 2008 07:55 PM, CDT

Reposted Fron People Against Childhood Cancer


Today is Childhood Cancer Awareness Day. September is Childhood Cancer Awareness Month. Each day, 46 children are diagnosed with cancer. Each day, 7 children die as a result of childhood cancer. It is the number one killer disease of our children, more than more than from asthma, diabetes, cystic fibrosis, congenital anomalies, and pediatric AIDS combined. Did you know that 1 in 300 children will be diagnosed with cancer before age 20 and that 35-40,000 are in treatment every day? Yet only 3% of all cancer research money goes to childhood cancer. Our war against childhood cancer is vastly under-publicized and under-funded. It is another Inconvenient Truth America needs to be aware of.




I don’t know if your readers have ever been on a pediatric oncology floor. If they have ever walked the halls and seen the smiles or tears on the faces of these little fighters as they play on the little trikes and big wheels. How the moms and dads race behind them with the ever present IV pole. How they have little child-sized masks on because they are at high risk of infection. How the teens hang together and still try to be cool, even though they’re bald and ready to throw up at any time. How the teens have added words like methotrexate and acronyms like ANC to their vocabulary, instead of LOL and "sweet". How the poor little baby's cry because they can't even relate what hurts. Or if you've ever seen a mom or dad alone in the break room at 3 am, with their head in their hands, feeling alone, helpless, scared and mad. I don't know if you've ever visited a Care Page or a Caring Bridge site, blogs where we tell our kid's stories. I've seen it all and more. In December 2007 I had AJ, my 14 year old son ask me, "Dad, what's hospice". I have seen enough.



So, please support this cause. CureSearch is the largest childhood cancer organization and its members treat 90% of the cases nationwide. Donate at CureSearch.org. Join the People Against Childhood Cancer group at http://curechildhoodcancer.ning.com. Sign the Petition to Raise Awareness at www.thepetitionsite.com/1/CureChildhoodCancer.


Do something…….the life you help save may be your child’s.

AJs Dad
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"This meant leaving Lilia twice telling her we had to go to the hospital. Both days she was absolutely hysterical. Crying I need my Mommy, I need my Daddy! She now refuses to say goodbye to Diego or hug him goodbye. She told me she did not want Diego to get hurt at the hospital. Diego was fine the first day but the second day we left he was asking why me? Why is it only me? Why me Mommy? I'm not going! I told him that I thought he wanted to fight. He said no I don't. I said you know what will happen if you don't and he said I don't care. He was having his own meltdown at this point. Once he calmed down in the car he said I do want to fight Mommy but it is just so hard. We work so hard to be positive but times like those break you down a bit."



Heart breaking stuff right there.


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I know... I'm still choked up, as I know all of them intimately. They are family.


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to see a young family struggle with illness is heartbreaking. my heart goes out to diego and his family.


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MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 15, 2008 09:38 PM, PDT

Diego is home and well. We arrived home just before 5. Diego needed a blood transfusion before we left. I'm exhausted and overwhelmed. Will try to fill in the blanks tomorrow.




TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 16, 2008 10:07 PM, CDT

Sorry that I did not update sooner. I'm trying to grasp some reality here but yet would rather not grasp that reality and stay suspended in each smile and laugh and incredible cadence of Diego's voice. Last week was rough but not so much for Diego. Lilia is obviously suffering now. She at 3 for really the first time in her life has separation anxiety. Lilia has been acting like a baby and has also been acting out. We sent my Mom and Aunt Jenny who home after one day as Lilia obviously needs to be with us. This really does complicate things but for now we must just do it. I feel like a rubber band pulled between two children who need me. Coming home was hard. The hardest part of this process can be the nightly shots known as GCSF. Poor Diego is so traumatized by these. The shot burns. He get is for at least 8 nights in a row. Diego called me into his room last night. He just wanted to make sure I knew how amazing gorillas are. He asked me if they needed water. I said yes an he said no they get all there water from eating fruit. They are so smart. He then told Frank that he was going to be a teenager, then a scientist and then a Daddy with a goatee! Daddy has one! He melts our hearts- always has. We now are waiting to see how low his counts go with this regimen and for how long. Please pray that Diego continues to be the rubber band as well and snaps back quickly with no fever stay. Not sure if Lilia's heart can take it. Pray for Lilia as well.

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes


Here's a pic of the entire family,
just a year and a half ago at my old house in Long Beach:


Diego, Lilia w/ Michelle, and Frank and I out by the street.


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He just wanted to make sure I knew how amazing gorillas are. He asked me if they needed water. I said yes an he said no they get all there water from eating fruit. They are so smart. He then told Frank that he was going to be a teenager, then a scientist and then a Daddy with a goatee!
I usually just lurk in this thread, reading the posts as they come, but I had to comment on this- this kid is awesome.


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I usually just lurk in this thread, reading the posts as they come, but I had to comment on this- this kid is awesome.

Please, tell him that!

Leave him a brief message in his guestbook at the link above... It really makes a difference to them.


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THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 18, 2008 02:09 PM, CDT

One night leaving the hospital with Frank Lilia was shrieking I want my Mommy. Diego began to cry. He is such a good brother. So far Diego seem to be doing well with our trial drug Dasatinib. We are having a nice day at home. Diego can't wait to go back to school. I'm hoping next Wednesday. Please sign this petition in an effort to get people to think gold for childhood cancer like the think pink breast cancer campaign. http://www.thepetitionsite.com/...on-consumer-products




FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 19, 2008 09:25 PM, CDT

Diego's Pre-school teacher and I opened Diego's account yesterday! I opened the envelopes sent and was overwhelmed with emotion. We have received about $1800 dollars so far. When someone sends you $23 in cash it makes you realize that they sent all they could and sent it from their heart. Every donation from $5 dollars to $500 really means so much to us and the letters where all so heartfelt. All the prayers and words of encouragement. Seeing Diego on the front page of the newspaper on September 11th was surreal. How can that be our child? I wept. How can this be? I don't have those answers but I know many have been blessed by our journey. I know that we have felt the presence of God in a spiritual way that I could of never imagined. All of my doubts erased. One reader has a child whose daughter is a cancer survivor and his son is an very young golf phenomenon added Diego to his website : http://jadencantafio.com/THANK YOU EVERYONE!!!
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We are going to have a family photo shoot tomorrow morning at 9 am at Miller Children's! It is sponsored by http://www.holdenshopetrain.org/ I am very excited! Then we are off to City of Hope for blood work. Hoping we do not need a transfusion. Diego did have a 100 degree fever after his nap today but it went away. Praying it stays away. At 101.5 we are admitted. Chanting Go Cells Start Fighting! GCSF! The name of the shots but with a new acronym. I will update tomorrow. Thanks for reading and leaving us messages.





SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 20, 2008 10:23 PM, CDT

First of all no fever! Diego has no white blood cells though or .4. He also needed potassium and platelets today. We arrived home at 7:30 tonight! Frank was at work so it was me and the kids from 12 until 5:30! Long Day. The photo shoot was a bit hard. Diego did not want to participate but he eventually warmed up after another person went before us. Try to get 4 people, well two adults who are wrangling two kids to pose all together! Still there are some good shots of us all and just Diego. As soon as I get the CD I will post a few pics. I did not want to post yesterday but City of Hope is not getting paid by our HMO for previous services. Basically they just want there money and don't care from where. I called the HMO and told them I have no time or energy to keep being the middle man and just want to know if I need a lawyer. Suddenly they were willing to call and talk to City of Hope. I think that is a good sign. Really I have more to worry about than that right now and I refuse to waste my energy. If they do not resolve it I will have to contact a lawyer. Can't worry today about what may happen tomorrow!
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Matthew 6:27 (New International Version)
Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?





TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 23, 2008 07:14 PM, CDT
Diego is going to school tomorrow! His first day in his new class. He has been having headaches since Monday. It is a likely side effect of the drug he is taking everyday but they make him really sad. Tylenol gets rid of them though. He is also experiencing an itchy bottom. He has had this before but it seems a bit worse this time. He says poor me! The day before our trip to Florida he does not have any oral chemo from then for a few weeks. 10 days until our trip!!! Amazing!


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Well Diego will have to miss school tomorrow. He needs a blood transfusion. We received a platelet transfusion on Wednesday and found his ANC is still very low! We have only had platelets once before this! This chemo is kicking his butt! Speaking of it has been really painful for his to have a bowel movement although they are really soft. His headaches are being controlled by tylenol but now I can't tell if he gets a fever! He is acting much more energetic this afternoon and evening though. Hopefully after our transfusion tomorrow the headaches will get better. Monday Make-A-Wish is throwing a Bon Voyage Party for Diego at Chuck E Cheese. I don't really like the place but Diego has been wanting to go back for months and this is his party! LOL! I'm sure we will have a great time! Diego is also going to Walking With Dinosaurs this Sunday.


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SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 28, 2008 09:21 PM, CDT

Diego and Daddy went to Walking With Dinosaurs at the Staples Center and it was AWESOME! We hesitated in buying tickets and only bought the two but are so glad we did! Diego and Daddy loved it! Diego has given me a play by play and has been acting it out since he got home!

Don't forget to go to Chili's tomorrow!

Also Diego's allergies seem to be acting up. Please pray he will be well for our trip on FRIDAY!!! So excited- already packing!




MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 29, 2008 10:06 PM, CDT

We had such a great time at Diego's Bon Voyage party! Diego said the pizza was delicious and cake was too! The woman Marie from Make-A-Wish really made it special with Buzz Light Year Decorations and cake. The kids had a blast. We also received our Wish Flight T-Shirts. Our Trip is titled, The Enchanted Journey Continues. Pirates and Princesses. We cannot wait!

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WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 01, 2008 02:42 PM, CDT

The Diego Fund has accumulated about $7,000 dollars! We are so grateful to everyone who has donated. We are so touched that complete strangers would reach out to us and our friends and family who continue to support us. So many encouraging letters and prayers. My sister's 24 year old friend sent us a check for $1,000 dollars! I emailed her saying I hope this is not just from you. She explained that she had saved to visit my sister in New York but with the circumstances changed my sister came here and she decided we needed the money more than her. She said she loves us and we are part of her family of God. I'm crying again thinking about it. Children have sent some of their savings too. This is putting a big dent into our bills and expenses so far and is relieving a lot of stress! Thank you everyone!
We go in tomorrow for more blood work. Diego's white blood cells were 1200 on Tuesday! Finally going up. We need them to be really high tomorrow though so we do not have to take the shots to Florida with us. He also needed more platelets as they were on 9! I hope those are showing they are making there way up on there own as well so we do not need any blood work to be done on our vacation. We are so excited! I am 90% packed. Diego has also had two great days at school this week without me staying with him. We get back from our trip next Thursday and check in for 5 day chemo on Friday.
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Karen and the kids are getting ready to go to Florida to see them at Disneyworld! They are esxcited! I wish I could go too, but I am stuck working an outage at one of our nukes in South Carolina.


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FRIDAY, OCTOBER 10, 2008 07:47 AM, CDT

Hi everyone! We made it home safe and sound. Florida was great but Diego was having migraines and was pretty tired much of the trip. This kid has always been a big napper. He also ran a low grade fever the last night there and last night at home. We did have many good times and I will fill you all in later as we are exhausted and due at the hospital for his 5 night chemo at 9:30 am this morning! Diego still has a cough. We called the Dr yesterday and she will most likely put him on antibiotics in the hospital. Pictures and details to come!





SATURDAY, OCTOBER 11, 2008 08:09 AM, CDT

I wish I was updating to tell you about our trip but there is no time right now. We did a CT of Diego's head and it shows two tumors in the cerebral fluid around his brain. We will follow up with and MRI and surgery. Hopefully there are no other tumors as the neurosurgeon said he can easily remove these tumors without complication. The team here has been awesome. We are not giving up but this is not good. He will no longer be on the chemo he just had. Frank is considering going to Canada. The oncologist is willing to discuss all of our thoughts about traditional and non traditional treatments. She is calling her friend at NCI about some options as well. We truly are surrounded by the best professionals possible here who truly care. Diego is on a steroid and has had no further headaches. All I can do is hold on to Diego with everything I have.
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Karen and the kids just got back from Florida, where they traveled down for a week to see Diego, Michelle, Frank, and Lilia.

His spirits were up, and he was glad to see and play with Justice, even though he did have a persistant cough and some headaches.



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Or if you have in the past... Leave him another one, it really deos help them to know that so many people from all over the world care about him.


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SATURDAY, OCTOBER 11, 2008 06:27 PM, PDT

I wanted to clarify. Looking back we believe these brain tumors are not new. Diego was having problems for a few days that I was really worried about back in late July I believe. He was not able to walk and his foot would move involuntarily. This was not the first time but the first time it was very noticeable. He would be unstable on his feet for an hour at a time and then be fine. His head has never been scanned as this is not a typical place for relapse. We almost asked for a scan but this happened before we knew about his lungs and was quickly dismissed as neuropathy by us. It cleared up before we started any chemo. We did a chest x-ray last night and see if the disease has improved there. The two tumors we see know are small. One is less than 1 cm and the other about 2 and a half centimeters. Since we cannot compare we only have the new symptom of the headache. I will talk more to the neurosurgeon and oncologist on Monday.


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SATURDAY, OCTOBER 11, 2008 08:09 AM, CDT

I wish I was updating to tell you about our trip but there is no time right now. We did a CT of Diego's head and it shows two tumors in the cerebral fluid around his brain. We will follow up with and MRI and surgery. Hopefully there are no other tumors as the neurosurgeon said he can easily remove these tumors without complication. The team here has been awesome. We are not giving up but this is not good. He will no longer be on the chemo he just had. Frank is considering going to Canada. The oncologist is willing to discuss all of our thoughts about traditional and non traditional treatments. She is calling her friend at NCI about some options as well. We truly are surrounded by the best professionals possible here who truly care. Diego is on a steroid and has had no further headaches. All I can do is hold on to Diego with everything I have.




Man, talk about an unrelenting assault. How long can so small a body withstand such abuse? It just seems like too much. UnsureMad


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MONDAY, OCTOBER 13, 2008 10:46 AM, CDT

Diego will be having his MRI at 12 noon and surgery this afternoon which will be about 4 hours. We will be in the ICU tonight and I don't have computer access from there but will try to get someone else to update.





MONDAY, OCTOBER 13, 2008 11:52 AM, CDT
Sorry guys my messages have been a bit unclear. Diego will have surgery using the latest technology to remove at least one of the tumors in his brain. We pray the MRI shows only these two tumors and that they are as accessible as the surgeon believes. We also pray for a painless and speedy recovery.





MONDAY, OCTOBER 13, 2008 04:12 PM, CDT
Diego's surgery will be first thing tomorrow morning. There are three areas. Two will be easy to remove but the third is so small that it might not be feasible. Keeping praying. We are staying strong. Diego's surgery will be about three and a half hours and recovery 2-3 days or when he has no need for pain medicine.


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poor little dude


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Here's some pics of their recent trip to Disney World and Seaworld in Florida,
courtesy of the Make a Wish Foundation:

Diego and Justice:


Michelle, Lilia, Diego, Justice, and Frank:


Diego goofing around with Frank, while Justice and Michelle watch:


Diego and Sage messing around:


Diego and Justice:



Diego... My hero:



More pictures here:
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WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 15, 2008 03:14 PM, PDT

So sorry everyone. I thought I had someone else update but it looks like that did not happen. Diego did very well with surgery. They were able to remove all of the tumors. He has not needed any pain medication besides occasional tylenol since 9:30 pm last night. We are still in ICU only because there are no beds available. Will update more tomorrow. Thank you for all you thoughts and prayers. Sorry for the miscommunication.

He certainly is a tough kid.


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He sure is. Good to hear they managed to get all the tumours, that's scary stuff.


