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climber_kid
Dec 1, 2004, 2:33 AM
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my parents are nice people but sometimes I think their holding me back on climbing they try to convice me to not to buy climbing gear they think it will be a wast of money. Whats your oppinion?But still their great parents and am glad I have them.
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gymstud001
Dec 1, 2004, 2:38 AM
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you just described my parents too...they think climbing is a waste of money and dangerous, but all the same i'm glad they're there
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Dec 1, 2004, 2:52 AM
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My parents will let me and help me buy all the shit, they just have trouble letting me go out and use it. Owell, I got a mountaineering course coming up in May, and they've agreed to sign the papers! Just keep telling yourself, they mean well, plus you'll be out on your own soon enough. For me, it's just two more years! two more years... two more years... two more years... two more years... :x :x
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Dec 1, 2004, 2:59 AM
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In reply to: my parents are nice people but sometimes I think their holding me back on climbing they try to convice me to not to buy climbing gear they think it will be a wast of money. Whats your oppinion?But still their great parents and am glad I have them. Get used to it. I'm 48 years old and my mother is 80, and she still thinks I am nuts for climbing. :lol: Curt
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climbing is actually a fairly cheap hobby, depending on what type of climbing you do. Sport route and bouldering are what i do and ive spent only a couple of hundred on gear so far and i have been climbing for a year. id say the most expensive aspect is the gas money. Just buy the minimum gear needed to be safe and do what you wanna do and then enjoy it. You dont need everything to go climbing, just hte basics. I just have a rope, shoes, quickdraws, belay device, crashpad, and harness. Also, climbing is something you do with someone, if you have someone you always go climbign with, split the costs with them. Thats also what i did to save money. Ive been through hobbies where ive spent TONS of money on stuff and then by the time i was done spending i lost interest. I think they might be protecting you from that, my parents tried many times. Just remember you dont need to spend money to have fun climbing. But most of all, buy the gear needed to stay safe first. Peace Andrew
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Dec 1, 2004, 3:29 AM
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my folks used to hassle me for playing to many videogames, now I design them. Do what you love. Your parents may never come around but you will be happier. Now that mine have accepted the gaming, I start climbing. You know, so they have something to hassle me about. Have to keep them busy, don'cha know.
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Dec 1, 2004, 3:47 AM
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Bring to light the fact that you could be laying in front of the tube all day playing halo...and I mean no offense to you mb_brick. there are many things that you could be doing if you were not climbing. -Zak
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Dec 1, 2004, 4:51 AM
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In reply to: My parents will let me and help me buy all the s---, they just have trouble letting me go out and use it. I know how you feel. Same issue, luckly I get to take a trad course over the summer and then its off to college. Hell if I get enough scholarship money I can blow all my spare cash on climbing and booze.
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I am 37 and have two boys; 12 and 13 yo. Although my 13 yo loves to climb, he would rather sit infront of the Play Station. We climbed last Sunday for about four hours and he had a blast. Of course, he and his brother are grounded from their video games untill next year so it was eather climb or stay with grandma. I wouldn't mind at all if my children spent their money on climbing gear. Because I am a climber myself, I see this as a vigorous sport we can enjoy as a family. Something that gets them off their butts, takes them into nature, and is physically (and mentally) demanding and healthy. I see so many of my sons 13 yo's class mates that are over weight, pale, and sickley because they take advantage of the electronic entertainment age we live in. Although my son may break a bone during a fall, his health is better than many his age and he seems to be an overall happier person. I contribute this to climbing, mountainbiking, and just getting out side in general. I take it your parents don't climb which makes it difficult for them to understand. They can't see it from your perspective. They arn't you
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Dec 1, 2004, 5:00 AM
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I know the feeling. When I bought my first pair of shoes, my mom told me not to because climbing was just a phase I was going through. Man was she wrong! My parents accept climbing now, although I think they are little nervous when I go. When I take leave I usually spend more time climbing than I do with my family. Don't worry man, they will get used to it.
