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leyton
Oct 11, 2010, 4:00 AM
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gobennyjo wrote: So back to all the relationship stuff, I’ve been planning on marrying her for well two years now. That is why I have worked so hard, to be ready for those responsibilities.
Woah, your taking it far to seriously :P hehe Marriage is not based on money dude, that mindset can destroy marriages.
But how do you know this without being married, well you don't? It's a big adventure :)
As for your schooling, well.. To be perfectly honest, whilst its important...
Scenario this... If you don't have the heart for school right now and the passion for adventure... And you choose School, how much better off will you be ??.. perhaps 10 years later you might regret going to school. Or you might choose adventure now, then regret not going to school ??.
You must follow your heart to be happy.
On the other hand, school whilst working, whilst married is difficult but not impossible. Getting married is not a milestone, its the journey. You do not have to give up your personality, what makes you, well you.. to please your partner.. because it really wont.. and will never work that way. You need to be free in a marriage, and the only way to do that is to share your heart %100 with your partner, in all open honesty, everything, even if you think what you are going to communicate will cause conflict, choose your words carefully, express lovingly, express what is deepest on your heart.
Complete life with a full heart, Life is too short to muck around not doing stuff, or making non heart felt decisions. Yes its hard to make decisions based on your feelings because you just don't know. If you have a faith, pray on it. If you archeve the same result by climbing, climb on it.
Like everyone has said, You are Young. You have plenty of time.
But only to an extent and on the basis that you are young being that you actually have just more choices.
You have not made too much yet in your life time. Dispite all your success's finantialy, accidemicly, and in business.
Choose with your heart, and any choice is not wrong. Or choose not to choose.. , ease the pressure off yourself.
I can see how the random gal in the library might have got your thinking. It sounds to me like you just am really busting for a change.
My guess is that married to you represents cementing your self into a life sentence where you will stop enjoying the good life.
IMO It should never be like that :), As another said, a good marriage is where you have found yourself, and your partner is more complimentary. You have a lot to offer each other in a marriage if that is the case and you are strengthened not weakened.
Summary :
If you are a complimentary couple
Communication between you is open, honest and %100 full without fear of heartfelt expression.
Share similar life goals
GO FOR IT!!
And do not be ashamed to seek pre marital counciling. It only opens up more intimacy between you and your partner, and think of her as your very best friend :)
Applogies if none of this makes too much sense, writing in such a tiny window hehehe
(This post was edited by leyton on Oct 11, 2010, 4:09 AM)
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