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He sure is. Good to hear they managed to get all the tumours, that's scary stuff.
They only got the tumors in his head... I believe he still has some in his lungs. Unsure


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He sure is. Good to hear they managed to get all the tumours, that's scary stuff.
They only got the tumors in his head... I believe he still has some in his lungs. Unsure
Unsure That sucks, but (non-doctor guess) aren't tumours around the brain more pressingly dangerous?
What's the plan to take care of the lung problems, chemotherapy? I'd imagine surgery would be very difficult.


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THURSDAY, OCTOBER 16, 2008 10:34 PM, CDT
We are home!! We are all exhausted. We start our new chemo regimen on Monday. We will be inpatient for two days and if he tolerates it well will do the rest outpatient. For now we are doing irinotecan and temodor along with stereostatic radiosurgery to his brain in three or so weeks. Diego had a chest CT which showed that the right lung has been cleared of tumors and many of the small ones of the left are gone with one stable remaining and the one they biopsied looking a little bigger. So mixed news. Diego is doing well. We are so excited to spend some time at home! It has been 2 weeks away including our trip. I plan to update about our trip tomorrow and make a slide show soon.




FRIDAY, OCTOBER 17, 2008 10:38 AM, CDT
Diego slept so peacefully last night! He did not wake once and woke up so happy this morning! He ate a great breakfast and we are off to the Aquarium! I went to the Library as they have 50% off coupons! I am so filled with happiness and joy right now. My house is a wreck and I could care less at the moment. We are off to have a wonderful day! I also received two free passes to Disneyland from the park! We can use them before December 18th! We cannot wait to go. I'll update later tonight. Feeling very blesses right now. Sorry for the overuse of these: !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! but God is GOOD!




FRIDAY, OCTOBER 17, 2008 10:55 PM, CDT
I have felt like I needed to share a few things. First of all I want to thank everyone who has sent us money. It is really helping us out tremendously. All of our prayer warriors. Also to three of my best girlfriends from high school who have just been here with me through this even if we grew apart it really just shows how strong our bond was back then. All of our new friends and extended family. I wanted everyone to know as I think of these though financial times that we are not in debt for any other reason than this illness. We bought our house in January of 2001 and took a loan that was $100,000 less than what we qualified for. We own both of our cars, no car payments and I was able to stay home with Diego because of these wise decisions. Our first family vacation besides camping was this Make-A-Wish Trip. I thought it was only fair to share this. We do buy Diego more toys than we would of if he was well but if you saw what he goes through and how a new dinosaur or transformer can help bring his spirits back up you would understand. I'm sure most of you could care less but I just felt obligated to share. I promise a Florida update tomorrow.


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I'm sure most of you could care less but I just felt obligated to share.


we care more than words can say. it breaks my heart to read about what your family is going through. diego is amazing, but so is his family. i can't even imagine the strength it takes to deal with this, and i pray i never have to find out if i'm as strong as you are.

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SATURDAY, OCTOBER 18, 2008 09:38 AM, CDT
Florida- Part 1
Give Kids the World is simply an amazing place. Florida is beautiful. Lovely tall trees. Green everywhere. The kids loved it except the heat and it was pretty mild while we were there. We were picked up in a limo from our house and the kids loved it! I was surprised they were OK not being in there car seats with only lap belts. We arrived at the airport and were greeted by American Airlines who took all of our bags and checked them. Then we were escorted upstairs to a party. Diego was a bit overwhelmed. Once we were on the plane he was very happy! He slept most of the trip and Lilia was really good. We arrived at the airport to a welcome party and Diego was like not again! We were helped with our luggage to our rental car and given directions to the the village. The kids were so excited to be in Florida! We arrived at the village and were shown to our two bedroom villa. The kids loved it. We then went to The Gingerbread House for a nice hot dinner followed by banana splits and ice-cream at there ice-cream shop and a whirl or two on the carousel. We tired early and decided to go to Animal Kingdom the following day.




SATURDAY, OCTOBER 18, 2008 03:51 PM, CDT
Florida- Part 2
So on Saturday we headed to Animal Kingdom. It is such a beautiful place. Like the fanciest zoo you have ever been to. The Safari Ride is incredible. Your eye cannot see where the savannah ends. We saw so many animals which included giraffes, elephants, rhinos, hippos, and so much more all living in what looks like there natural habitat. The rest of the park is great as well. The kids loved it! Dinoland was small but nice. The park closed at 5 pm so we went back on Sunday for a half day and still did not see all of the park. After Animal Kingdom we headed to EPCOT. Diego loved it there. He is such a little sponge so it was right up his alley. They also had the food and wine festival which fits perfectly with there international cities World Showcase which is really neat. Wish we would of spent two days here. We ended the night with firework and they are really the best there. They say the best show in the US. We did not get home until 10 pm this night! We will definitely go back to EPCOT and Animal Kingdom in the future. We were all in need of a break, especially Diego so we decided to just hang out at the village and go to Gator Land the next day. Both of the kids loved this place! It takes about 2-3 hours to visit and has huge swamps a couple of shows and a nice amount of snakes and other reptiles. We had fun playing in a big downpour as well. I could just sit at the swamp and watch the birds and alligators for hours. We fed them too.

Note - Michelle was an elementary school teacher before Diego was born, so she's really good at explaining to her kids what they are seeing.


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Then we were escorted upstairs to a party. Diego was a bit overwhelmed. Once we were on the plane he was very happy! He slept most of the trip and Lilia was really good. We arrived at the airport to a welcome party and Diego was like not again!
heheh, kid doesn't like the grown ups making a fuss over him, huh?
Sounds like they had a real blast!


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MONDAY, OCTOBER 20, 2008 09:20 PM, CDT
We had fun at the aquarium on Friday and at the zoo on Sunday. We also celebrated my birthday yesterday with a yummy dinner and Hershey's chocolate cake that the kids and I made from scratch. We are in the hospital and chemo will start at 11pm. We had a REALLY long day. I will get to the rest of our Make-A-Wish trip I promise. I honestly felt bad writing about our trip. I have been struggling with the death of a dear child whose Mother has been a great support through the rhabdokids site. Her name was Elizabeth and she was just 7 years old. Please keep her Mother Lynn and 4 year old brother in your prayers. Here is her website: http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/elizabethdoxey

It just does not seem like life should go on when a child dies.




TUESDAY, OCTOBER 21, 2008 10:30 AM, PDT
Diego is doing fine with the new chemo so far. Praying it is killing those nasty cancer cells. Diego said to bad our dog Rylie can't get a hold of cancer because he would rip it to pieces. Looks like we may be stuck here all week due to insurance issues. Frank will try to contact them today.




TUESDAY, OCTOBER 21, 2008 09:47 PM, CDT
UGH!!!

So Diego is off the trial drug as it did not seem to work and he cannot be on steroids for the trial. The steroids were needed to reduce swelling in his brain. So now we are back to square one with the insurance company. We cannot wait one day to start chemo so we have to do this now! Even if we end up with a bill. In the meantime we have to spend time on the phone dealing with this. It seems as though the HMO is going to approve this and I will need to talk to them about what exactly needs to happen to get the IPA out of the picture here when it comes to this. It is scary and stressful but I have faith that it will be worked out quickly.


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FRIDAY, OCTOBER 24, 2008 05:21 PM, CDT
Looks like we are stuck here! Insurance company is trying to deny us. Very frustrating as this could mean more out of pocket for us. We all just want to go home! Including our trip it has been 3 weeks going on 4! Here is a poem I wanted to share.



I HOPE...

I hope you never have to hear the words, "Your child has cancer."

I hope you never have to hear, "The prognosis is not good."

I hope you never have to prepare to undergo radiation or chemotherapy, have a port surgically inserted into their chest, be connected to IV poles.

I hope you never have your child look at you with fear in their eyes and say, "Don't worry Mommy, everything will be okay" or "Mommy am I going to die?"

I hope you never have to hold your child as they vomit green bile.

I hope you never have to feed them ice chips for lunch.

I hope you never have to watch the "cure" you pray for slowly take away their identity, as they lose their hair,
become skeletal, swell up from steroids, develop severe acne, become barely or unable to walk or move, and look at you with hope in their eyes and say,
"It's going to be okay, Mommy."

I hope that you never have to stay in the hospital for weeks, months, or years at a time, where there is no privacy, sleeping on a slab, with your face to the wall, where you cry in muffled silence.

I hope you never have to see a mother, alone, huddled, in a dark hospital corridor...crying quietly, after just being told, "There is nothing more we can do."

I hope you never have to watch a family wander aimlessly, minutes after their child's body has been removed.

I hope you never have to use every bit of energy you have left, with all of this going on around you to remain positive, and the feelings of guilt, sorrow, hope and fear, overwhelm you.

I hope you never have to see a child's head bolted to the table as they receive radiation.

I hope you never have to take your child home (grateful but so afraid) in a wheelchair because the chemo and radiation has damaged their muscles, 35 pounds lighter, pale, bald, and scarred.

And they look at you with faith in their eyes and say, "It's going to be okay Mommy."

I hope you never have to face the few friends that have stuck beside you and hear them say, "Thank God that is over with,"...because you know it never will be.

Your life becomes a whirl of doctors, blood tests and MRI's and you try to get your life back to "normal".

While living in mind-numbing fear that any one of those tests could result in hearing the dreaded words...

"The cancer has returned" or "The tumor is growing."

And your friends become even fewer.

I hope you never have to experience any of these things...Because...only then...

Will you understand...

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SATURDAY, OCTOBER 25, 2008 09:55 AM, CDT
We are supposed to be at a friends housewarming party today and were hoping to see our favorite therapy dog Pandie and her sister Bella in a parade but instead are once again held hostage!

The poem I shared yesterday is very telling but I wanted to add that I have gained many more friends than I have lost. More people stand close than far. My dearest friends and strangers have done so much for us that it puts us in tears so many times. Friends who I had lost contact with check in on me and show they care. This often keeps us going when it all seems to much, too painful. Someone sends an e-mail, a prayer, little things in the mail for the kids, a meal and it means so much. The combined efforts of so many last year with the garage sale. The newspaper articles. The Diego Fund. This all helps but of course we wish we did not need any of it. Thank you all who continue to walk with us.

Diego's fifth birthday is in 18 days and I hope I can pull it off. He is so excited to be 5 and wants a pirate party with all of his friends.


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MONDAY, OCTOBER 27, 2008 10:55 PM, CDT
Make-A-Wish - part 3

Finally! So day 3 we were tired so we decided we would go to Gatorland. We all loved it! It is really small so you can see it all in about 2 hours. Diego and Lilia held a baby alligator- so cute and Lilia and Daddy took a picture with a ball python! Lilia loved it! Diego thought she was crazy! The swamp areas are beautiful. Many crocodiles and alligators and beautiful birds. It was so peaceful that I could of stayed there all day. If you live in Florida this place may not seem so amazing I imagine. We all want to go back there. That night our friend came to our Villa who moved from California to North Carolina. Diego's best buddy from at least 8 months of age. We all had fun playing and seeing each other again. The following day we met up with them at Sea World. Diego did not feel so great much of the day. Poor guy. The shows there were not as good as ours in San Diego so if you are spoiled and live near San Diego I would skip that if in Florida. The rain was pretty bad that day so we headed out early and spent time at the Village and went to bed early for our last park day at The Magic Kingdom. We meet up again with our friends and had a very nice day. Again if you live near Disneyland as we do I would skip this park and Hollywood Studios which is or California Adventure Park. Disneyland is actually bigger and has more rides like the Matterhorn. That was a shock to me. We said goodbye to our friends :(. The next morning we left at 10 am for our flight home.


Diego is doing great with this chemo but is having some pain at night under his left arm. This pain started when we were in Florida. We don't feel anything there. I think they are doing an x-ray tomorrow. If the radiation gets approved we should be able to leave Thursday. We hope this happens as we want to go home and there is a benefit that I will post info on from 6-8 at a salon in Long Beach. More about this tomorrow. Keep praying for all of us. Diego the most of course. We are under attack from all angles it seems.


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TUESDAY, OCTOBER 28, 2008 09:50 PM, CDT
I was going to write a journal about our nature adventures at City of Hope and in Florida. I will get to that one day soon. Our insurance company has officially denied us care at City of Hope. They say we are responsible to pay the bill that at last count was over $55,000 dollars! I wish I could give all the details that led to this decision but I can say that the Long Beach oncologist had a hand in this. I am so mad and frustrated. How can you expect a family in our situation to go to a new oncologist after all we have been through. We trust Dr. Sato and she cares about our child just as much as Dr. Calderwood did. If Dr. Calderwood was still here he would advise that we stay at City of Hope. They also have a musculoskeletal tumor board here. Well so does UCLA. We can go there but they don't know anything about Diego. How can they really be so cruel? So we need radiation to save Diego's life done in the next two weeks. Preferably next week. Hopefully we can work that out. Then we will temporally set up shop at CHOC with Dr. Sato consulting. I don't think they can take away that. Frank also got a call from a lawyer today who happens to be the son of the pastor that married us and he will come up to talk to me tomorrow. He said he believes this will go to litigation so we have to figure out how to pay for that. OK I guess God will figure it all out but man this is hard. Not being home and dealing with so much. Can hardly talk to Frank, it is as if we are separated as we have not lived together in weeks with being in the hospital. No time to break down, throw a fit or have a glass of wine. I know God has a plan can't he give me a sneak peek?

Thursday Night an incredible man who read about Diego in the Sun Newspaper has set up a fund raiser at his salon on Thursday night. His daughter is a cancer survivor. Here is the flyer for the event:

COME AND SEE DARTH VADER AND OTHER STAR WARS CHARACTERS
Thursday October 30th from 6:00 to 8:00 pm
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Anthony Robert's Salon
1190 Studebaker Rd
Long Beach, 90815
Support Diego and the Diego fund and help him get the help he deserves.
*MAY THE FORCE BE WITH YOU DIEGO*



We will be stuck here. I believe we will not be able to attend. We really wanted to be there.


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TUESDAY, OCTOBER 28, 2008 09:50 PM, CDT
I was going to write a journal about our nature adventures at City of Hope and in Florida. I will get to that one day soon. Our insurance company has officially denied us care at City of Hope. They say we are responsible to pay the bill that at last count was over $55,000 dollars! I wish I could give all the details that led to this decision but I can say that the Long Beach oncologist had a hand in this. I am so mad and frustrated. How can you expect a family in our situation to go to a new oncologist after all we have been through. We trust Dr. Sato and she cares about our child just as much as Dr. Calderwood did. If Dr. Calderwood was still here he would advise that we stay at City of Hope. They also have a musculoskeletal tumor board here. Well so does UCLA. We can go there but they don't know anything about Diego. How can they really be so cruel? So we need radiation to save Diego's life done in the next two weeks. Preferably next week. Hopefully we can work that out. Then we will temporally set up shop at CHOC with Dr. Sato consulting. I don't think they can take away that. Frank also got a call from a lawyer today who happens to be the son of the pastor that married us and he will come up to talk to me tomorrow. He said he believes this will go to litigation so we have to figure out how to pay for that. OK I guess God will figure it all out but man this is hard. Not being home and dealing with so much. Can hardly talk to Frank, it is as if we are separated as we have not lived together in weeks with being in the hospital. No time to break down, throw a fit or have a glass of wine. I know God has a plan can't he give me a sneak peek?

Thursday Night an incredible man who read about Diego in the Sun Newspaper has set up a fund raiser at his salon on Thursday night. His daughter is a cancer survivor. Here is the flyer for the event:

COME AND SEE DARTH VADER AND OTHER STAR WARS CHARACTERS
Thursday October 30th from 6:00 to 8:00 pm
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Anthony Robert's Salon
1190 Studebaker Rd
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Support Diego and the Diego fund and help him get the help he deserves.
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We will be stuck here. I believe we will not be able to attend. We really wanted to be there.

wow how much more can one family take. damn insurance companies.

my heart really goes out to them.


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Yeah, when I was reading that I was pretty pissed at that company. I don't know the details but I'm gunna go ahead and judge them anyways.


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They actually have pretty good insurance, as Frank works for Verizon.


