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valygrl
Dec 24, 2002, 4:41 PM
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Hillary,
I don't know you or Andria, but I have seen your pictures and read your writing here.
I am so sorry for your loss. There is nothing OK about this. I know this doesn't help, but hang in there. It does get easier with time.
My condolences to you and her friends and family. My thoughts are with you.
Anna
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thedreamingtree
Dec 24, 2002, 4:48 PM
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My heart goes out to you Hillary, Andria's family, friends, and all the people affected by this great loss.
May you find comfort and peace.
Kam.
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atg200
Dec 24, 2002, 4:49 PM
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Tragic. You have my deepest sympathies Hillary and anyone else who knew Andria.
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maiorlive
Dec 24, 2002, 5:04 PM
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Hope it was swift and without suffering. Pray for a gentle welcome into her next life.
My condolences, Hillary, and to everyone who was close to Andria.
W
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camhead
Dec 24, 2002, 5:16 PM
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my condolences.
Paul
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climbchick
Dec 24, 2002, 5:18 PM
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I'm so sorry, Hillary. Words fail me. Just from her posts here in the past, I had the impression that she was an amazing person . . smart, funny, talented, brave, and a great athlete. And I know that you two were very close. My heart goes out to you, and to Andria's family. I'll be thinking of you, and her.
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taorock
Dec 24, 2002, 5:23 PM
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I'm in shock. My daughter, Elena, and Andria were great friends and climbing buddies too. My wife and I just told Elena. It just isn't right. Andria was a very wonderful person.
I'm very sad.
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traddad
Dec 24, 2002, 5:26 PM
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Her passing makes the world a colder, lonelier place. My heart goes out to her friends and family.
Traddad
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hellbent
Dec 24, 2002, 5:40 PM
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I knew Andria well. She worked with me and got me hooked to climbing. She was the most enthusiastic person I knew. I cant believe she is gone.
The worst part was, we were supposed to go climbing on Sunday. She was supposed to teach me how to lead climb. But on Fri i had an accident and had my car wrecked. Spoke to her last on Saturday and cancelled....
I cant belive life is so fragile.
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metoliusmunchkin
Dec 24, 2002, 5:46 PM
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She had her whole lire ahead of her, nineteen, what a shame. My deepest condolences to you and whomever else may be in a state or mourning over this tragic occurrence.
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vegastradguy
Dec 24, 2002, 5:49 PM
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Hillary-
I'm so sorry...I don't even really have the words.
Andria was kind enough to give me climbing info on Tucson when I was down there, and I was looking forward to climbing with her in the future.
From the little time I actually spent talking with her, I know that the world has lost someone very special.
My sincerest condolances.
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Dec 24, 2002, 5:57 PM
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My thoughts are with you and her family
Take Care,
Sara
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slcathena
Dec 24, 2002, 6:03 PM
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Hillary, I am so sorry this happened. My heart goes out to you. Let us know if there is anything we can do. In a dis-similar situation, I lost someone close to me two days before Christmas three years ago--all of the holiday stuff made it so hard.
Take Care.
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marshall84
Dec 24, 2002, 6:16 PM
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Hillary, the only thing that I can possibly say is that I am sorry for your loss and I'm sorry for our loss.
May you all be kept safe.
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Dec 24, 2002, 6:16 PM
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Andria was my climbing partner: on Mt. Lemmon, in Cochise, Joshua Tree, Paradise Forks, The Overlook, and even the gym. She was a great climber and a true friend. When I arrived at U of A this year, she introduced me to everyone that I climb with today. I know how terrible you must feel Hillary, for I am going through it too. We'll miss you Andria.
Elena
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Dec 24, 2002, 6:17 PM
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hillary-
times like these always hit hard, and remind us of what a gift life is, yet how easily it can be taken away...i never got a chance to meet andria, whether online or in person, but from what i have heard, she is someone who will be dearly missed. my thoughts and condolences go out to you.
sarah
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enigma
Dec 24, 2002, 6:31 PM
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Sorry to hear about this Hilary.
I've lost alot of family too.
What helps me is being philosophical about it,that its fate and we have no control.
It gives me strength and comfort when too much sadness and pain would bring me down.
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Dec 24, 2002, 7:49 PM
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So now I'm sitting here crying.
At first when I found out about Andria's death, I couldn't believe it.
I just sort of sat here with this blank feeling - denial, whatever.
Then I saw the newspaper account of Andria's death that Hillary had linked - I instantly recognized the picture of Andria as the one I had taken up on the Summit Crags of Mt. Lemmon when Andria led her first multi-pitch trad climb, with me belaying.
that was what finally got my pent-up tears to flow.
I need to cry.
Lots.
My table is littered just now with photos of Andria. She was such a cutie, such a poser. She had a radiance and beauty that just flowed when she was climbing. I mean, she really shone. Wait'll you see the pictures I've got of her!
Andria and I enjoyed a kind of synergy when we were together - where the whole was greater than the sum of the parts - that was truly inexplicable. For some reason, I was able to bring out the best in her. It amazed us both. She and I gave up long ago trying to figure out why - we just went with the flow. "Magic" was the word we used to describe it, for there was no logical explanation. We loved it because we didn't "get" why!
We looked forward to one day climbing a big wall together in Yosemite. She would have made a very competent partner, I am certain. She was amazingly strong and tough - she ran a marathon just a couple weeks ago.
I knew Andria very very well. I was privy to her inmost thoughts, the beauty that was her heart.