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My parents are not climbers. They are not even outdoors people -- hiking an easy trail is about as far as they usually go. Prior to their "education," they believed that climbing was recklessly dangerous and insanity. Part of your parent's anxiety and concern comes from fears about your safety. Through limiting your purchases, they believe they are limiting your immersion and practice in what they view as a foolhardy activity. For this reason, it is necessary to do two things. (1) You must become extremely compentent. You must understand what you are doing, why you are doing it and why you should do it that way. Your level of knowledge has to be enough to be proficient to answer questions about it and to be able to demonstrate and explain it to others. (2) You must demonstrate and explain your compentency to your parents. If you can convince them that while climbing is inherently dangerous, you are taking all necessary steps to minimize that danger. It's easier to do this with expert instruction. In fact, you can use "Safety" arguments to get your parents to pay for expert instruction. And, quite frankly, expert instruction is usually worth it, esp. if you are just beginning. Money well spent -- it will also allow you to test gear before you buy it, so you can spend your money on things you need, not things you think you need. My parents still worry about me climbing, but they understand that I know my own limits and stay within them. coylec
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In reply to: my parents are nice people but sometimes I think their holding me back on climbing they try to convice me to not to buy climbing gear they think it will be a wast of money. Whats your oppinion?But still their great parents and am glad I have them. Dude, you're 13. You can't even hold down a job legally yet. Bills, rent, significant others, college will all hold you back far worse than what your parents are doing now. Get the fundamentals dialed before you need anything more than shoes and chalk. Then you can start worrying about whether or not you really need that new cam or another 5 quickdraws.
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I`m a parent and I now have grown up kids that think I should be staying home with the little woman. I think they are holding me back, I wanna go out on a 12 month dirtbagging road trip. Do you think they are reasonable. :cry:
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Dec 1, 2004, 5:46 AM
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I'm 34 and my parents still worry when I'm climbing. Of course they never say anything but its understood. Its only natural because non climbers associate climbing with danger. I do get the "this is a passing phase" comments from my parents as well as from friends who were climbing but have given up now. Its upto you to demonstrate that your serious. Don't invest in loads of gear just for the sake of it. Start with the minimum, that way even if its a passing phase you haven't lost much. Your parents will be happy if you show some maturity with their money.
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Dec 1, 2004, 8:33 AM
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Fortunatly I was introduced to climbing via my mom and dad, and took my first steps in our local climbing gym. I found that throughout my life if I wanted to get to do things, I introduced it to my parents and they would accept it and once they saw I could be responsible doing it, they were keen to let me go out with friends and go climbing. But they still wont let me drive with anybody they havnt met and talked to, or go to parent free partys, but they mean the best for me so ill go with it.
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Dec 1, 2004, 10:04 AM
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In my own situation, my mom realizes that she knows nothing at all about climbing, and that I know quite a bit, and she also trusts my judgement, so it's all up to me to keep myself alive. She still worries though. ;)
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I think it is a natural thing for a non-climbing parent to worry about their offspring climbing (no matter how old). However, as mentioned by a number of people in this post, people only worry about their Climber's because they have a mis-conception of the activity. My parents know I am a competent in what I do, but what I find is that my parents (mom in particular) do not support me when I choose to climb alone. Understandable. Safety is found in numbers... but that's a seperate argument. Nevertheless, we will never see completely eye to eye on climbing and I don't expect them to. On to your gear buying and parents... you are making a worthy investment in buying your gear and you are involved in a healthy and productive activity. As long as you take the time to help them understand what you are doing and why you are doing it, they should come through. If you haven't already, tell them what some of your climbing goals are, show them a climbing magazine or talk to them about the use of your gear. Anything.
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Dec 1, 2004, 11:42 AM
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I don't talk to my folks about my climbing any more, it just causes arguments.
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Dec 1, 2004, 12:09 PM
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In reply to: my parents are nice people but sometimes I think their holding me back on climbing they try to convice me to not to buy climbing gear they think it will be a wast of money. Whats your oppinion?But still their great parents and am glad I have them. My opinion is that your parents have the right to spend their money as they see fit. When you live on your own -- pay your own bills, and no longer rely on your parents for daily living expenses -- you can buy as much gear as you wish. In the mean time, I'd suggest you study English Composition and Grammar.