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Michelle wrote:
WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 29, 2008 08:11 PM, CDT
OK, OK!!!! First of all Diego has been having pain in his shoulder and on his back where he had the lung biopsy. They did an x-ray of his shoulder yesterday and it looked good but the chest x-ray today shows great improvement. The initial tumor is almost gone and she believes it could just be scar tissue!!!! SO who cares about a huge bill! God is blessing us in the most important way! This chemo is working! Other news: WE ARE Home!!!! No they did not kick us out. The Dr. is working on us getting us free care for these two weeks so we are doing outpatient today and tomorrow. They also have trick-or-treating at 1 PM at the hospital tomorrow. I hope to get a couple of slide shows together this weekend. Our Florida trip, our hospital stay and Halloween fun. I hope Diego can go to school next week. We are not giving up on getting treatment at City of Hope.


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Michelle wrote:
TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 04, 2008 10:07 PM, PST
We missed the fundraiser as we did not get home from City of Hope in time to go. We thank every one who participated and especially Tony for setting it up and Mrs. Moons for helping.

Sorry I'm slacking on the slideshows. Not being home for long lent itself to needing to get a lot of things done along with just needing to take time to be lazy and do nothing! Who knew sitting on the couch drinking coffee could be so incredible! Diego continues to have pain. Please pray it will subside. It is worst at night. We are giving him dilaudid a form of morphine for his pain. I'm glad we took an x-ray before we left the hospital or I would really be scared. I'll try to update again tomorrow. Just wanted to check in.




WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 05, 2008 08:44 PM, CST
We made it to school today and Diego had a great day! Lilia and I stayed for music and playground time. He really had a great time. I'm trying to motivate her to potty train so she too can go to pre-school. She had a lot of fun and it was so nice to be able to do. Diego will go again on Friday. He still has pain, mainly at night. We upped his meds and he went to sleep for good about 12:30 last night and slept till 9pm.





THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 06, 2008 05:23 PM, CST
Diego will be 5 on Wednesday November12th! He will have a pirate birthday party on Sunday November the 16th at 1 PM. If you would like to attend please e-mail me for address and direction. Diego plans to dress up so feel free to dress up! I am also asking if anyone has any fun games to bring for the kids like a ring toss, etc.. please let me know. I will provide prizes.

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Michelle wrote:
MONDAY, NOVEMBER 10, 2008 08:47 PM, CST
Diego went to school today and cannot stop talking about his teacher! It is really cute. He had a great day which makes us all happy. I am fighting an insurance appeal to try to keep our Dr at City of Hope. Final answer will come Thursday. Diego is still in pain. Limbo is hard right now. I also would like to ask for prayers for this beautiful family that touches my heart in so many ways: http://www.carepages.com/carepages/ColemanScott




THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 13, 2008 11:19 AM, CST
We are taking Diego to the hospital. He has a fever. It looks like his Birthday Party will more than likely be cancelled. I'll update when I can.




FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 14, 2008 09:26 AM, CST
Diego has pneumonia in his left lung which could be the cause of most of his pain. He will have a bronchoscope today see if it is viral or bacterial. His party will have to be postponed. I'll update later.




FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 14, 2008 04:25 PM, CST
Diego's procedure went well and for all my cancer Mommies his ANC is 14,000! So yes we have white blood cells. All other counts great as well. He has been spiking fevers still like 3 in 24 hrs. Tylenol has been working though so that is good. We are at City of Hope. Insurance nightmare continues as we take our appeal to the next level.




SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 15, 2008 08:44 AM, CST
Diego continues to have fevers and is on oxygen. His respirations and heartbeat are high so the Dr does not want him to waste any energy eating so she is putting him on TPN which is nutrients through his vein. This is a first for him. He finally got some really good sleep yesterday and last night and his pain is under control. He hates the oxygen mask but wont wear the cannula which is the small one that get goes in your nose. Keep praying.


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MONDAY, NOVEMBER 17, 2008 11:48 AM, CST
Diego has not improved. They did a CT to see if they can better recognize what is causing this. He continues to have fevers. I'll update when I know more.




MONDAY, NOVEMBER 17, 2008 08:30 PM, CST
Please if you can pray for Diego at 8:40 am tomorrow. He will have an ultrasound needle biopsy to try to remove fluid in his left lung and to try and figure out what exactly is in there. Pray that Diego will remain strong and will get some much needed relief tomorrow and can ultimately be healed.

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Things aren't looking good... Unsure

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WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 19, 2008 10:32 AM, CST
Sorry I did not update yesterday. We needed to speak with family first. Diego may have some pneumonia but the main problem is the tumors in his chest have grown considerably. We have had some tough choices to make and for now we are going to continue fighting. He continues to have high fevers, heart rate and respiration. I will update when I can.


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Oh no. Unsure


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crap
this poor little guy

my heart goes out to diego and his family


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Jesus! This kid can't catch a break.

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I'm sorry to hear it Adam, thats rough news.


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Michelle wrote:
THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 20, 2008 06:12 PM, CST
Diego is doing better. He has not had a fever since yesterday morning and his heart rate is normal. Breathing is still fast but better. He also has had no need for extra pain medicine. He has been sleeping a lot but was pretty silly when he was up. Tonight we do night 2 of 5 of chemo and tomorrow we have a brain MRI and start day 1 of 8 of radiation to his lungs. What a difference a day makes. Please pray that the chemo and radiation annihilate his cancer. Thank you for all your messages.

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SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 23, 2008 08:10 PM, CST
Diego is still OK. He had a nice weekend and even went out of the room today. A bit weak to walk but he can stand. We did not have the MRI on Friday may do it later this week. Thanks to all who are praying for Diego's healing and our whole family's strength.


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MONDAY, NOVEMBER 24, 2008 08:55 PM, CST
Baby Steps

Diego did walk a few steps here and there today. He can climb up and off the bed and is sitting better. I just think we have to focus on him doing it. He was wobbly standing until he was doing it to play a video game....hmmm. We did another chest x-ray today and it shows some clearing of his left lower lung. Good news. Diego seems stronger everyday. Still on oxygen as he has barely any lung capacity in his left lung. Thank you to all who have brought us delicious food. It is what we need most. Frank seem to be coming down with the stomach flu! He went home tonight. Keep praying.


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WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 26, 2008 10:26 PM, PST
Diego is getting stronger everyday. We just have to force him to walk, sit and stand. His oxygen was decreased a little to 1 liter and he is being weaned from his pain pump. He will stay on his pain patch though for now. We finished 4 of 8 radiation sessions today. Diego's white blood cells are low and he will need platelets in the next few days. We will have our Thanksgiving dinner in the family here tomorrow. Hope you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Diego was due on Thanksgiving in 2003 but was born 10 days early!

Finally here is our Make-A-Wish Slideshow: http://www.rockyou.com/...instanceid=126859655

We are thankful for all your support.


As Michelle says, that picture gallery is from their Make-A-Wish Foundation trip to Disney World in Florida, where Karen and the kids drove down to see them.

Here at work... The filter won't let me see them, so I'll have to wait until I get home.


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FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 28, 2008 05:10 PM, CST
We had a very yummy Thanksgiving! I think it was the best my Mom has cooked yet. They set it up in the family room and it was really nice actually. Diego finished day 5 of 8 of total left lung radiation today. He had a chest x-ray today and his lung shows more improvement! Praying it continues. He needed red blood cells today. He also has no immune system. Hope he gets through uneventful until they rise. Thank you again for all your support. If you did not see the Make-A-Wish slideshow look at the previous update.


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SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 29, 2008 06:35 PM, CST
After 16 nights at the hospital I went home last night. Did not realize how much I miss home! On my way back to the hospital this morning I caught a five minute bit on praying for healing. It talked about having the elders pray for you and the importance of praying with FAITH. Faith that your prayer will be answered and not praying that his will be done. Not praying that if it is not his will then praying for strength and comfort. The pastor from Calvary Church of Costa Mesa said to pray for GRACE and MERCY and pray with the FAITH that HE WILL answer your prayers! So please pray with FAITH that HE WILL heal Diego.
Faith is the reality of things being hoped for. The evidence of things not seen.
Hebrews 11:1
With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.
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Here is the Make-A-Wish again if you missed the last posts.
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This time we here from Frank, Diego's dad...

Frank wrote:
TUESDAY, DECEMBER 02, 2008 11:17 AM, CST
Hi everyone,

This is Frank for a change. I just wanted to joght down a few things while I have been staying with Diego. I stayed with him Friday and Saturday night at his request and we had some good boys fun. His mom is getting sick of watching the same shows all the time. Diego knows that i can tolerate watching old Godzilla shows with him. He also likes to watch me play video games and tell me what's coming up next in the game. Story time before going to bed is a bit different. I turn off the lights, take the flashlight out and do it camp style. I stayed lastnight as well and it went ok. Diego has a bit of a flemy cough. He did well with radiation today. One last one tomorrow! The Dr.checked his lungs today and said his left lung sounds better than yesterday. He is still breathing fast but praying that this will get better soon. Continue to pray for Diego as he fights on!


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FRIDAY, DECEMBER 05, 2008 05:34 PM, CST
We are doing about the same here. We were supposed to be transferred due to insurance on Thursday but there are no beds at CHLA where they want to send us. So most likely we will finish more chemo here and hopefully radiation to his brain that is 4 weeks past due as well. Then we hope to go home and will be able to go to CHOC on January 1st which is our 2nd choice. City of Hope being our first. Diego is barely on any oxygen. Barely .25 a liter. Can't go any lower without turning it off but we are not there yet. Pray we can finish treatment here, be home next weekend, for Diego to be off oxygen and his lungs will continue to clear.


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MONDAY, DECEMBER 08, 2008 11:01 PM, PST
We are still at City of Hope and Diego started up another 5 day course of chemo tonight. We also hope to finish up his brain radiation as well within this week. First we have to get an MRI then it will be 1-4 days I believe. We will not be transferred to CHLA as the Dr. there has refused our case siting it is too complicated. I would talk about it more and the insurance company but with us probably going to court in the future I cannot talk about it. I will say it is like adding a fun house to the roller coaster ride. So for now we are here and hoping to go home within a week and be off oxygen. Diego has been a bit depressed being here for so long but seems to be a bit better these past 2 days.

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WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 10, 2008 06:22 PM, PST
We are actually glad they refused our case as at CHLA as we did not want to go there. It was an unexpected blessing. Not sure what is going on now with the insurance company as I have not received any calls. Diego will have a chest x-ray in the morning and a MRI of his head and neck tomorrow at 4 PM. Praying for good results. Diego has been sleeping more and seems to be coughing less.


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FRIDAY, DECEMBER 12, 2008 09:32 AM, PST
No MRI results. Not sure if they read them on the weekend so I think we will know more Monday. Hopefully it looks great and it will just be the tool to finally get his stereostatic radiation done next week. The Dr. said the chest x-ray continues to show improvement. Diego has an annoying cough and some pain. He is still on oxygen. Yesterday he had a good day until he was hungry and could not eat until after the MRI. Hoping he will eat more today. We have been here for a full month today. Frank has to go back to work next week.




MONDAY, DECEMBER 15, 2008 09:44 AM, CST
I am unclear about the MRI results. I do know that Diego has a 8mm lesion in the front part of his brain again. The Dr said it looks pretty good in there though. We are planning on starting the radiation soon but we need another MRI that takes thinner slices to plan the field to be radiated. Diego is having pain under his right arm and lymph nodes have popped up on his neck near his surgery site. We do not know if that is new disease or reactive nodes. Not sure if I mentioned that he got a new double lumen port placed under his skin about 3 weeks ago. This makes everything easier. The MRI is scheduled for Thursday but they are trying to move it up. Looks like we may be here for Christmas. I have not bought a thing for the kids yet! Diego could care less and Lilia will be happy with the few things I will manage to pick up. I'll try to do some shopping this weekend.


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TUESDAY, DECEMBER 16, 2008 07:18 PM, CST
The Real Deal

So we are still here. Hoping to be home for Christmas. Since we have been in the hospital my hard drive crashed with all my pictures!!! We found out my cousin works at Data Finders and is confident we will get them all back. It was right after I made the last slideshow. Then on Saturday while leaving for the hospital my car was hesitating in drive so I put Lilia's carseat in Frank's truck and the battery was dead! Lilia started crying. I explained that cars are like toys and sometimes you need new batteries. She still says she wants to get in my car and zoom again. I had to go to the one neighbors house I did not want to as I know they work nights and ask for help with a jump. Luckily they were awake. They also introduced us to our neighbor who is a mechanic at the shop just down the street. Real nice man. He said just give me the keys and your number and we will get it fixed! Good timing I guess since we don't need two vehicles hence why Frank's battery was so low from not being driven. So I'm still taking everything in stride and thinking wow God is taken care of us despite all our setbacks. I think I made the guy downstairs mad. We get the MRI results Lilia starts with the stomach flu on Monday morning but quickly recovers and starts eating. I go home to sleep last night and at 4 AM she starts throwing up again every 2 hrs until 10. Frank took today off. So there goes my idea of a good nights sleep but she did stay in bed until 11:15 so I did too. Good timing for a bad thing again though. Nice being at home on a rainy day until I call Frank and find out Diego was gasping for air last night! Could be that he was coughing and then choked and anxiety but he has been breathing fast again. Most likely from the sinus infection they found on the MRI. His ability to fight infection is zero for now and mostly likely through the weekend. He has been coughing and having belly pain. They added a new antibiotic to cover this in case it is bacterial and any skin infection since they are putting two screws in his head tomorrow for radiation which may start Sunday. So I was feeling very overwhelmed this morning and for some reason all the clocks in the house need new batteries and that really annoyed me-LOL! Plus I misplaced my cell phone! I am worried but am doing my best to put it in God's hands. Please pray that his mucous drys up and he can breath much better. Also his heart rate is elevated. Pray for guidance for the Dr's and us. I miss shopping for the kids at Christmas and the excitement of the season. Thank you all who are told me that gifts were already taken care of. I still hope to slip out and by 1 or two from me.


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SUNDAY, DECEMBER 21, 2008 02:37 PM, CST
Sorry I have not updated sooner. Things are a bit touch and go. On Thursday Diego did great with his procedure and MRI for radiation. On Friday he could not do the CT planning due to a cough. On Friday night I went home to sleep and at about 4 am Diego was coughing, hyper ventilated and passed out for about 3 or 4 minutes. The next morning the on call Dr wanted to know if we wanted to put him on a respirator. We were a bit in shock as we thought he was improving. The Dr ordered a CT and preliminary it did not look like much change so this was good. On Sunday though the official result read that it was mixed with areas of improvement in both lungs but new areas in the right and a small spot on his liver which was not in the image before so it is hard to say if it is new. Diego had a bad night last night as he is having pain again. We put him back on his pain pump. We hope to talk to our Dr today and suggest a new treatment that is done outpatient and go home. Not sure how quickly we can get home as a lot of things will need to be set up. Please pray that Diego can make it through this and get home. Pray that we can have some quality time. We are not giving up hope. We know God can heal Diego.



SUNDAY, DECEMBER 21, 2008 08:30 PM, AKST
So we are hoping to be home on Wednesday!!! We will do an infusion of Navelbine which is not immune suppressing and then go home. We will go in to get this infusion weekly. Diego will be on oxygen and his pain pump but we ALL need to be home. Diego will have his last GCSF shot tonight. With the new chemo he will not need it. If Diego's lungs clear enough we will go ahead with his radiation. If you missed the previous post please read.

A special thank you to our Parkcrest Christian Preschool family that brought over so many gifts on Saturday. When they told me they bought the doll house I wanted for Lilia I cryed. It really made those feelings of needing to shop for them myself go away. It means so much to us! Well it means we will really have CHRISTmas. I am so behind on so many thank you's. The food, gifts and money everyone has sent has really got us through this long and trying time.


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We had plans to bring Diego home today but God had other plans. Diego went to be with our heavenly Father at 3:07 PM today. He fought so hard till the bitter end.


RIP buddy! You are still my hero!




Your friend,
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Thats a tough end to a long fight and my sympathies are with everyone who lost a loved one when Diego passed. Thanks for sharing his story with us Adam, he was a cool kid and a big inspiration.