She kept a diary that recorded many of her adventures, and she allowed me to read it. Let me tell you, this girl could write! She had some brilliantly insightful words. She possessed an uncanny wisdom for one of only nineteen years of age.
Me being an Editor, naturally I had comments to share with her. We'd sit down together on her bed and I'd say, "here's what I really like about this bit, where you wrote..." Andria enjoyed and valued my feedback on her writing, so one day when she was out running [probably some diabolical triathalon training run in the Tucson summer heat] I skimmed through and chose a few of my favourite paragraphs. I marked the pages of her diary with yellow post-it notes, with the intention of sitting down with her at a later time and reading her words back to her, and to share with her why I liked them so.
I never got the chance.
I asked her recently if the post-it notes were still in her diary, so that when I saw her next, perhaps on my way to Yosemite in May, I could go over them with her. She assured me that they were. I hope they stay there. That's where they belong.
We exchanged a lot of correspondence, and I saw inside her heart, and she into mine. She was very introspective when she chose to share. She didn't hold much back. There were even a few late night telephone calls when she was distressed over one thing or another. She told me things she said she told nobody else. Sometimes I was the priveleged recipient of one of her rants. I was very very fortunate to share these things with Andria.
Besides the post-its in her diary, there were other little bits of me scattered about her little house on Bean Street, the one with the woody in her backyard, the one with the climbing gear hanging in the living room, the one with the climbing posters on the wall. Stuff like the bottle of wine we drank together - I noticed that she had kept it. Like the post-it notes in her diary. Other stuff, too.
And her at my place. In my profile, there appears at the top a photo of me in a suit. Hillary reminded me that the climbing tie I'm wearing was given to me by Andria.
What a cherished gift!
Andria and I drank coffee together. Early in the morning before a climb. Late at night in her lab where she worked, Hillary and I would bring her over my coffee press topped to the brim. I always made it strong, and sometimes Andria even diluted it a bit with water. But she always drank it black.
One night Andria and I ran over to a friend's place so she could grab some climbing gear for her to use the next day. I sang along with my CD's in the car to her. Andria might well have been my only fan, which makes her truly exceptional! "Our Song" was "Beginnings" by Chicago.
"Only the beginning, only just the start..."
Dammit I'm pissed! We really had some climbs to do, know what I mean?
Hillary and Andria and I shared some amazing adventures together. Climbing and bouldering and eating supper at La Salsa and taking pictures and getting benighted in Cochise Stronghold and rappelling in the dark and ....
...I could rant all day.
I need to rant, but I don't have time! Christmas stuff to do.
When you get time, please email or PM me. I do need to talk about this. Writing you-all will be my therapy.
I have so much stuff to share with you about Andria! Stories, photos, things she told me, climbs we made. She was so quiet, and for the most part the world didn't know how amazingly bitchin' she was!
I want to publish an article here at RC.com in her memory, and post some photos some of the hundreds of photos I have of Andria. Hopefully Hillary can help me. It's good therapy. I want you-all to know a bit more about the wonderful lady Andria was.
The photo beneath, as well as the one above, is a link, so please click on it to offer your comments.
The photo beneath shows Andria at her best, and I am so blessed that I was one who could bring it out in her.
IM to a ghost:
"peterzabrok: My faith in God remains unwavering. I don't "get stuff" like this at all, but I know God still loves us anyway. A lot. Maybe one day when I'm singin' in the heavenly choir, you'll come and listen. I didn't have many "fans", but you always liked it when I sang for you in the car along with my CDs. And of the song "Beginnings", you said, "it rocked!" I remember that, just two words on my computer screen.
peterzabrok: And after my choir gig is over, we'll head back up to the crags, you and me, and continue where we left off. Me holding the rope while you power off on lead, your Wall Doctor offering useful tips from below on how to place gear.
peterzabrok: Climb on, baby. Climb on."
I am Dr. Piton,
and today I cry
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Dec 24, 2002, 7:55 PM
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Hillary.
So very sorry to hear about Andria.
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milesdesbrie
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This is so terrible. My deepest sympathies to her friends and family.
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Dec 24, 2002, 8:48 PM
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NOTHIN BUT LOVE BABY
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Dec 24, 2002, 9:24 PM
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All of our hearts and thoughts are with you.
With all our love.
Scott
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Dec 24, 2002, 9:58 PM
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May you find the ultimate rock in the sky.
Our thoughts go with you.
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Dec 24, 2002, 10:01 PM
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Hillary
Although I had yet to meet Andria or yourself, I sit here crying reading the beautiful things that these wonderful people have put into words about the angel we've lost.
I don't think I could offer any words that would be better than what has already been said. Pete's very kind words make all of us, who were not fortunate enough to meet Andria, very sad that we will never have the chance to be in the presence of Andria's beautiful soul.
I second the idea of having a memorial on this site dedicated to Andria's memory.
We have lost someone VERY special.
When we do meet, you are getting a HUGE hug.
My most sincere condolences to both you and her family. I will be thinking of her often.
If you haven't already, I think you should share the beautiful words of these people with Andria's family. She touched many lives and will be sorely missed.
Wes
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Dec 24, 2002, 10:20 PM
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This is a sad news. Hillary, you will sure go through a hard moment, but be sure some friends can help you.
NB : in the newspaper article, I found awful they could tell she wore no helmet. As if a cycle-rider could have a chance when hit by a car, with or without helmet. But it might be their job of journalist. I hope the driver will sincerely apologize.
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