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My parents and friends (non-climding) can't understand why I climb and it kind of scares them to watch me. But if you like do it. :D
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When with your parents, always talk about climbing gear as if it's absolutely necessary to ensure your safety. Describe what happens to people who climb without it in excruciating and gruesome detail. Then, mention off-handedly that you'll, "probably be OK without it, anyway". Now sit back and watch the toys come rolling in. :P :P :P
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Nice one, J, but last time I tried the whole 'I'd be so much safer if I had X, Y, and Z from so-and-so gear catalogue, pg. 22 section A', my mom just looked at me and said, 'well if you don't have the necessary equipment maybe you shouldn't be doing it'. i love my mom cause she worries about me without interfering in my life. she understands that you gotta do what you gotta do. k.
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You have been given some very good advice by previous posters, so I don't want to keep on being the whining parent.... But you have to get a few things clear. Firstly, your parents aren't trying to hold you back - they are worried about your safety... because they love you. If you talk to them while understanding this, it could be possible to convince them that climbing is a good pursuit. The money - so if you were to dig into your cupboard right now, how many games/toys/entertainment will we find that you absolutely "had to have", and are now just decorations? I'm not trying to bash you, just speaking from my own memories (which is not all that long ago). Just stick things out and show real interest in climbing, and in the end they will probably let you continue, and even help buying gear. (Ever heard about helping around the house in exchange for gear...?) When I started surfing, I had a REAL hard time convincing my dad that it's OK. You see, his grandfather disappeared while fishing (freak wave), and the body was never found. So I understand where he was coming from - but patience and persistence payed off, letting me surf to my heart's delight in the end. Your attitude and way you handle this will determine how this issue works out - be understanding and mature, and your parents will return the favour by doing the same. Good luck. Be positive. (Now I'm off to check the internet for harnesses for my 18 month old girl... yeah I know, but just starting to work out the budget....)
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In reply to: In reply to: my parents are nice people but sometimes I think their holding me back on climbing they try to convice me to not to buy climbing gear they think it will be a wast of money. Whats your oppinion?But still their great parents and am glad I have them. My opinion is that your parents have the right to spend their money as they see fit. When you live on your own -- pay your own bills, and no longer rely on your parents for daily living expenses -- you can buy as much gear as you wish. In the mean time, I'd suggest you study English Composition and Grammar. Reno, u r going to b the kewlest dad EVAR! :P :P :lol:
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I'm 47 and my dad thought I was nuts to climb---at least until he saw his 8 year old grandson send a 5.8 at the gym!!! Now he's hooked. (He still thinks I'm nuts...just not AS nuts as he once did!) Love your folks...and just climb! Steve
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Maybe try to get them to go with you next time you climb. By showing them what your doing....safety, gear, etc., they might have different perspective on it, not to mention see how happy you are out there doing it.
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Climbing gear are durable goods. These durable goods support a hobby that mentally and physically engages one. This produces a person with strong mind and body, disciplined, and able to adapt and overcome obstacles not just in climbing but in life itself. Therefore climbing gear is an investment in oneself and life. I use this line of argument all the time on my wife.
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One important issue that should be discussed is a rule about non-disclosure of the insane things you will do on road trips. Do not, I repeat, DO NOT tell your parents about the 30 foot whipper, or the placement that blew. Else, the extent of your climbing will be looking for fun boulder problems in the house.
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haha... climbing can be expensive. but so's any sport. u could always go to REI and buy stuff there. lifetime warranty of all its gear. may save u some money in the process. stick to bouldering as it requires the least amount of money. when u get out of the house and get good, u can mess around with all the other equipment like axes, clips, biners, etc.
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One important issue that should be discussed is a rule about non-disclosure of the insane things you will do on road trips. Do not, I repeat, DO NOT tell your parents about the 30 foot whipper, or the placement that blew. Else, the extent of your climbing will be looking for fun boulder problems in the house.