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Rest in peace my friend. You are still my hero also.

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I'm really sorry to hear that. Frown


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Adam, give Frank and Michelle my consolations and Justice a big hug.
It's hard losing a friend, and for a young guy Justice must be feeling some heavy emotions.
Misty eyed.


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sungam wrote:
Adam, give Frank and Michelle my consolations and Justice a big hug.
It's hard losing a friend, and for a young guy Justice must be feeling some heavy emotions.
Misty eyed.
He doesn't realy understand death... He asked if Diego has wings.


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this is so sad

my condolences to friends and family

diego was such a fighter

he will always be a hero to me


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he will always be a hero to me
Me too.


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I am really sad to hear this terrible news. What a remarkable boy. My condolences.


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Michelle wrote:
THURSDAY, DECEMBER 25, 2008 09:26 PM, CST
Diego died in our arms surrounded by people who love him. He started having breathing problems the night before and went from 4 liters of oxygen on the nasal cannula to 10 liters with a mask. At one point his saturation was only 72 and his heart rate was falling to 87. He had been at 97- 98 breathing saturation and heart rate of 130's. He was working so hard to breathe. His heart rate went up to 183 and 100% saturation but still was struggling to breathe and it just did not stop. I think a tumor in his lung burst and took over what was left of his breathing space. We told him about an hour before he died he could rest now, that he could stop fighting. He said I want to fight. He was so loving up until the end. Leaving him cold and alone in his bed was the hardest thing we ever did. We know he was not in there but it is hard to except. We miss him so much but the gravity of the loss has not really sunk in so I imagine that this will get harder. For now we watch videos and look at pictures. We cry uncontrollably but also still laugh. It does not seem real.


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Adam - thanks for telling me about Diego a while ago. I hadn't been following his fight lately but this was not the sort of update I would have liked to see. I can only offer my condolences and add my admiration of this little giant, along with others here.


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rrrADAM wrote:
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Adam, give Frank and Michelle my consolations and Justice a big hug.
It's hard losing a friend, and for a young guy Justice must be feeling some heavy emotions.
Misty eyed.
He doesn't realy understand death... He asked if Diego has wings.

I damn near cried when I read this. I haven't been following Diego's story for some time now. I'm so sorry for your and your son's loss. There's nothing worse than losing someone so close to you. My condolences, Adam.


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That's hard to read Adam.

RIP. Hope the family and friends can heal.


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Thanx all for the well wishes... Karen and I flew back to the LBC Saturday to support Frank and Michelle as best we could. Michelle reads every single message left on Diego's Guestbook, and she appreciates every single message, and has noticed that people from all over the world have left notes, many from this site.

Karen and Nat, another friend, have gathered together items to make luminaries tomorrow night at Diego's house, so if anyone is nearby Long Beach, CA and would like to light a luminary for him just email Nat at the email shown below and she will give you directions.


Michelle wrote:
SATURDAY, DECEMBER 27, 2008 01:36 AM, CST
Everyone is asking about Diego's Memorial. We are thinking January 7th but not set in stone. We should know by Monday. We will most likely have his viewing this week though as he will be cremated after his viewing to be spread in the sea at a later date, possibly next December 24th. It will be at Parkcrest Church in Long Beach and I will post all details here when they are in place.

I hope to update on our Christmas tomorrow.





SUNDAY, DECEMBER 28, 2008 01:39 PM, CST
This entry was written by friends.

There are many of you who would like to do something for the Fuentes Family. As friends and family you are welcome to come on Tuesday night to light a candle for Diego and his family at their home. Please come anytime between 6 and 9 PM. There will be luminaries (candles in bags) ready for everyone to light, as well as a book for you to leave a message. You are welcome to leave a memento, (i.e. picture, flowers, cards, or anything appropriate). If you need directions you can email to

gnatsemail[at]aol.com

Although they are aware we will be doing this, we do not wish to disturb Frank, Michelle and Lilia. So please leave your candles on the lawn quietly.

All of your prayers, comments, entries to this site, and emails have all touched the family.

Thank you.





This is Michelle. On Wednesday December 31st if you would like to say good bye to Diego's earthly body there will be a viewing from 3-6 at:

Luyben Family Dilday-Mottell Mortuary
5161 Arbor Road
Long Beach, CA 90808
USA

He will be cremated on a later day.


And again, please feel free to leave a note in his guestbook:
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes


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Light a candle for me, would you please?


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WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 24, 2008 09:04 PM, PST
We had plans to bring Diego home today but God had other plans. Diego went to be with our heavenly Father at 3:07 PM today. He fought so hard till the bitter end.


RIP buddy! You are still my hero!




Your friend,
Adam

Adam I am so sorry - my thoughts and prayers to Diegos loving family. He definately has wings.


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sungam wrote:
Light a candle for me, would you please?
I did.



Michelle wrote:
SUNDAY, DECEMBER 28, 2008 01:39 PM, CST
The Luminaries were beautiful last night. Thank you all that came. Lilia had to go out and light one after knocking on the windows and saying hi to everyone. We also had to take her out when I got a glimpse of Pandie, Diego's favorite therapy dog and her sister. We stayed out there until 11 PM. It was so peaceful and beautiful and meant so much to us.


The viewing is today. Please only come if you need to. I do not want people to feel obligated to come. This in no way is a gesture of support. It is for those of us who need this type of closure. I know for many this does not help with closure but makes it worse so please do what you need to.


We do want everyone who can to come to Diego's Memorial Service. This will be Wednesday January 7, 2009 at Parkcrest Christian Church at 4 PM. I will post more info later. Lilia will be there but know it may not be something you want to expose your young child to, even if they were Diego's buddy and we completely understand.


Thank you for all the prayers, food, flowers and support.


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I've been following Diego's progress on CaringBridge since you posted about it last year. Thank you for being a conduit for the thoughts and prayers from the climbing community to Diego and his family. I'm very saddened that this is the end for Diego in this world, but his story and the brave battle he fought will remain as an inspiration for others. My sincerest condolences to his friends and family.

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Michelle wrote:
FRIDAY, JANUARY 02, 2009 05:02 PM, CST
Diego's viewing was solemn but beautiful. He truly looked like an angel and we knew the moment we saw him that he is in heaven.
Diego's Memorial will be on Wednesday January 7, 2009 at 4 PM at :
Parkcrest Christian Church
3936 Woodruff Ave
Long Beach 90808
http://www.parkcrestheartwell.org/...ge.asp?page_id=49011



And this is from Diego's Grandfather, Michelle's dad:
In reply to:
FRIDAY, JANUARY 02, 2009 12:02 PM, CST
Hello Frank and Michelle and precious Lilia Ballerina,


Though I have shared this wondrous, hard and miraculous journey that is the life of Diego Fuentes with you, I have only infrequently posted in your guest book. In the three years that Diego has battled this "Kraken with a capital C" I have seen the miracles multiply in our lives and in the lives of so many who have posted in this guest book.


I have witnessed the overwhelming outpouring of God's love through His people, His church world wide. I have watched lives change in front of me and hearts turn to our Father God. I have read postings celebrating, crying out to and worshiping the God who loves each of us so dearly and passionately. I have been blessed with the expressions of God's heart of love poured out through His family to all of us in postings representing 6 continents that I can list:

North America, South America, Europe, Asia, Africa and Australia.


This amazing soul, Diego, has, through his sweetness, joy, tremendous courage, passion for wonder and love of life touched many thousands of people. He has challenged us and encouraged us. He has accomplished these things in 5 years of life.


His sweet unencumbered relationship with Jesus has been instrumental in bringing souls to Christ including some very close to him.


Frank and Michelle, your passion, determination, love and courage have inspired us no less than that of Diego.
Their have been numerous confirmations of this in the lives of many both locally and beyond as stated in this guestbook.


I could continue to write indeffinitely. I am overwhelmed with the scope of the "Diego effect."

I know it is said that God takes souls to heaven at the appointed time. In this instance I believe that God welcomed Diego to heaven and said, "Well done, good and faithful servant."


I grieve the loss of Diego's physical presence here with us but i feel the presence of his soul and his influence now and for eternity.

Diego fought with courage, he never gave up. Death did not defeat Diego.

I paraphrase William Wallace:

"Death can take away Diego's life but it can never take away his freedom in Christ."


A very proud grampa, Tim



Tim Curran
He also plays mandolin, and wrote a beautiful 'Pirate Song' about Diego that I a trying to find an online site to host it so I can share it with all of you... Please PM me with a site that can host it if you know of one.





If you haven't already, PLEASE take a moment to leave his family a brief message in his guestbook:
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes


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Michelle wrote:
SUNDAY, JANUARY 04, 2009 08:16 PM, CST
We are going to have a memory box at Diego's Memorial. We will provide 3x5 cards but feel free to write one at home on paper and bring it to the memorial. Pictures are welcome as well. We will cherish these memories along with our own. Don't forget to put your name. I promise to write more on how Lilia and us are doing after the memorial. Even with all the help there are many things we have to personally handle like going through over 5,000 pictures that we have taken since Diego was born for the slideshow and sifting through endless hours of video to capture Diego's essence in about 10 minutes. We all miss him dearly. More everyday.


Diego's Memorial will be on Wednesday January 7, 2009 at 4 PM at :
Parkcrest Christian Church

5950 Parkcrest Street
Long Beach 90808
http://www.parkcrestheartwell.org/...ge.asp?page_id=49011


Nearest cross streets are Carson and Woodruff


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Here's a pic of Diego a bit over a year ago, at his 4th birthday party before he lost his arm:



And I figured I'd share this too... It's from an email I just sent a friend:

In reply to:
Remember, "Make A Wish" had flown Diego and his family out to Florida in October so they could go to Disney World and other attractions around Orlando, and Karen and the kids were able to drive down and spend almost a week with them? Diego was very happy to see Karen and Sage, but most of all his best friend, Justice. He had a blast goofing off with him, but he was coughing a lot and having head aches... When they got back to the LBC, an MRI and CT showed that the cancer had spread to his lungs and cerebral fluid around his brain, and it was pretty much downhill from there. He was suffering for the last 2 months, and at least now he isn't suffering anymore.

He died in their arms with Michelle telling Diego he didn't have to fight anymore, that he could just relax, but he said he wanted to fight, he wanted to live, and his last gasp a minute later was a quiet dinosaur roar. (he used to always roar like a dinosaur).

We flew back to support Frank and Michelle as best we could, as Karen was/is Michelle's best friend. She got a pretty cool tattoo to memorialize him on her wrist: A butterfly, with the body being a gold ribbon for children's cancer, and 2 D's hidden in the wings, as Justice used to call Diego DD, and Frank designed a tattoo for him as well that he got on his forearm: A Pirate flag with a skull and crossbones with his name and birth and death dates, where the skull is a T-Rex head, as Diego was fond of pirates and dinosaurs. I got a couple of red and black nautical stars on my upper chest near my shoulders since we were there. I hung for a bit at my old coffeehouse and saw many friends, some of whom almost broke me in half with hugs... Made me sad to realize how much I am missed, and all the friends I've left behind.

Justice doesn't really understand death, as he asked if Diego had wings, and when we were flying back to SoCal he asked if we were flying to Heaven.
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Wow.


My condolances to you Adam and to Diego's family. This has been such a heartfelt journey that you have shared with us.


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Michelle wrote:
TUESDAY, JANUARY 06, 2009 04:27 PM, CST
Today is really hard. I don't know if it is tomorrow being the memorial or driving by the school seeing the kids get out and boys of varying ages as I went to shop for clothes for my 5 year old son's funeral. Or the Carousel ride Lilia had to take at the mall. The reward for both kids anytime I had to drag them there. Lilia rode on her horse called Lucy and pointed out Diego's horse. Maybe trying to type into words that will never be able to convey my love for my son to be read at the memorial or finalizing the video for Diego's Memorial. It is all just too much. I want him back. I want to glance back in my rear view mirror and see him throw me a kiss as he catches my glance. I want him to tell me he loves me more than chocolate and throw his arms around me and give me a million kisses.

Diego's favorite color was green. If you want to wear it but he would be happy if you wore your favorite color as well. Dress as you like. I will be wearing slacks but jeans are fine too.

Diego's Memorial will be on Wednesday January 7, 2009 at 4 PM at :
Parkcrest Christian Church

5950 Parkcrest Street
Long Beach 90808
http://www.parkcrestheartwell.org/...ge.asp?page_id=49011


Nearest cross streets are Carson and Woodruff


I'm typing this at work, wearing green.


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Hey Adam,

Coincidentally I have a green shirt on today. I would hope that you share the heartfelt condolances of this community and the support that we have shared with you through this ordeal. I know it would mean much to myself and I bet several others who have been following this story.

Celebrate Diego's life. For it was a great one.


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Michelle and Frank both know about this thread, and have for over a year.

Also, there are a few members who have left messages themselves in Diego's guestbook:
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes

She used to read them all to Diego, and he as well as the whole family, were amazed at how many people from all over the world cared about and were inspired by Diego. Even his grandfather alludes to this in his message posted above, citing the different continents messages were from, many from this site.

It helped them then, and continues to.


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WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 07, 2009 10:21 PM, CST
What Frank, Diego's Daddy, read at the Memorial Tonight. I'll post mine tomorrow.

November 12 is the day I witnessed the miracle of life, manifested through Diego's birth. Before he took his first breath on this Earth I had a deep love for him. I was proud as any father would be. When I saw his first ultrasound and the pictures before he was born it really shook me. His profile looked just like him when he got older. His birth was a normal natural childbirth. He was long and really thin but with out complications. I felt very fortunate that he was OK. Diego's physical development was normal. From early on he was very attentive to what we said and smiled very often. It took him a while to crawl because of the congenital problem with his right arm but he found a way. He always kept very busy with either his toys or anything else he became curious with..

Some of my fondest memories of Diego are from 18 months and up. His energy, his smile and uncontrollable laughter that was so contagious. Together with those sparkling brown eyes he just melted hearts. I remember our second camping at El Capitan with our friends. Diego had to be around 23 months or so. He literally had me jogging for about 3 miles one way. People that we passed thought it was hilarious how this little dude was just leading the way. They were rooting us on when we went and on the way back too. How embarrassing. I was pretty tired too.

Diego was very passionate about many thing including things he enjoyed to learn about. Dinosaurs and animals in general were one of his true passions. This demanded I brush up on an overwhelming amount of information. For example: He knew the difference between a Mutaburrasaurus and an Iguanadon. Does anyone know? Didn't think so! This passion was not just a faze. I remember taking him to Toy's R Us and instead of wanting an extravagant toy he would pick out a whale or some reptile or dinosaur. After I let him watch the movie transformers that his grandparents bought I took him to KB toys down at the Lakewood plaza. Instead of picking a couple of 10 dollar transformers takes two 5 dollar dinosaurs. That was great!! His love for sea life and other animals took us to numerous fun filled trips to Sea World, the L.A. Zoo and the LB Aquarium.


While Diego was in treatment for his disease, I still tried to fit in as much father and son time as I could. I took him to the theater to see Kung- Fu Panda and WALL-E. I also took him to see Walking with Dinosaurs which he really enjoyed because they were so life-like. He would remind me, "Remember Daddy, they look real but there only robots and the small ones are controlled by humans, so they are not really scary." When ever I took him I would ask him if he wanted to eat and of course we were either going to Island's or CPK which were his favorites.

At play time Diego was the orchestrater. He loved to role-play. He was the lead man, always setting up and preparing what his friends or I were to play with him. Sometimes he liked my suggestions which I really appreciated. One night I let Diego watch Pirates of the Caribbean. I know it's not the best film for a 4 year old to watch but from there he just went bezerk for anything pirate. That really made him a big fan of the next 2 POTC movies especially the one with the Kraken. Before Pirates he was into Peter Pan for a while but after Jack Sparrow and Davy Jones, Captain Hook look like a fool!

