Ladies, I must admit, I've heard every single male climber say - I WISH I COULD FIND A CLIMBING CHICK! :)

Climber chicks have the same needs normal girls have. I think climber guys look at climber girls through a little "tougher" eyes sometimes. And while we are tougher than most girls in most ways, we still want to be treated decently by the man we're with.

Word. Well, I haven't been a climber for long, but before I started I was what one would call a 'non-girly girl'. Meaning that I'd rather hang out at a dive bar with my guy, drink some beer, watch some sports, than get dressed up and go out and be all high maintenance. Unfortunately, because I liked the same things as my boyfriend at the time, and didn't usually get all upset if he wanted a night off to hang with his boys, he sometimes forgot that I WAS a girl, even though sometimes I didn't act like one. Meaning I rarely ever got flowers, taken to a nice restaurant, pampered etc. Which, I admit, gets old, but once in a while it's nice!

K.

I was seeing that they wanted me to pay for 1/2 for gas and meals

wow, the nerve of them. imagine a guy treated you equally instead of as a charity case or some sort of pet.

So true, I've even had the experience from these climber guys I was seeing that they wanted me to pay for 1/2 for gas and meals. :twisted:

WHAT?? You mean there are actually climber guys who pay for stuff for women? :shock: I'm yet to be around a single climber guy without going dutch on everything. Hell, a lot of the time I end up paying. Sucks sometimes to be a girl with a decent job :wink: . Guys assume you can take care of the tab all the time. I can't remember the last time I went out with a guy who paid for everything...I'm talking like a couple YEARS.

Are you serious? You haven't been out with a climber guy in years, who didn't even take you out for a dinner or a movie?
You know there's nothing wrong with that. In fact with the right person it feels kinda nice. :P ).

I haven't been climbing for all that long, only had one serious climber b/f.
And yep, I'm serious. Iin my last relationship the 2 times we went to movies, I bought my own ticket. He fell into a bad job situation about 6 weeks after we got together. So to make things easier I paid for many many lunches/dinners out. Constantly was buying the beer for him. Hell, I paid for every cent of gas for every road trip we took (and all road trips were in my car!). I always went down to his place (a county away, that racked up gas $$) so he wouldn't have to drive up to mine. His shorts rip down the middle - I buy him new ones. Was any of it appreciated? Fukk NO!! He had no appreciation for any of it. And if he did, he never showed it. I think I thought I was helping, taking care of his needs and making sure his well being was always in the forefront. But I see now that I didn't get that in return. Now I realize I was a giver, he was taker and I need to learn to not be such a doormat....love makes ya do stupid things.

I don't think a climberguy paying for an occasional dinners qualifies me as a charity case or a pet, sorry Atg.

Maybe that works to tell the ladies you see that.

So when you take your lady out, you ask for half the gas every time too???

that is surely not what it sounded like in your first post. you sounded like a gold digger who expects to be treated like a princess.

Too bad, you can't seem to read, either. Maybe you're reading into my posts your own insecurities about ladies.



i am still trying to work out what on earth this means. intelligible communication is generally my first step with the ladies.

Just trying to understand what you say to these ladies , not that I really care.



at present i don't have a lady, but i can't say i've ever dated anyone who expects me to pay for everything. i tend to foot most of the bill while climbing with anyone since i am financially secure and remember what it was like to be a dirtbag, but when i'm being a nice guy i don't discriminate based on sex.

I never said I expect someone to pay for everything, Again a reading comprehension problem. Or some reading into my posts again. Understandable why you don't presently have a lady. :roll:

you can't expect to be treated equivalently to a man in other fields if you insist on having your way paid in a relationship purely because you are a woman. hypocracy at its finest.

that is surely not what it sounded like in your first post. you sounded like a gold digger who expects to be treated like a princess.


i am still trying to work out what on earth this means. intelligible communication is generally my first step with the ladies.


at present i don't have a lady, but i can't say i've ever dated anyone who expects me to pay for everything. i tend to foot most of the bill while climbing with anyone since i am financially secure and remember what it was like to be a dirtbag, but when i'm being a nice guy i don't discriminate based on sex.

you can't expect to be treated equivalently to a man in other fields if you insist on having your way paid in a relationship purely because you are a woman. hypocracy at its finest.

So true, I've even had the experience from these climber guys I was seeing that they wanted me to pay for 1/2 for gas and meals. I mean they want to date climber girls and get all the benefits, but do none of the things they would usually do for a non-climber girl.

I have never said a man should pay for everything, but an occasional dinner and a movie is pretty commonplace.
If I'm dating a climber who doesn't have much financial means; he can always offer a home-cooked meal or some other personal romantic gesture.