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In reply to: Nice one, J, but last time I tried the whole 'I'd be so much safer if I had X, Y, and Z from so-and-so gear catalogue, pg. 22 section A', my mom just looked at me and said, 'well if you don't have the necessary equipment maybe you shouldn't be doing it'. i love my mom cause she worries about me without interfering in my life. she understands that you gotta do what you gotta do. k. Funny, when my mother tried that argument with me, she almost got all the way to "shouldn't" before my dad (who used to climb himself and gave me most of his equipment) stopped her and said "He's going to climb whether we get him gear or not. Let's try to keep him safe." Then I got a helmet for my birthday. It was great.
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my parents are just happy that i'm not spending my money on drugs... oh wait... all my money is going towards my car, so i'm not spending it on climbing either. damn...
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mine just wish I would choose less dangerous hobbies... I rock climb, ride horses, and am into karate at a high level... I have lost count of the accidents and injuries I have gotten, but I do remember that I ended up in Shock Trauma at UMD overnight once - DOH!
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In reply to: "I wouldn't mind at all if my children spent their money on climbing gear. Because I am a climber myself... " "I see so many of my sons 13 yo's class mates that are over weight, pale, and sickley because they take advantage of the electronic entertainment age we live in...." "I take it your parents don't climb which makes it difficult for them to understand. They can't see it from your perspective." I take it you don't game which makes it difficult for you to understand. Sorry about the thread jack here but I've got to stand up for the art form. My point was that climbing enriches your life whether or not your parents understand how or why, just as I have always found games artistically and intellectually stimulating, in spite of the objections of my elders. I just had no climbing examples from my youth for this thread, since I didn't climb then. That being said, I must applaud you encouraging your children to do active things in addition to their leisure activities. It’s not the games them selves making kids fat, but rather an imbalance of leisure activities dominating their lives. Also, I hear nutrition has something to do with it. :) So, zakr, no offence taken. Spending all your time just sitting around isn't good for anybody, whether you're gaming, reading or whatever.
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thanks
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Well as far as the "rents" thing goes mine like the fact that i have something to do, but don't like buying gear for my birthday and xmas... I still think it's funny when they ask what i want and i say GEAR! Here is something to think about, you should climb with some friends and see if you like it enough to buy your own gear. To climb with friends all you need is a harness and some shoes. And if you don't like it after a while you only spent about $150-200 and you can sell it on ebay for about half the price so ur only out like 100. That's how i would think about it.
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My "rents" are my belayer (dad) and screamer every time I slip (mom). They understand the obsesion but try don't ondone gear I don't need. Like aliens or a gri-gri.
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They might be skeptical because they're ignorant, just show'em you know your stuff and it's a safe sport (don't show them broken ankle pics though) Jamaica 8^)
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That's right jamaica, or even tell the the story about a friend getting hurt at doing something you plan on doing. Just tell them all the good things and hope they don't look into it and see some pic of a guys foot that is all bloody, or some guy solo'n up some 800+ rock!
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Climbing gear is a waste of money. Just wait till you start doing walls. Better investment is a Roth IRA. But how's that going to help your climbing? Ask for a rack for Christmas. Then you are not wasting YOUR money, but THEIR money. TRADitionally yours, Cali Dirtbag
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in my case there's my mom who doesn't really care that i climb but often says i shouldn't spend so much money to go out and climb all the time when i'm always broke, and then theres my dad who just gave me $400 as an early birthday and christmas present to buy new cams and stuff. i say take your parents climbing and get them addicted to it then you'll be the one trying to stop them from spending your college fund on a new rack :lol: anything is possible right? jason
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They are just trying to be responsible. They don't climb and they think climbing will get you killed therefore they 1. think it is a waste of money and 2. don't want you doing it cause you will die. Simple as that. If your parents don't let you buy what you want then that sucks and what are they gonna do? Ground you? Not let you go climing... shit you will be out of the house soon enough and then you can do what you want. If your parents thoughts about climbing being a waste of time then they will prove right if you quit climbing and have 1000's of dollars of gear in your closet.
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Speaking from personal experience, you just have to wait for your parents to get used to the idea of you climbing. Me and my brother climb and our parents are convinced that we're going to kill ourselves. (Or each other, depending on the situation... :wink: ) But after we had been climbing for a while, they actually offered to drive to one of the places we climb!! So just give it time and you'll see!!
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