Diego's vocabulary, timing, and thoughts were very well developed for his age. You felt like you were talking to an adult. Many people who met Diego and experience his essence called him an old soul. I think of him as an exceptional soul sent here to change hearts. Although his stay here on earth was short, his purpose was fulfilled. He touched many lives with his wit, charm, silliness,strength and faith in God. He came to fill his family with love of which he had plenty of, and gave me a especial gift. His coming brought me many things to be thankful for. Diego taught me patience, caring, strength, persistence, never giving up and no matter how bad things get. Letting laughter, drown out your sorrows and pain.

I will miss the precious moments he and I had, just the two of us. I made a bad habit of laying in bed with him early on. After Mom sang and prayed with him she would tuck him in. After that I would pray with him too and lay in bed with him. It made the nights longer than they really needed to be but now I don't regret it one bit. We would lay there and share stories and play guessing games most of the time or just talk about anything that came to mind. One night, just out of the blue he started telling me how he is going to be a scientist when he grows up. I told him that was great but first you have to go to school for a long time. This is what he told me "Well first before anything I want to be a kid, then a teen-ager, then I going to be a Paleontologist which is a scientist and Doctor then I will be a Daddy
with a goat-tee." I told him if you keep doing good in school and try as hard as you can on everything you do, I don't know how this can be a problem to accomplish.

I so wished and prayed that this could of happened for Diego, but that was not the plan set forth for him. I know he could been great scientist and Father. To me, he was great friend and of course son. I will miss him very much. Although his passing has been very tough, and I have not fully felt the effect of losing him. I feel very blessed that I was with him in his last hours and that he was in my arms as he left this earth. He left Lilia, Michelle, and I with some much love and good memories, his spirit will always be an inspiration to our lives.


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Hey Adam,

Coincidentally I have a green shirt on today. I would hope that you share the heartfelt condolances of this community and the support that we have shared with you through this ordeal. I know it would mean much to myself and I bet several others who have been following this story.

Celebrate Diego's life. For it was a great one.

coincidence!!!i didn't read this until this am, but i was out yesterday and picked up some more yarn to make more winter beanies. I wanted to make myself one with a pom pom. i picked out this great green yarn with sparkles in it. i crocheted the whole day to make a fantastic green and black beanie with a green pom pom. It will be my diego hat. i will definitely wear it out on the slopes and ski some runs for diego.

thanks adam for sharing diego's life and struggle with cancer. we all have much to learn from this little boy's short life.

my love to diego's family and friends


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I read Franks words this morning. That has to be heart breaking. Still in my thoughts and prayers.


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My condolences Adam to all involved. I'm not sure I can pass along anything that hasn't already been said. You have our support all around.


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FRIDAY, JANUARY 09, 2009 08:26 AM, CST
Frank read his own and added a bit too his like how Diego would at playtime say OK Daddy I'm a lion and you are a lamb!

This is what I wrote to be read for me at the Memorial:


My words will never convey the love I have for Diego. From the moment you were in my belly I loved you. On the day you were born I realized an incredible new kind of love and I wept with joy as I held you for the first time. You made us a family as our first born child. We never knew the love and joy that you would bring. From the very beginning you loved being held and would gaze endlessly into my eyes as I nursed you or held you in my arms. Your favorite place was laying on Mommy or Daddy's chest. As you learned new things we were always amazed. I was always so protective of you. I felt uncomfortable when you were not at my side. I could not wait for Daddy to get home to tell him all we did that day and share anything new you did. As you got older your favorite place was still our chest. Always full of hugs, kisses and I love you's throughout the day. You had to cuddle for at least a half hour every morning. The simplest things amazed you like an insect or squirrel. During our Make-A-Wish trip besides seeing his best buddy Justice and family Diego's favorite things were going to Gatorland and petting a baby crocodile, finding a baby lizard at Disneyworld and the raccoon that came to our porch and found the half eaten cookie that Lilia left on the rocking chair and came to the window and gave him high fives. You loved going for walks and talking. When Lilia was born Diego instantly fell in love with her. He never let her out of his sight. The day at the park when Lilia was old enough to sit I took her out of her sling and put her on a blanket. A little boy came to look at Lilia and you got right between them with your with legs and arms out and said, NO!! That is my sister. I told you it was OK and you said no it is not! As she started venturing off the blanket you were never far behind. When she was walking you always made sure the kids she was playing with were nice before you went to play with your friends. Diego cherished his friends and family. At the grocery store Diego would remind me to buy Daddy's tea or Lilia's favorite snack. He knew your favorites and always had an entertaining and endearing story to tell about you too. When you asked if he had a sister the answer was much more than yes. Diego would talk about how silly or crazy she was and add a story that that proved it. He loved to laugh and his big belly laugh was so contagious. Diego also would do anything to make you laugh. He had this wit about that was very mature. He would catch adults off guard with his wit and humor. Diego loved going to the park and playing in the wading pools. He also loved to learn. He seemed to have an encyclopedia in his head. Diego loved learning everything possible about animals and dinosaurs. He then would teach you about them and quiz you. When we found out Diego had cancer just before his 3rd birthday it was really hard on him at first. He did not like the hospital, but later learned to have fun there too although he always wanted to be home. He met a special friend Pandie. She was the resident therapy dog. A tiny little black and white pomeranian. Pandie would do a few tricks but Diego just wanted to give her cheerios. He always ordered a box just for her on Wednesday. Pandie soon had a little sister Bella Trix. Diego loved hearing about how crazy she was and when he met he reminded her of his own sister. Once Diego was home from the hospital he was 98% of the time his energetic self. We found a park in Long Beach called Pan Am where there was hardly anyone else there and his friends joined us unless they were sick. We had had Sea World passes and went many times. We lived everyday to the fullest. Diego also loved school and his teachers. He was so motivated to learn that he was reading 3 and 4 letter words at 4 and a half. Mrs. Moons cool animal beanie babies were a great motivation as well. He was so proud of his work at school. When Diego relapsed and lost his arm I was a little worried how he would handle it. Dr. Femino the surgeon said I know Diego, he will do very well. Boy was he right. Diego had a sense of freedom like never before. We all fell in love with his little arm and were amazed at how much it could do. Unfortunately the amputation only extended Diego's life rather than saving it but his quality of life was great. The Saturday before Diego died the intensivist Dr wanted him to try a high flow nasal cannula. Diego wanted to go to the coffee shop and get a brownie. He tried the cannula and hated it. It was bigger and had too much air pressure. We left the room to talk to the Dr outside the door and he told the respiratory therapist look this is what is going to happen. I am going to the coffee shop first. Then when we come back up I will try the cannula on without the air. Then you can slowly turn it up and I will tell you if I like it or not. The therapist came out, told us and said wow, I feel dumb! That is exactly how I should of done it! We were all laughing. In the end we lost Diego. We told him in his last hour it was OK to rest. That he did not have to fight anymore. That Jesus was waiting for him and we too would be there one day. He said I want to fight. Right before he took his last breath he let out a final dinosaur roar. Just as he did every time he was sedated. I told him go to sleep, we are here. You are OK. We love you. Diego taught us so much and gave so much in his five years 1 months and 12 days. His spirit and strength gave us no choice but to be strong and spirited. Diego lives within our souls and hearts forever.







SATURDAY, JANUARY 10, 2009 07:12 PM, CST
This is another piece I wrote to be read. A few words were left out when read. See previous posts for our personal memories.


Special Thank You From the Fuentes Family

We were surrounded by the most incredible people through most of our cancer journey. We will never forget those of you who were right by our side. Everyone who prayed, brought food and donated money and gifts. It really meant more than you could ever imagine. Parkcrest Preschool you guys surrounded us in love which extended into the church. Sandy Moons and Christa Chavez for the Diego Fund and so much more. Also special thank you to my cousin Kelly who works at Drive Savers and made our slideshow possible by getting the pictures out of the hard drive. I would be lost without our photos. Our parents who were there at a moments notice.

Dr. Calderwood for being so compassionate and honest. He truly cared for Diego and our family from the start . Dr. Femino or as Diego called him, Dr. for Nemo who was with us from the beginning and gently broke the news that our son had cancer on a Friday at 7 PM and has us set up to see a Dr. in Long Beach on Monday morning. Diego and us trusted you every step of the way. We will never forget how you stayed through our sons 15 hour surgery that we thought would be 4-6 hours and gave us updates long after your 2 hour part was over. Then you met us at 2 am in the PICU to tell us he would be fine. Dr. Sato also for being so compassionate and brilliant. You stood by us never giving up on Diego. Going to bat for us as if Diego was your child and putting up with his poop talk. Sarcoma patients at City of Hope are so blessed to have you as their Dr and Sarcoma patients around the world to have you working in the field trying to find a cure for this rare and aggressive disease. Child Life at Miller Children's Hospital really taught us how to cope and help Diego every step of the way. Child life at City of Hope for making sure we were all OK. The nurses at Miller Children's Hospital and City of Hope, you guys are the most amazing people on this earth. Social Workers at Miller Children's Linda and Tammi, always there to listen and help. We really needed that. Valerie you pulled out all the stops. You are awesome. Amy, we hold you dear. You always seemed to be around when we needed to see a familiar face, especially the last day. So many other Dr's that were so kind and caring. We could of never made it without you all. Words are not enough to express our gratitude.


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SUNDAY, JANUARY 11, 2009 08:39 AM, CST
Drummer-boys and butterflies

By Christa Chavez


When I was a child, my favorite Christmas show was “The Little Drummer Boy.” Sure, Rudolph, Frosty, and the rest were magical, but there was something about the little drummer boy playing for baby Jesus that mesmerized me, and my heart nearly burst from the joy of it.

This past Christmas day, I got word via email that a little boy I knew died from cancer. Five-year-old Diego Fuentes, who had been battling cancer in various forms for most of his life, had succumbed Christmas Eve at The City of Hope. His parents, Frank and Michelle, were at his side, quietly encouraging him to go to sleep, to go to Jesus. “I want to fight,” Diego countered as he struggled to breathe. Moments later, Diego gave out one final dinosaur roar before he was whisked to heaven.

I spent a couple of days muddling through the misery and mystery of Diego’s death and struggling to find words to comfort his parents. His mother had kept a regular journal of Diego’s life on a Caring Bridge website since his cancer diagnosis at age 3. The site invited all friends and family to post comments, to sign the “guest book.” What on earth could I possibly say to comfort Diego’s parents, whose lives seemed a perpetual torture chamber and, now, had lost their only son? What could I give?

Then, that powerful image emerged in my mind: the drummer boy, playing before the tiny infant in the stable, as Mary and Joseph smiled radiantly at him. I had to believe that I could give something of value. I had to be humble enough to give what little I could.

I hopped on the Internet and found a Huntington Beach woman who makes custom jewelry. One of her designs was a silver disk pendant overlaid with a sterling butterfly. Just below the butterfly, she engraves your name of choice. Bingo. I emailed her, asking her to please rush my order and engrave the name “Diego.” Within two days, the delicate, shining necklace was in my hands.

But, doubts came afresh. Should I mail the gift to Michelle? Knock on her door and hand it to her? Give it to her at the memorial? I suddenly felt silly again. How on earth could this piece of jewelry do any good? Who was I to think that I would know how to comfort her? After all, I had never even met Diego’s mother; I had only communicated with her several times via email.

I put all of those questions aside last Saturday morning, jumped into my car and drove to Diego’s house. A couple newspapers sat in the walkway; an arrangement of fresh flowers had been left on the porch. The house was silent. I pushed my card and ribbon-tied box through their mail-slot and heard them plunk to the floor on the other side.

On the card, I explained that the gift “represents transformation and new life.” Diego, like the butterfly, had become his most beautiful self.

Afterward, I found myself frequently checking my email to see if Michelle had gotten the gift. Again, I struggled: Of course she does not have time to email you, Christa; she is overwhelmed with profound grief. A day went by, then two, three, and four. I realized my expectation was unrealistic and that I probably would not hear from Michelle for many weeks, if at all. I had given what little I could, and that was all I needed to know.

Last night was Diego’s memorial at Parkcrest Church in Long Beach. I arrived a few minutes early and found a seat. In the front of the church, I could see the backs of Diego’s parents as they sat quietly. Although I had never met either of them in person, I recognized them from photos. I turned to an acquaintance, Gloria, next to me. “I wonder if I should introduce myself?” I asked Gloria, knowing I could not attend the reception afterward. Gloria strongly encouraged me. “Yes,” she said. “Michelle would want to meet you.”

Goodness! I felt exactly like that drummer boy as I stood and, in front of the packed church, made my way to the front pew. I fully expected Diego’s parents to be weeping inconsolably. There was a bench in front of them. I took a deep breath, sat down, and turned towards them.

“Hi, I’m Christa,” I whispered. I looked at Michelle’s face for the first time; it glowed with a peacefulness that filled me with calm. Michelle smiled and grabbed the pendant at her neck. “Thank you,” she said, as the silver butterfly caught the light. “I love it.”

Then, something happened that I did not expect. As I sat through Diego’s memorial and witnessed the incredible strength, love and faith of his parents, grandparents, caregivers and all of those who knew him, I realized that Diego was not the only butterfly: We all were. All of us who adored this child had been transformed by his journey – by his relentless determination, his iron will, his light, his faith, his sweetness. All of us who dared to intertwine our hearts with his and to journey with him through this disease had undergone a metamorphosis: We had all become our most beautiful selves. The cocoon of suffering had been shed, and what emerged was that which endures all things: love.

Like the little drummer boy, Diego had humbly brought his gift, and my heart nearly burst from the joy of it.

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Karen wrote:
SUNDAY, JANUARY 11, 2009 02:40 PM, CST
I haven't written in the guest book since before Christmas eve. I have attempted many of times but always find myself deleting each sentence, and then just deleting the whole thing. There are so many things I can say about Diego.

I met him and Michelle when he was just nine months through a moms group. There was always something about Diego that was special. Something in his eyes and the way he would talk. My son Justice was only three months older and they became best friends. They made a great pair, with Diego laughing at how clumsy and silly Justice was. For years we would meet at the park, almost three times a week. With other moms joining us as well. We found great friendships and love for each others children, as they were our own. We would move from one park to the next but by far going to Natalie's was the best. We would all sit around and talk while the kids played. Michelle and her family became a huge part of my life. Family is what I call them! I see people write about Michelle and Frank and say all these great things. It's all true plus more! They are great people and I'm so happy to have them in my life. Michelle you have been like a big sister to me! You and Frank are great parents.

Finding out Diego had cancer was the worst thing. I was so sad and not knowing what would lie ahead. He had a good prognosis and things seem to go ok for the first year but when he relapsed it was so hard. Why him, why Michelle, Frank and their family?? I had all these questions but no answers then. I tried to keep my kids well so that Michelle, Diego and lilia could come to my house and be safe. It made me feel better that I was doing something. Michelle went from going to the park almost every day to being stuck at home. I wanted to be an outlet.

We moved to North Carolina last May and I was heartbroken to leave them. I was happy that Parkcrest was lending their support to them. They are such great people there and have opened there hearts to Diego and his family. Thank You Parkcrest!

The Disney trip was keeping me going, knowing that we would be meeting them there. Of course it was great to see them and it was just like old times. Diego laughing at Justice! Diego and Lilia made it easy to say good bye with them laughing and calling me poopy head. I smiled and called them my little poop nuggets and kissed them good bye.

Christmas eve at about 12pm I had this weird feeling in my heart and decided to call Michelle. Michelle started to cry and I followed. Not understanding what she was saying I heard I love you and we hung up. I went to church that night and prayed my heart out for a miracle.

The next morning we opened gifts and I decided to check the caringbridge site. I saw the news and broke down! My husband and I immediately started checking into flights. I wanted to be there for my friend, my family! We spent a week in California and wish it could be more.

I didn't get the miracle that I had asked for but I did receive a gift. My view on life has changed because of Diego. I know he has touched so many people around the world and his name will live on. I will tell everyone I know about Diego and his family. So they can be touched as well!

Thank you Frank and Michelle for letting me be apart of your lives and giving me a gift!

