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winter
Dec 5, 2005, 9:24 PM
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So, when you first meet someone and consider dating them what are your deal breakers? Things that if they have them you absolutely won't date them...or if you find this out about them after limited dating you will break it off.
Mine are:
Car. Gotta have one. I am not a chaffeur.
Job or independantly wealthy. I am not a sugar moma.
Multiple room-mates. Yuck, can we say frat house?
Sport/Hobby. Have to have an interest other than watching TV and working.
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mother_sheep
Dec 5, 2005, 10:26 PM
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Sense of humor. If he lacks one, I won't date him.
Must be active. I have nothing in common with a couch potato
Good looks. Yeah, I'm shallow. Physical attraction is important.
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kubi
Dec 5, 2005, 10:31 PM
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a penis......welp, that's pretty much it. If they've got a schlong I'm gettin' the fuck out.
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kubi
Dec 5, 2005, 10:35 PM
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what's the cup-size on that toe? I'm a reasonable man.
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snoangel
Dec 5, 2005, 10:58 PM
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In reply to: Sense of humor. If he lacks one, I won't date him. Must be active. I have nothing in common with a couch potato Good looks. Yeah, I'm shallow. Physical attraction is important.
I think you hit the nail on the head, ma sheep. I only have to add intelligence. I have a hard time dating the dumb jock type.
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deserteaglle
Dec 5, 2005, 11:17 PM
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I think something that I definitely think about is the way they dress, and their body shape. I don't mean exactly what style they dress in, but are they completely done up all the time and perfect, or do they seem to dress laid back, without being seen only in sweat pants.
I have noticed alot of sweat pants lately, and I think there should be rules about them. For example my aunt who came to work today in red ones...yeah, I wish I could have fired her. That was just wrong.
It all has to do with telling things about their personalities from their looks. A girl who dresses flawlessly is most likely going to expect perfection from me, which she definitely will not get, so that is a no go. And if they wear baggy clothes ALL rthe time, then they prolly don't think they are very sexy, and that is not sexy. Basically I don't think a girl should try to be any one thing all the time. Can't always be sexy, and you can't always be a slob. Moderation is the key.
It goes the same for their body type. I look at myself and go, "Well, you're kinda like a mule. You can get all the jobs done that a thoroughbred could, you just don't look as good doing it." I am definitely not in great shape, but I can handle strenuous physical activity, and that is important considering my hobbies. So a girl would definitely need to share at least some of those hobbies, and be in good shape. I'm not saying she needs to be able to run a triathalon and win, but at least be able to run a couple of miles without passing out. Someone who takes care of themselves is definitely important.
Oh yeah, and smoking. I quit smoking in the past several months and still feel the urge when I'm around it. I couldn't be with a smoker now. Unfortunately I'm still kind of in love withone...she is a bad influence. I really need to stay away from her.
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dirtineye
Dec 5, 2005, 11:39 PM
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Haha, I could not pass this one up!
1. Anorexic alternating with bulemic, kleptomaniac, liar, nyphomaniac and irisistably beautiful (to EVERYONE, male nad female), with confinable-for-their-own-good insanity running in the family.
2. Practicing alcoholic with nothing nice to say to or about anyone they are supposed to love, including spouse and parents. Wonderful to the rest of the world however.
3. Smoker.
4. Republican.
The first two are from experience, the next two are theoretical.
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kimmyt
Dec 6, 2005, 12:54 AM
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Well here is a something I once told my friend when she asked why I broke up with a good-looking guy I had been dating in college:
"Mandy, I can date a guy that is ugly, as long as he is an interesting person and is good in bed. I can even date a guy that is good-looking but duller than a box of crayons if the sex is good. But I absolutely cannot date a guy who has the personality of a piece of plywood, a dick the size of my pinky and man-boobs, no matter how pretty his face is."
Oh, other dealbreakers...not from experience, but still.
Abusive, physical, emotional, or verbal.
Does not respect me.
Snowboarder.
Hehe. Okay I lied about that last one. I'm dating one now. A snowboarder. Maybe I should replace that one with 'sport climber'...oh wait....maybe gym climber? Damn.
I think my dealbreaker is broken. :lol:
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tattooed_climber
Dec 6, 2005, 1:06 AM
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bad music (country, rap, techno = me gone!)
doesn't read often (as in terms of novels and such)
cant think further than 2 days
non-outdoorsie
too serious
not worth her word
any flip flop or double standards
the whole "tease" thing
the eyes and the smilie is a big thing....if i don't like em, im gone...(i find these can help on reflecting soo much)
then again i'm not really dating....i'm kinda sort of is a REALLY fucked up sorta long distances maybe kind of thing....other than that, i honestly don't have the time....
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crimpergirl
Dec 6, 2005, 1:25 AM
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Intolerance.
I detest intolerant people.