Love Karen and Family


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MONDAY, JANUARY 12, 2009 09:42 AM, PST
I am going to continue with the memories read at Diego's Memorial after today.

While in the hospital with Diego my cousin Margaret had a baby boy named Lucas. A few weeks later his mother noticed his eye bulging. After numerous tests he was found to have retinoblastoma a cancer of the eye and his eye was removed. We are hoping his other will be spared. They live in Georgia. I would like you to add Lucas to your prayer list. Here is his site address:www.caringbridge.org/visit/lucasasselin
The site was set up by his Grandmother, my Aunt.

I have so such to say but wanted to include all of these memories first. I will post the poem my sister read and possibly what my parents shared if they would like and our dear friends the Bingel's memories in the near future. Read Karen's guestbook post yesterday if you get a chance. I guess it is time to rewind to Christmas Eve. Can't we really rewind to Diego's birth and really be there again? We arrived home from the hospital after 7 PM and Lilia was so happy to see us and then looked around for Diego and said you left Diego all alone at the hospital!?! How do we tell her Diego left us while we were at the hospital? Not reading the grief manuals yet I told her he fell asleep and could not wake up again and that he was in heaven with our cat Jack. That night I read the how to explain to you child there brother is not coming back and it said you have to say DEAD! UGH! I guess she would never want anyone to sleep again or go to sleep herself if it was about sleep. So we told her and she asked questions. We explained how his body no longer works and as she asks more each day we talk more about it. On Christmas day we woke up to open the enormous amount of presents from a group of ladies associated with the pre-school and City of Hope. We were sitting in a circle and Lilia grabbed my Mother and my hand and said let's pray. She prayed, "Dear God please let Diego come back from the sky and be with us again. In Jesus name AMEN!" We are all crying she immediately gets up and sings shake your booty while dancing. A song and dance she would repeat anytime we would cry, even with the pastor present. We opened Lilia's gifts and they were all so perfect and wonderful! She loved the potty doll and actually is now potty trained except at night! The dollhouse was also better than imagined and this dog that grows and knows you name. She loves it! She chose Chi Chi out of all the names for the dog. It is really pretty cute and not creepy like a lot of those type of toys. There were also cute clothes and stuffed animals. It took forever to open all the presents as there were many and she needed to play with each toy for a while before opening the next. She was and is still so happy to have them. Mommy also got a fabulous basket full of much needed stuff to pamper with. Frank also loved his basket of goodies. We put Diego's gifts in his room and when everyone went home and Lilia was in bed we opened them. They were so perfect. He would of loved them all. I am sure a child at the hospital will enjoy them just as much. Frank had to keep a few and Lilia loves the camera and is getting quite good at taking pictures. The next day one of the Mom's we met at Miller's and who spoke at the funeral about meeting Diego for the first time brought over gifts from a group of Mom's that she talks to. There was a stuffed dog for Diego and the lady who gave it said she would like it too. I told her it was from Diego and she sleeps with him. One game they played involved walking and feeding there dogs and Lucy Lilia's snow leopard stuffed animal so it was really fitting. We were sad that Diego was not with us on Christmas but feeling blessed that Lilia had gifts and that so many people truly cared enough to do this for our family. Lilia still prays that same prayer everyday and ask questions about Diego being dead. She tells us she wants him and we tell he we do to and that he did not want to leave but is very happy now. We all miss him so terribly. Things are not the same. Our hearts ache. We hold each other close.


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WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 14, 2009 09:53 AM, CST
Ode to Diego



Farewell brave and gentle warrior.

You fought valiantly and though your road was hard, you

did it with a smile in your eyes and a radiant light emanating

from your heart that touched and changed all who encountered you.

The pain we all feel from losing you is overshadowed by

the legacy of strength, bravery and love you left behind.

You are and will always be at the very center of my heart.

Your rest is well deserved.

Be at peace, littlest warrior and know that we all carry on

for you

because you showed us how to be strong.

Written by my sister Jen


Better than Chili's- Claim Jumper and Curesearch an outstanding funder for childhood cancer research on January 20th:
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Michelle wrote:
THURSDAY, JANUARY 15, 2009 09:01 AM, CST
Diego " My Little Darling"
When you arrived into this world from the love your mommy and daddy have for each other you opened your eyes and I said "Welcome to your world, Diego!"
You opened your eyes and I saw for the first time those beautiful brown eyes. You were so little you fit into this tiny diaper. You had my heart completely.
Your daddy was so proud that day that he stood a little taller and his crest looked like a soldier at attention. Mommy beamed with the blush and glow of a new mommy looking at the miracle she just given birth to.
My favorite time with you as a baby was when mommy would let us fall asleep together you would lay candled in my left arm and you would look up at me with those beautiful brown eyes and I would sing "This little light of mine" circling my one finger above your eyes and stroking your eyebrows until we fell asleep.
As you grew we find out we had quite a jokester in the family. You have given us all many happy moments of laughter and joy.
We were all crushed to find out you had cancer, it was like a heavy boulder rolling over my body. Darkness set in and tried to steal my faith, joy and hope.
My heart was broken, how can God allow My little darling to suffer?
My little Darling, in your short 5 years you have show all of us what standing up to our biggest foes is all about.
As a little one you loved sea creature especially sharks and whales, and then it was dinosaurs. But as the cancer developed you became the "Littlest Warrior" after running in your first Cancer Run and then later took on the fight with the Kraken with a capital "C" as "Diego the Pirate"!
What a courageous little pirate you have been! You have touched more lives in your life time than many do in their whole adult lives, you have taught us all how to live each day more bravely, how to put on our armor and fight the good fight.
Your testimony of how you could still pray to God with your little arm has show us, if a small boy who has lost an arm can still pray what's the matter with the rest of us?
You asked for prayer and love when you were afraid, what about the rest of us?
You reached across the world with your mom's writings in Caring bridge and showed us how a pirate of God never gives up never let's go.
30 mins before you passed you said you wouldn't stop fighting.
God gave you the most loving and caring parents in the world, for such a brief moment in our time. By the grace of your parents I watched you come into this world and take your first breath and I watched you take you last in your daddy arms.
My little darling I am honored to be your grandma and will always remember our time together as the best years of our lives as a family.
As I watched you leave the loving arms of your earthly daddy and tenderness of your sweet mommy I knew that your heavenly father was taking up into his arms and welcoming you into paradise.
Until we meet again my little darling you will always be in my heart.
I love you, Diego, Grandma.


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Ya know, I usually check my email at work. So, as I'm reading the notifications on caringbridge, there's always tears on my cheeks. It's kinda hard explaining to the other guys why I'm crying over a kid I never knew, but they understand now, after reading all the updates. And quite alot of them(me included) want to do something for the family, but we're not sure what. So, Adam, you know them, maybe rc.com( and families) could do something. I know there is nothing we can do to ease the hurt, but........ hell, we gotta do something for this incredible family that is going through hell. Any suggestions?


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Ya know, I usually check my email at work. So, as I'm reading the notifications on caringbridge, there's always tears on my cheeks. It's kinda hard explaining to the other guys why I'm crying over a kid I never knew, but they understand now, after reading all the updates. And quite alot of them(me included) want to do something for the family, but we're not sure what. So, Adam, you know them, maybe rc.com( and families) could do something. I know there is nothing we can do to ease the hurt, but........ hell, we gotta do something for this incredible family that is going through hell. Any suggestions?
Michelle has listed a few organizations to support, most deal with childhood cancer, as she still wants to help all the families and children still dealing with this. Remember, the picture of Diego in the Cancer Run in my original post shows him running for other kids not himself, as Diego wanted to help other kids too. He wanted to "do his part".

Or, you can always make a tax deductable donation to the Diego Fund, shown on the carringbridge site, as they still have signifigant medical bills they are dealing with, to the tune of 6 figures.

But for the most part, any and all notes we leave them on the guestbook goes a long way. It really does, and a dontation would help the family, if you are in a possition to make one.



That said, here's Michelle's last:
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FRIDAY, JANUARY 16, 2009 01:42 PM, CST
Hoping to post what Grandpa Tim wrote for the Memorial and the Lyrics to the song My Dad wrote for Diego before he died for his Birthday in the next couple of days. This song was played by John Brown during one of the two slideshows during the Memorial:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BkogKAZGm_g


We miss our little hero.


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MONDAY, JANUARY 19, 2009 09:48 AM, CST
Claim Jumper tomorrow! You must have printed out the flyer and give it to your server. Go to: https://giftshop.curesearch.org/c-66-.aspx

We will be at the one in Long Beach at 11 am.







"We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope."

- - Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.




I went for a walk in the neighborhood alone yesterday. I realized how it had been over 4 years that I was able to take a walk and just be inside my head. I remember how I would go for walks with Diego sometimes twice a day just after he was born and he was in his infant seat facing me. I loved to stare at him and was happy to be his Mommy. I started to cry as I walked past the school and was tempted to through myself on the grass and let it all out but knew this would concern people. I walked on and was able to be at peace once again. I used to walk with a neighbor for motivation or as family for fun but had really missed this. It was a quiet mediation. I will be going for more walks likes this.


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TUESDAY, JANUARY 20, 2009 04:34 PM, CST
This is an entry I made in the guestbook on 1/02/2009. I also read it at the memorial service. I wanted to testify to the gift that the caringbridge family and guests have been to our family.

Though I have shared this wondrous, hard and miraculous journey that is the life of Diego Fuentes with you, I have only infrequently posted in your guest book. In the three years that Diego has battled this "Kraken with a capital C" I have seen the miracles multiply in our lives and in the lives of so many who have posted in this guest book.
I have witnessed the overwhelming outpouring of God's love through His people, His church world wide. I have watched lives change in front of me and hearts turn to our Father God. I have read postings celebrating, crying out to and worshiping the God who loves each of us so dearly and passionately. I have been blessed with the expressions of God's heart of love poured out through His family to all of us in postings representing 6 continents that I can list:
North America, South America, Europe, Asia, Africa and Australia.

This amazing soul, Diego, has, through his sweetness, joy, tremendous courage, passion for wonder and love of life touched many thousands of people. He has challenged us and encouraged us. He has accomplished these things in 5 years of life.

His sweet unencumbered relationship with Jesus has been instrumental in bringing souls to Christ including some very close to him.

Frank and Michelle, your passion, determination, love and courage have inspired us no less than that of Diego.
Their have been numerous confirmations of this in the lives of many both locally and beyond as stated in this guestbook.

I could continue to write indefinitely. I am overwhelmed with the scope of the "Diego effect."
I know it is said that God takes souls to heaven at the appointed time. In this instance I believe that God welcomed Diego to heaven and said, "Well done, good and faithful servant."

I grieve the loss of Diego's physical presence here with us but I feel the presence of his soul and his influence now and for eternity.
Diego fought with courage, he never gave up. Death did not defeat Diego.

I paraphrase William Wallace in Braveheart:

"Cancer can take away Diego's life but it can never take away his freedom in Christ."

On the same day in the guestbook Diane K, Mayborough posted the lyrics from a Mercy Me song. I quoted this chorus as a conclusion to my reading:

"In Christ there is no end
So I'll hold on to Jesus with all that I have
To see you again
To see you again"....Thank you, Diane

A very proud grampa, Tim


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https://www.griefhaven.org/mercyme.html


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WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 21, 2009 08:52 AM, CST
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You never know what or when a storm will take you over nor how strong it may be. We were a really dumb comedy the night before last night and in one scene the actor starts to cry in front of a girl he tried so hard to impress. She asks him if he is crying and he replies no I just have something in both my eyes. I immediately flash to the first time I cried in front of Diego. I had just finished speaking with the surgeon who performed the biopsy on Diego. He told me he was pretty sure it was some type of sarcoma and would let me know when the final pathology came in and he wanted to schedule a chest CT. He left the room and his nurse said take your time in the room. Leave when your ready. I immediately started to cry when they left. Diego said holding my hands looking up at me with his full head of beautiful, thick blonde hair, "Mommy what's wrong, are you OK?" I replied, "Yes baby my eyes are just watering." I remember his cute button up shirt and painter shorts. He truly looked like a living doll. I went into Diego's room and cried so hard I almost got sick a few times, choking. People can say at least he is not in pain anymore but really the pain was under control at the hospital. Whether he had some the hideous pain some cancer patients have or not it does not make the grief any less nor does it take the desire to have that person back away. Especially a young child. Yes Diego created a lot of positive change but his death did not further that. I cannot ever say it is a positive that I do not have my child. It is unnatural. I will grieve him as long as he is dead.

The grief has set in deeper this week. Today will mark 4 weeks since he died. 27 morning I have woke up without my son. "Knowing the Lord and His comfort does not take away the ache; instead, it supports you in the middle of the ache. Until I get home to heaven, there's going to be an ache that won't quit. The grieving process for me is not so much a matter of getting rid of the pain, but not being controlled by the pain." author unknown

So I woke up yesterday morning doing my best to hold it together. We went to Claim Jumper for lunch and then Whole Foods. I have been once before since he died but today it was harder to see Diego's must have's. Thinking he will never drink a Good Belly again or eat that organic, nitrate free turkey bologna. And yes he asked if what he was eating was organic or natural! Well last week I had recalled a time when we were on the freeway just after leaving City of Hope and a ladybug was on the inside of Diego's window. He told me we needed to go back to City of Hope so it could go to its home. I said honey we can't. He asked if we would open the window and let it fly out I said know he would die. He said, "Well lady bug it looks like your going to a new home in Long Beach!" I have thought of that story everyday since. Lilia and I got back in the car after going to Whole Foods and I was a bit distressed. Frank went back in to the store because I forgot to pay for a case of energy drinks under the cart. Lilia yells, "Mommy look their is a ladybug on the window!" Frank got back in the car and I showed him as well and he said, "Let's take it home!"


We are going to Palm Desert this weekend so I may not update until Sunday or Monday.


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Michelle quotes my wife here:
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MONDAY, JANUARY 26, 2009 04:28 PM, CST
We had a nice trip. Beautiful weather. Grief follows everywhere you go though. It is not like other trips where I really could get away from it all. There is no getting away. I did feel closer to Diego there, Frank and Lilia too. I really do love the desert when it is just as the weather was about 74 and mostly sunny. The stars are so much closer there. We had a great view of the golf course and mountains.


I want to leave you with this reading from Diego's Memorial:


Written by Diego's best friend's Mother Karen Bingel who knew him well. We would meet up at least 3 times a week for a playdate. Diego loved her. They are family.


How do I put into words: Diego? This amazing five year old, who has forever influenced the way I view life. Despite being amongst us for such a short period of time Diego has inspired so many people around the world.
When I think of Diego, the first word that comes to mind is STRENGTH. The strength that Diego had shown throughout his life is truly awe inspiring.
There are so many wonderful memories that I will always hold dear but I want to share one special memory that shows his strength:
Within days of Diego's initial tumor in his arm being removed and major reconstructive surgery done, he attended my son and his best friend, Justice's third Birthday party. He lay in a red Radio Flyer wagon, unable to walk but still smiling, just glad to be there. When it came time for the pinata, Frank, his dad rolled the wagon under the tree... With tears in my eyes I watched this courageous boy take a bat with one arm and hit the pinata with all his strength.
That is how Diego lived his life, fighting most everything that stood in his way. Till the very end he fought, with one last roar. Diego is among the strongest people that I have ever known. I and my family love him dearly!

Diego was a Pirate and he has captured my heart as Booty!

We love you Diego and you will never be forgotten!

Karen and Family

This picture, from my initial post, is him in that wagon:



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I've read a good bit of this thread and it is too too sad.

Had a friend who worked in Haematology in Oxford, and mostly children with cancer, she found it hard seeing children die.

I find it hard enough seeing an older adult die, so could not work where this happens to Children. As they say, an older adult has had their life, but the child has not. It's deprivation in a way. Life is so unfair sometimes.

Sincere condolescences to Diego's family. What a strong young man he was, and such a caring supportive family network too. There was no more any of you could have done to save him, you did all you could and more and it is totally admirable. I am willing to bet he would not have lasted as long as he did if not for all you did for him with facilitating those hospital treatments he so needed, and with his unbelievable strength. Sadly, I guess God wanted him now, even more. As they say, only the good die young.


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No-One But You (Only The Good Die Young):Queen

A hand above the water
An angel reaching for the sky
Is it raining in heaven -
Do you want us to cry?

And everywhere the broken-hearted
On every lonely avenue
No-one could reach them
No-one but you

One by one
Only the Good die young
They're only flying too close to the sun
And life goes on -
Without you...

Another Tricky Situation
I get to drownin' in the Blues
And I find myself thinkin'
Well - what would you do?

Yes! - it was such an operation
Forever paying every due
Hell, you made a sensation
You found a way through

One by one
Only the Good die young
They're only flyin' too close to the sun
We'll remember -
Forever...

And now the party must be over
I guess we'll never understand
The sense of your leaving
Was in the way it was planned...

So we grace another table
And raise our glasses one more time
There's a face at the window
And i aint never, never saying goodbye...

One by one
Only the Good die young
They're only flyin' too close to the sun
Cryin' for nothing
Cryin' for no-one
No-one but you


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This of course is my initial post in this thread, text only...

Michelle wrote:
WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 28, 2009 02:51 PM, CST
This was read at the Memorial.

Preface: This was written by Adam Bingel and included pictures just after Adam left the Long Beach last February 2008. Some words were changed as they did not fit without the photos. He sent it to everyone he knew.


My hero, Diego Fuentes…



This is my hero, Diego… He’s my son Justice’s best friend, and he’s a gregarious and articulate 4 year old boy with a rare form of cancer, Localized Stage 3 Spindle Cell Embryonal Rhabdomyosarcoma.


Diego is so brave that he has endured numerous MRIs requiring him to remain motionless for extended periods of time, a round of radiation and chemo therapy lasting months and requiring him to have a feeding tube, be isolated from his friends due to a severely weakened immune system from the radiation and chemo, extensive surgery to remove the cancer and reconstruct the muscles and nerves in the affected area (his wrist) with tissue and nerves harvested from both legs, only to still find cancer in the margins, and have to do it all over again. This has lasted almost 2 years !!!


Why is he my hero ??? Because I often complain about having to endure much less, and will even quit at times because I am so impatient that I just can’t wait it out. Many times I have left items at the checkout line and walked out of the store due to my self-centered impatience. He has no choice, he just does it, he still smiles, and more importantly… He doesn’t quit !!!



In a picture of him at the annual Jonathan Jacques Children's Cancer Center Torch Run 2007, held in Long Beach:


He was initially having trouble carrying the torch, as this was after his surgery, and his wrist was notably weakened by it… His mom, Michelle, asked him to let her help him, and he said, “No Mom! I can do it myself!”, clutched the torch tighter and picked up his step so much that all of us behind him had to quicken our pace just to keep up. He doesn’t quit !!!



He was at my son’s 3rd birthday party about a year ago, just weeks after the major surgery.


Again… He just will not quit, and will try to do everything the other kids do. He just doesn’t quit !!!


He love’s that now he can go out to eat, and even go to school and play with other kids.He’s even a great big brother to his little sister, Lilia (little mama).




Unfortunately, we have just learned that my hero, Diego, may not have beaten this, and may have to endure this all over again, and will likely even lose his arm. There appears to be another tumor at the site.


Diego, his family, and all of his many friends, which I am proud to be one, will endure this with him.


And once again, he will not quit !!!



That’s why Diego is my hero.


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Michelle wrote:
THURSDAY, JANUARY 29, 2009 10:42 PM, CST
There are no words that encourage. Nothing will make it better. We do manage but I know unlike the death of grandparents, an uncle, close family friends, and a young adult friend this wound will never close. The pain will become more manageable but it will always be here. Losing a child is the worst thing that could ever happen. That does not mean we do not smile and have happy times but it is mostly bittersweet. Getting out with friends seems to be the best medicine.

Lilia has been potty trained night and day for over 3 weeks. Diego would of been so proud of her. He made such a big deal of her using the potty. He stopped the world for her. She also had her first haircut- really a trim. She loved every moment. Smiling the whole 5 minutes it took. It was adorable. Lilia will also start ballet next Thursday. Another thing Diego would of been happy about and I'm sure would of told everyone my sister thinks she is a professional ballerina. She wants to listen to Foo Fighters "Hero" over and over along with Diego the Pirate song (lyrics to be posted soon). She mimics the conversations they used to have. The silly things they always said to eachother.


So we press on as hard as it is. We wish there was an "easy button" for the rapture. Can't remember which commercial that is from. We still get cards and two friends brought great meals this week which is nice. Diego's ashes sit in a treasure chest on his dresser which is still filled with his clothes. Thinking of making a quilt out of all the cool button up shirts he had over the years. Thinking of going to a compassionate friends support group. It is so real yet so unbelievable. Knowing our friends are here and care has really got us through. Knowing they grieve for him too also seems to help.


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MONDAY, FEBRUARY 02, 2009 01:34 AM, PST
Trying to get the lyrics to Diego the Pirate up but the caringbridge won't let me save it. Will try to reformat it tomorrow or so. A few things I have not mentioned before. There is one thing you actually can do to help us. If you have a memory of Diego please write it down and mail it or email it to me: MichelleFuentes19[at]hotmail.com These seem to help. Also two more things. When Diego died or anyone dies you have to make decisions quickly. One was that we could donate Diego's eyes and up to four people would be able to see again. We did and had to answer 40 minute phone interview the morning following his death. The other was do you want an autopsy. No we did not. Some of you also may not know that Frank got a tattoo on his right forearm. I will post a picture of it soon. He did that the day before Diego's wake. My friend Karen also got a butterfly on her wrist. The wings are two d's for what her son called Diego, dee dee and the body a gold ribbon for childhood cancer. This was before the butterfly necklace. Maybe she will email me a picture of it to post.


Finally my Aunt Julie whose grandson is Lucas :
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/lucasasselin

she also has a caringbridge for my uncle Earl her husband:
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/earlbertrand
please keep them in your prayers.


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MONDAY, FEBRUARY 09, 2009 04:49 PM, CST
We are still here. Seems like the shock is completely gone and we are left with unimaginable grief.


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TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 10, 2009 09:01 PM, PST
Today was better. Maybe my post sent up a couple hundred more prayers. I got out of bed- the hardest part of the day as waking up is like starting over again. Lilia and I went to the park with a friend and that really helped. Then we went for a walk after her "nap". I think she may be done with those but the transition is not too fun as it lends to an irrational 3 and a half year old at about 6 PM which is usually dinner time. Oh well we will manage. Living without Diego is so hard. He filled our day with such wonder, joy, humor, love and demand. Moving on without him is just plain horrible. We still love and laugh but some days are really difficult.


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Michelle wrote:
FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 13, 2009 09:12 AM, PST
Things are a bit better. Still sad but no depression. I see him everywhere we go. Remember so many times at the parks, in our car with his favorite songs, reading books, being silly and his intellectual talks. It does make me cry as there is so much to miss and long for. I don't change the radio station if one of his favorite songs come on , I cry and smile through it. I don't go to a new park as I would have to drive outside the city limits and maybe then some as we often went to a different park everyday four times a week. If I did it would not help anyway. Especially if it is one I find he would have loved. So instead I relish in the memories. Remember dragging Daddy back to the park on the weekend or after work to show him the new thing his boy could do weather it was laughing on the swing, digging in the sand or climbing the apparatus. Lilia misses him too. She too brings up her memories and mimics his voice. The medical memories are hard along with his death. As sweet as it was to have him stroke my hair and hold me close as he died it is hard to remember the labored breathing and him being scared at times. He asked for juice and talked to us. Then the breathing slowed the heart that was racing was faint. How did that happen? Does he see us at the park and miss us? Does he long to cuddle with us again? I wish I knew what he was doing and why he had to leave.


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I'm sorry Adam for you and for his family and for all the parents out there that have been cheated. A beautiful 4-year old boy who never had a chance to see the beauty of what life can bring. Please let's not start a debate I'm only conveying two things that displease me. I have a hard time not crying about this subject which is why I wish I had the money to give, like Bill Gates could, to St. Judes. The two things to convey is this is the reason I know there is no God and why I have a disdain for far right winged people that are against stem cell research for petty reasons. How many more of these beautiful children do we have to lose? I'm sorry for being a little soapboxxy here, it's just hard for me. Every time I sea a St. Jude's commercial I cry or leave the room; and usually still cry. I think about it every day, especially now that I have one of my own.

For all of those that have ever had to go through anything like this or know someone who had to I hold nothing but love for them.

Adam, please hug your kid(s) for me. I've forgotten if you have more than one. I do remember your anouncement years back about your newborn.

All of you with children, please hug them for me. If it weren't quarter to 3 in the morning, I'd go hug my little girl. I will though around 6.

Peace and Love for the children.

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FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 20, 2009 09:46 AM, CST

My friend Heather is doing this. The money will be earmarked for Sarcoma. They need $250 before the t-shirts can be made with Diego's name.

Please Help us make a difference.....
Check out What we are Doing!!!
http://main.acsevents.org/goto/diegofuentes

Thank You.... Heather & the Boys


If you haven't, or haven't in a while, please take the time to leave a brief note in the family's guestbook:
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes

And if you can afford to, please make a donation to the American Cancer Society on bahalf of Diego and the Crawfords at the link in the quote above.


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MONDAY, MARCH 02, 2009 11:17 PM, CST
I fall in love with Lilia more each day. She is truly amazing, but it does not fill the hole. Nothing can. I wish I could move on for her but that is an impossibility. I love her so much and would do anything for her but this cannot be done. As the days go on we go places we all used to go and I cry on the way. Sometimes while we are there. I remember when we were all there. A complete family. Yet I still cherish the new memories being made although bittersweet. So wrong in a so many ways without him. They say time heals but that is not always true. Time makes it more official. Stamps it in your soul like the ink on the death certificate. Sometimes time does not heal. It stands still.


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When life derails you but leaves with choices be thankful. Don't sweat the small stuff. Families and there babies fighting cancer have no choices. A few children and their families in need of prayer:

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/taylorjones

Taylor has AML a very deadly form of leukemia and just had a bone marrow transplant. She is adorable.



http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/jake

Jake has the same disease as Diego and it seems to be following the same course. The need all the prayers they can get. He is one amazing 7 year old. I hold this family very close to my heart.

Taylor:



Taylor's Mom wrote:
Taylor is our beautiful 3 year old princess, born 3/3/2005, who had always been healthy until Sept 26th, 2008. Her baby brother, Tegan, had gone to the doctor that day for his one year shots. She had wanted to go but had slept thru the appointment and had missed it. When I got home from work that night she told me she didn't feel well - sympathy sickness? But I played along and felt her head and she really did have a fever. That night it got into the 104 range and I thought something was up but it was controlled with Tylenol and Motrin so I decided we would wait until Saturday morning to take her in. Saturday I tested the waters to see how bad she was feeling by offering up a trip to the park. She happily obliged but just 5 minutes after swinging she asked me if she could go to the doctor and I knew something was really wrong.

I took her to Urgent Care early Saturday afternoon where they ran a strep test that came back negative. He told us that her lymph nodes were really swollen though and he thought maybe the test was just not showing the strep yet and sent us on our way with as prescription for strep.

Saturday night her fever was 105 and she was vomitting and by early Sunday morning I was rushing her into Memorial Hospital's Emergicare. That doctor didn't think it was strep but a viral infection. He said to give her small amounts of liquid to keep her hydrated and to make an appointment to get her weighed on Monday at her pediatrician's office. He also gave her half of a Zofran telling me that they give that to cancer patients for nausea so it should definitely help.

Sunday night her fever spiked again to 105 and as I was giving her Motrin she started crying and then laid down, or so I thought, on the floor. When I went to roll her over to give her the rest of the motrin, her body was limp and her eyes rolled into the back of her head. I scooped her up, told Shane to call 911 and I laid her on her back in the middle of the kitchen. It felt like an eternity as I watched her lifeless body trying to figure out what to do. As I bent down to check her breathing, her eyes opened. Shane had froze as well and 911 was never actually called. I called the on-call doctor immediately after that and they said it sounded like something 3 year olds do - holding their breath so they don't have to take medicine. Looking back I'm sure it was from how swollen her lymph nodes were with cancer.

Monday morning I decided to make her an appt as well as get her weighed. Dr. Reich, her Pediatrician, didn't check her for strep since she had already been tested but told us if she was worse by Tuesday to bring her back and we would get her admitted for some IV fluids and blood tests.

Tuesday came and although she wasn't worse I decided to take her in anyway because she sure wasn't better. Dr. Reich took one look at her, stating how pale she was, and said she had debated on it yesterday but that we should definitely get her into Memorial Hospital for some fluids today. So off to the hospital we went.

I will never forget the first time she got an IV and the nurse who did it still tells me how amazed she was by Taylor's strength. Tay laid there and never moved an inch. The only way you even knew she was awake was the tears that rolled down her face. She was so strong, so brave. That afternoon they drew blood and then came back and did it again.

Tuesday evening around 7pm, Dr. Reich came in the room and told us, "You will be seeing a specialist tonight, we think Taylor has Leukemia."

Just like that and her world was changed, ours was rocked. We were told over the next two days about ALL and the high success rates. Then we were told that she had indicators of AML and then it was confirmed that it was AML. The success rate 60% instead of 90%. We were rocked even deeper. That same day we were told that she had, what appeared to be, chromosomal defects in her leukemic cells. That was confirmed a day after that - monosomy 7 and 5Q- were in half of her leukemic cells meaning she would need a bone marrow transplant to have a chance at fighting this monster.

She has endured 3 rounds of chemo. After the first round she was declared to be in a complete remission and has stayed that way until now. On February 5th, 2009 she received her bone marrow transplant - cord blood from a New York site. The donor's birthday is 10/6/2005 based on the cord blood gathering date and I can't wait until the day Taylor and this family can meet.

She will heal - this is our mantra. She's a fighter and she's going to win.

Thank you for coming along on our journey.





Jake:



Jake's Mom wrote:
Jake underwent a left radical orchiectomy on November 11, 2005 at which time a 'cancerous' tumor was removed. On November 18th, after a long day of CT scans, bone scans and chest x-rays, it was determined that the 'cancer' had spread to his lungs. On this day we were told of Jake's diagnosis. He has stage 4 rhabdomyosarcoma embryonal. The cancer has been found in his bone marrow as well.

We were stunned and in shock, to say the least. How could our healthy 4 year old boy have cancer?

Jake's little body will now have to endure 12 months of chemotherapy and possible radiation. He received his first chemo treatment the day before Thanksgiving and will receive it weekly for approximately the next 48-52 weeks.

Jake has a Hickman catheter implanted under his skin. Through this 'port', as Jake calls it, he will receive his chemo and have blood drawn. This eliminates the majority of the needle 'pokes', but not all of them.

We are very, very optimistic regarding his treatment. Jake is receiving the V.A.C. treatment, which has been the standard treatment for rhabdomyosarcoma for many years. The curable rate is 60-75%.

We will be at Children's hospital every Friday for Jake to receive his chemo on an outpatient basis. Every 3rd Friday will be inpatient.

So far, after two treatments, he is tolerating it well. Especially with the help of anti-nausea medications.

Children's hospital is the place to be. The staff are wonderful, especially those in the HOT unit and the 8E clinic. His oncologist, Dr. Michael Kelly, is one of the best. I know we will make many friends over the course of the next year.

We want to thank everyone for your wonderful thoughts, prayers, emails, cards, meals, desserts and house-hold assistance. We are emotionally overwhelmed with everyone's generosity and support. We have the BEST family and friends!!

In January 2007 we were devastated once again! Jake's cancer has returned in his lungs. He will under go 50 weeks of chemotherapy, a combination of six different drugs this time around. He will probably have lung radiation as well. We are not focusing on numbers or survival rates....only on the fact that he is receiving the best treatment available right now and we have faith that he will recover and go into remission.