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maculated
Dec 6, 2005, 1:30 AM
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In reply to: Intolerance. I detest intolerant people.
I hate people like that.
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In reply to: Intolerance. I detest intolerant people.
So are you saying you can't tolerate intolerant people?
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crimpergirl
Dec 6, 2005, 1:32 AM
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I'm sorry Mac. Please be my friend. :cry:
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davidji
Dec 6, 2005, 1:35 AM
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Score! 'bout time one of the women disqualified me. 'course you might have done that with a few of your other items too...
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timstich
Dec 6, 2005, 2:41 AM
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In reply to: Intolerance. I detest intolerant people.
Chronic smartasses.
:lol:
"You know Johnny Ringo kind of reminds me of...me. Now I really hate him."
-Doc Holiday
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htotsu
Dec 6, 2005, 3:22 AM
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Off the top of my head...
Mean. Guys who think I'll be impressed when they're mean to other people are sooo third grade. I'd like a guy with enough humility to at least try to follow that old golden rule.
Smoker. Can't stand the smell. I couldn't dream of kissing someone who smelled like that. I like kissing too much to waste it on someone whose kisses I can't totally lose myself in and enjoy.
Couch potato. Could not deal with a guy who is totally out of shape and inactive. He doesn't have to be an Olympic decathlete or anything, but I don't want someone who only wants to do stuff like go out to dinner or watch movies.
Bodybuilder. God bless 'em, but it's a bit too much for me. I prefer a more natural build, the kind obtained by athletic-type activities versus just lifting weights. Using weights and the like as a supplement can be quite nice (indeed...). But a guy who never sees the light of day because he's in the mirror lifting weights 24/7 just isn't for me.
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Dec 6, 2005, 3:44 AM
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hmmm....
Well...hyperreligiousity...scientific ignorance
(I've dated several artists and we definitely don't share the same passions. Museums bore me and impressionism didn't make much of an impression but the physical world amazes me. Not saying I'll only date people with a B.S. in a physical science, but they should at least be cognicient of cause effect tangibles, reality, logic, etc....btw...I know several "artists" who meet these requirements...but many who don't)
...Smoking...being prudish (does not equal I want a slut, but someone who likes sex as much as I do.)...really poor personal hygene...cheating...lying...incompatibility with my friends...not knowing how to cook (if I can do it, why can't you?)...being excessively bookish...fear of getting dirty...not tolerating my liking beer...or my lack of organized religion...
I could go on...but the list is becoming more of what I "want" not what I can't tolerate. I've been single for 3 months now. If I keep thinking about this list. I feel I'd find myself single for a long while.
I've been in my office for 14 hours. I think grad school is killing me. Time to go home see if I can't have a few beers before Monday Night Football is over.
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Dec 6, 2005, 4:06 AM
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Smokers
self-centered
couch-potatos
abusive (mental or physical)
JEALOUS!!!
fat (can't help it I'm shallow)
must have intelligence. Dated total eye candy once. Rocked in bed. Dumb as a box of rocks. Dumped him. If only he could have just existed without speaking. *sigh*
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crimpergirl
Dec 6, 2005, 4:10 AM
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I LOVE chronic smartasses!! :lol: :lol:
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maculated
Dec 6, 2005, 4:12 AM
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Drives a rice rocket or a car worth more than $50k
Was in the military
Wears a cross
Owns a beret
That's it. Those are the deal breakers. I could give you the resaons, but that's not as mysterious. :)
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dr_feelgood
Dec 6, 2005, 4:17 AM
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In reply to: Was in the military Owns a beret That's it. Those are the deal breakers. I could give you the resaons, but that's not as mysterious. :)
Shit... Looks like I'm out.
Stupid Military.
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Deal breakers (implying there´s a deal to break,ie the girl´s already up to snuff):
Can´t or won´t stand for my climbing (sure, if she´s hot it may take a while, but she´s definitely a goner)
Hates *all* music (seriously, wtf is up with that??)
Too neurotic and/or clinically psychotic
Boring... she has to work pretty hard at this one; if she can´t have fun with me and and any of my friends, there is something wrong with that girl (hypothetical, I´ve cracked every nut so far)
Y cromosomes are as big a dealbreaker as it gets... (again, hypothetical)
REALLY bad inlaws. Usually it doesn´t matter much, but I´ve already been screwed over once by a girls father and damned if it happens again.
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maculated
Dec 6, 2005, 4:22 AM
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In reply to: s---... Looks like I'm out. Stupid Military.
I once tried to break this one because I believe in giving people of otherwise excellent "credentials" a shot, but it bit me in the ass. I thank you for your dedication to serving your country and respect that, but so far I've noticed there's a certain characteristic of such individuals that makes them incompatible with me. It's not beliefs or anything . . . it's weird. It's just a pattern.
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htotsu
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