In September 2008, after 6 wonderful months of remission, Jake relapsed again. The cancer has returned in his lungs. Statistics say his chances of surviving this are less than 20%.


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Another prayer request:

http://www.carepages.com/...s/2027673?client_cod

Zachary's Father Kevin has been such a great support to me. He also has Rhabdomyosarcoma. I could probably fill a few pages with all the kids I know. Will this ever stop?


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TUESDAY, MARCH 17, 2009 09:44 PM, PDT

My thoughts while walking today:

At about 16 months of age I believe Diego started to roar like lion. I often was apologizing to parents at the park after he let out a huge roar in another child's face and made them cry. He eventually found another child who loved to roar as much as him and they would run around having a roaring ball. At about 2 and a half Diego still roared but now added two claws. He was a T-REX. This being much more powerful than a Lion, more ferocious as he would say. He never lost his love for all dinosaurs. It was hard for me to part with the Lion. After Diego lost his arm to relapse he loved being Jack Sparrow. When I told him I thought I liked Will Turner better he said that he liked Jack Sparrow because he never died! WOW! What insight. The pattern is obvious. So different then wanting to be a superhero. He believed he could overcome. When we chose Diego's name before he was born, the name I had known of from the artist Diego Rivera I looked up the meaning. I saw supplanter. Valiant warrior. I was not sure I liked the meaning but loved the name. When he was diagnosed his name took on that meaning.

Please do not forget our warriors. I wanted to share an incredible story as well:
http://www.carepages.com/carepages/AmberLamLam

Please read the March 14th entry on her page.


In need of prayer:

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/jake

http://www.carepages.com/...s/2027673?client_cod

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Michelle wrote:
Sunday, March 29, 2009 12:38 PM, CDT

Katie age 12 and Jake 7 are now in heaven with Diego (links to there page on previous post). Jake 3 months to the date after Diego's death. I know they are fine but there families are not, will never be. We miss Diego dearly and although we have "good" days it is sort of like being a functioning alcoholic except the pain is not numbed. Most days you can work through it but others you fall. I thank God for giving us such an incredible child but the depth of the pain is as deep as that love. We are "OK". Lilia is doing great. Please go to Jake's sight and read the poem she posted.


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Michelle wrote:
Monday, April 6, 2009 10:42 AM, PDT


[Diego, Lilia, and Frank]


Just Beneath the Surface

We are able to walk this walk

We do enjoy ourselves at times

We still function in "the real world"

We smile throughout the day and when people ask we say we are good or OKAY

But just below the surface lies the the worst pain

Like a balloon blow by mouth, not so easy to inflate yet popped or deflated at the slightest mishap

Like an egg that appears to be so strong with such a thin hard surface, yet easily cracked

We manage but often crack and deflate


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Saturday, April 18, 2009 10:17 PM, CDT




DISCLAIMER: Very tired MaMa writing here after an overnight trip to Arizona for Relay for Life with very little sleep!

So much going on. Thank you for visiting when I don't even update. First off I want to ask for prayers for Bella. Her Mom Shannah often calls me to check up on me and chat. She has been a great support to me. Her healing and remission was a miracle. Bella was off treatment for 8 months when a scan revealed a golf ball size tumor in her brain. The cancer was removed and she is once again cancer free but really needs a miracle to beat the odds. Please visit her site and keep them in your prayers.
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/bellart

Some of you heard about the tragic shooting at Long Beach Memorial Medical Center. Miller Children's Hospital is part of this hospital.We remember the workers well and are shocked by the incident. We used the pharmacy many times. We sat many nervous hours in the lobby with many other anxious families waiting for there loved ones while they underwent surgery or procedures. The incident happened in this main lobby and many witnessed the incident. Please pray for everyone that was affected, especially the 3 who lost their Fathers, Husbands, and adult child.

We went to Relay Friday in Arizona where my friend started relaying for Diego last year. It was nice but painful. I will post pictures of our posters tomorrow. We remembered all our friends lost to childhood cancer with the Luminaries. Lilia and my Niece Michelle had a ball!

We are hoping to go to Washington DC for Curesearch Reach the Day. This charity is solely for childhood cancer and most of the money goes right to research. Awesome charity. The event teaches you how to be an advocate. We are going to use some of the Diego Fund money to go as we know this trip will be the beginning of us really doing something to effect the cure. Here is more information: http://www.curesearch.org/...s/index.aspx?id=4450

Stats on this Charity:
http://www.charitynavigator.org/...mmary&orgid=4167

We seem to miss Diego more everyday. One day a couple of weeks ago Lilia and I went with my friend and her son who was one of Diego's best friends to IKEA. Lilia was doing something and I said LILIA FUENTES and he looked at me and said, Diego Fuentes! Made me smile. That same day a Mother from my playgroup told me her son whom we hung out with mainly at Wardlow Park when Diego was sick said that he left a big impression on her son and he often talks about him. They went to Wardlow and he said Mommy this park makes me sad it reminds me of Diego. His little buddies remember him. Then a Mother in a playgroup I recently joined who used do do fund raising for St. Jude's ended up at Miller Children's hospital next to the oncology ward and met one of the childlife staff I had told her about when I had unknowingly shared our cancer journey with her. She said you are right childlife is great there. We gave Diego's awesome Christmas presents to the hospital and childlife told my friend that a three year boy comes in for treatment and always asks for the Diegosaurs!!! Sarah than you for your guestbook entry as well. We hold these things close to our heart.


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Monday, April 20, 2009 10:25 PM, CDT

Like I said- tired Saturday and forgot the prayers sitting heaviest on my heart. My brother-in-law Tom lost his Father Fred on Easter Eve and their dog just before that. All this grief is really hard on them. Please pray for Fred's wife Darlean and all of the family. They have all been so dear to us throughout this journey.







Friday, April 24, 2009 10:40 AM, CDT



4 months gone. 121 days. So hard to believe. How could this happen, us here without you? We miss you so much Diego. Your voice, big belly laughs but most of all your hugs and kisses.

I wish I would dream about Diego. Not one in months. I see him in everything but he is not here to touch. He loved Spring. It was really hard to see all the new life come in to bloom on our walks without his voice noticing everything asking us questions so he could give us the answer about some fact he knew. I remember one evening last spring we went on our walk and a man was on his front porch. Diego commented on his beautiful flowers. The man asked, do you know what they are called and Diego said yes, California Poppies. The man chuckled and Diego replied, our state flower! The man grinned and said they sure are!
I meant to plant those poppies for Diego but cancer got in the way. I thought about it as I walked by that house. Then, a couple of weeks ago I notice California Poppies growing at the base of one of the Magnolia trees in the front yard! I did not plant those! We live on the corner and there is a short block wall between our house and the neighbor. I look around and none of the neighbors have poppies.

My niece was here last week for Spring Break. Her Mother came to pick her up and we had a little BBQ, pool party with her family. The last time her Mother saw Diego we were doing the same thing. There were hundreds of ladybugs flying around. The kids kept screaming look a ladybug as the landed on or near them. I have never seen so many ladybugs in our backyard in all the years we lived here.
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Sunday, May 3, 2009 12:26 AM, CDT

Taken from another rhabdo kids site:

The Swine Flu: A Crisis It's all over the news. The Swine Flu has entered the U.S., and everyone is responding quickly. Here is what has happened already:

•Over 100 schools have closed.
•President Obama called on all schools with possible swine flu cases to "strongly consider temporarily closing."
•Congress approved $1.5 billion in emergency funds.
•Education Secretary Arne Duncan said that everyone involved in schools needs to "pitch in and do our part to prevent the spread of this flu virus."
•The Department of Education and the CDC have held conferences to give updates and advice for handling the crisis.
•WHO Director-General Margaret Chan has raised the alert level to phase 4.
•Shipments of the drug Tamiflu from the federal stockpile, enough to treat 11 million patients, have been distributed to several states.
•Dr. Jesse Goodman, of the Food and Drug Administration's swine flu work said,"We're working together at 100 miles an hour."
•Congress has asked Homeland Security to consider closing the Mexican border.

Here are the numbers: There have been 84 documented cases in the U.S. There has been one death, a two year old boy with underlying health issues. Updates on the Swine Flu epidemic are all over the papers, T.V., Internet, and radio. You can't avoid it. This is a crisis and deserves a fast response. Sick children, and the death of even one child, is a great loss. So please understand what I am about to say. I in no way wish to belittle those who have suffered from the swine flu. I would just like to point out some comparisons.

1) Since the outbreak in the U.S., there have been 84 cases of swine flu, and one death. Compare that to the fact that 12,600 families are told their child has cancer each year. That is 35 families every single day of the year.
2) The media tells us that the 84 cases and one death from the swine flu is a "crisis" and "epidemic". But do a google search on childhood cancer, and you will find the media consistently refers to the 40,000 children currently with cancer, and the 2,500 annual deaths, as "very rare".
3) To protect yourself against the swine flu, you should wash hands, not touch your nose, and cover your mouth. You can even wear gloves and a mask. But there is no protection against childhood cancers. In fact, the cause of most childhood cancers is still unknown.
4) The swine flu produces severe flu symptoms. The effects of cancer are beyond description. So just consider this: Cancer is part of the body, so the treatment is a process of poisoning the child to the brink of death, then pulling back hoping they stabilize, then hitting them again. And again and again and again. Maybe a year, maybe 7 years. The resulting organ failures often cause more complications and deaths than the cancer itself. And then you wait and pray that it all worked. "Remission" only means they think they got. "Relapse" means they were wrong.
5) The government has opened up it's stockpile of flu drugs to fight the crisis. But there is no stockpile of cancer drugs. In fact, it has been 30 years since a new pediatric cancer drug has been developed. A 5 year study by the National Institute of Health concluded that new drugs for pediatric and adolescent cancers are not being developed because the profit margins are too slim. Therefore mega-doses of adult chemotherapy are administered to children, using a medical assembly line system called protocols. The great need for individualized care is ignored because it is not economically sustainable.

6) Congress has approved $1.5 billion in ADDITIONAL funding to fight the swine flu. With 84 infected people, that is $18 million per person. Childhood cancer receives a TOTAL of $30 million. That works out to $750 for each child currently fighting cancer. So does any of this scare you more than the swine flu? It should. The emergency response to the swine flu had be great. But where is the emergency plan for childhood cancer? And where is the media attention? There is none. Some might say these are not a fair comparisons. Well, in one way they would be correct. The $1.5 million for the flu has been paid. The $30 million for childhood cancer was approved, but has never funded. Other issues of greater importance keep taking priority, such as $120 million to distribute free condoms in 3rd world countries (Yes, really. It's in the stimulus package). I am not criticizing the response to the Swine Flu. It fact, I believe it is an appropriate response. I just do not understand why our children with cancer deserve less. Please remember:

•1 in 300 children will be diagnosed with cancer before the age of 20.
•12,600 children are diagnosed each year. •3,000 will die of cancer each year.
•Cancer is the #1 disease killer of children ages 1-19.
•The cause of most childhood cancers is still unknown.
•Only 3% of cancer research money goes toward childhood cancers.
•There are currently 30,000-40,000 children fighting cancer in the U.S.
•The number of children diagnosed with cancer has increased every year for the past 25 years.
•Teenagers and young adults (ages 15-22) are the only age group that have flat or declining survival rates from cancer.
•In the past 35 years ONLY ONE new cancer drug has been approved for pediatric use.
•Since children can handle much more chemo than adults, most treatments are little more than mega doses of adult cancer chemotherapy treatments. The result of these high doses of chemo on children is a higher rate of secondary cancers.
•For reasons not fully known, teenagers experience the highest rate of secondary cancers as a result of the high dose chemotherapy treatments.
•Teenagers have the highest cancer fatality rate of any age group under 80. Their cancers tend to be much more rare, therefore lacking established treatments. Their cancers also tend to be far more advanced when diagnosed.
•A 5-year study at Children's Hospital Pittsburgh of UPMC recently concluded that teenage cancer survivorship is lower due in part to a lack of access to clinical trials. They concluded: "Patients who are enrolled in clinical trials offering the most advanced cancer treatments do better than patients who receive conventional treatment. Adolescents and young adults with cancer are less likely than younger children to be enrolled in clinical trials."


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yeh the swine flu...hope we all get thru with it.

...call me ignorant but it was the first time i read about Diego....

I like the mild look in his eyes..."R.I.P." brother.

'kham bodam.pokhte shodam'sukhtam...'
'raw i was.baked i got.burnd i left...'


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I can't lie. Mother's Day is hard to swallow this year. Even though I do not emphasize it, Diego made it special by wanting to make it special. He was so happy to give me the gifts he made at school last year. I still have the gift hanging on the amoire in the living room and remember him explaining it to me with such pride.

Please pray for Dallas . He hit cancer out of the park this week. http://www.presstelegram.com/sports/ci_12259918

His caringbrige site is listed in the article.
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/dallashumphreys

The picture of Diego with his chocolate cake goatee is from July 4, 2006.


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Tuesday, June 2, 2009 1:36 AM, CDT

I know many readers came here initially for hope and were encouraged by our journey. I will continue to write here although now the story has changed from one of hope to one of despair. I would love to say that there is hope of being happy again when your child dies but honestly I cannot. I wish I could say the pain subsides with time. It is not true. As time goes on it it harder to live without Diego. It is not like any other loss. We still do the day to day. We do often laugh and smile along the way but below the surface things are not so well. His pictures and memories haunt me but hold me together all the while. I see a boy with the beautiful hair Diego had and I long to for the nights I would run my fingers through his hair. The only thing I can say is that we by the grace of God are able to get through each day. I know you don't know what to say. Either do I. Just knowing you are here and care means so much. We will survive this but don't expect us to say we are doing great. We are just OK mostly. Keeping busy helps but there are times when we need to have our space. Lilia is doing great although she misses Diego. Children are resilient. She is getting so big and smart. I wish I could hear the conversations her and Diego would be having now and him bragging about her or explaining how crazy she and why to everyone. We are not doing the torch run this year. We do support it but we don't have the energy to do it yet. We are not sure if we will go visit that day or not. I hope we can go in Diego's honor next year.





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http://abritandabit.typepad.com/...8/i-am-that-mom.html

Came across this and wanted to share.


If you haven't in a while, please take the tim eto leave a brief note on their CarringBridge site:
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes


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This was written by the next door neighbor to the Fuentes family, someone I happened to go to Elementary and Jr High School with:
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Pirate Diego Fuentes

Those who knew him would state
he was the bravest pirate that ever lived.
He fought many battles
during his voyage at sea.
The legend of Diego Fuentes
will never be forgotten and told for centuries.
His battles were taken on with valor and a keen wit.
He, several times, stared straight into the eyes of his enemy,
lifted his sword high above his head
and in one swift slash, slayed the mighty beast, “CANCER!”
Although, in history, pirates are not made
saints, this would be an earned exception.
Diego was a brave little boy
who changed the lives of many during his courageous battle.
He taught many lessons in five short years:
1) Take one day at a time and remain grateful.
2) Enjoy nature and the animals around us.
3) Savor good food and have it often.
4) It is o.k. to roar like a dinosaur when you need to.
5) Tell stories and amuse others.
6) Don’t forget to laugh and hug those around you.
7) It is always better to give than to receive.
This little soul gave so much and asked for so little in return.
Pirate Diego is my definition of a saint.

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A year ago today, Christmas Eve, Diego died... http://www.rockclimbing.com/...post=2045877#2045877
http://www.rockclimbing.com/...post=2046693#2046693

Today, Michelle wrote:
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We are headed to Legoland tomorrow! We do miss Diego horribly. The past couple weeks were not easy. I was thinking of how so many of you and especially Parkcrest Pre-School;who brought Christmas to our house got us through. Christmas was hard last year as it is again but we look back and only remember great Christmas Days with Diego. That is a blessing. Hoping you all have a Merry Christmas.

If you haven't thought of Diego in a while, please remember him and his family over the holidays, and you can always leave a note on his site:
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/diegofuentes


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