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dlintz
Aug 9, 2007, 5:09 AM
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Yellow Tail? For maybe a buck or two more you can get Bonny Doon Big House Red...now that's a fine tasting cheap wine.
My ex-wife and I lived together for four years before we got married. After the first couple years she hounded me all the time about proposing but frankly I still wasn't ready (and I told her as much which really pissed her off).
After 3 years of marriage she decides to divorce me, among other reasons she thought we rushed into marriage too quickly. I reminded her of how pushy she was regarding getting hitched but she didn't remember it being that way. 
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climbs4fun
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Aug 9, 2007, 5:22 AM
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gwendolyn wrote: climbs4fun wrote: Sounds like an interesting dilema. I lived with a boyfriend once and his family was a lot like yours. Kept asking when we were getting married. Would have been the dumbest thing ever for us to get married. Glad we didn't. Easier to see in retrospect but I'm sure you made a good call. Just imagine yourself married to the guy you were dating when you were sixteen, eighteen,... I barely resemble who I was that long ago, who's to say what exes are up to. They could be slinging yayo in Oakland for all I know.
I barely resemble the person I was at 25. I don't think I had a clue who the person I have become was until 30.
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camhead
Aug 9, 2007, 6:45 AM
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whoa, so this is what went down in community as I was driving back home from the airport...
good responses all.
I miss you already, clausti!
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uhoh
Aug 9, 2007, 10:36 AM
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clausti wrote: macherry wrote: it's the initial shock with the folks, ... 'snot. told them, well, told mom, months ago. she said dad wasnt happy about it then. this issue will never die, and i kinda feel like not answering the phone when its my family, for like a week. (aka everyone agrees with mom and dad)
Then don't answer. I don't answer the phone when my family calls because I already know that what'll happen is they'll run up my phone bill while nagging me to death. And I don't need to be dead right now and have a huge goddamn phone to boot.
Edit: Oh, and fuck ACDC.
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c4c
Aug 9, 2007, 10:52 AM
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Clausti, I hope the hangover isn't too bad. Let me just say that we are all "living in sin" (even your parents).
For me it was the opposite I dated my wife when I was in 8th grade until I was out of HS. We wanted to get married but her dad said that I had to have at least $1000 in the bank before we could get married. I have never had that much in the bank (for more than a week) and we have been married for going on 15 years. You are the one who has to live with the results of your decisions. Do what you know is right.
BTW-Paul seems like a cool dude.
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thomasribiere
Aug 9, 2007, 10:53 AM
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Who could trust a guy who denied his parents religion?!
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c4c
Aug 9, 2007, 11:11 AM
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thomasribiere wrote: Who could trust a guy who denied his parents religion?!
Maybe a woman who denied her parents religion???!
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robbovius
Aug 9, 2007, 11:17 AM
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climbs4fun wrote: I barely resemble the person I was at 25. I don't think I had a clue who the person I have become was until 30.
...doesn't end there either. now, at 51, the I view the person I was at 30 as an immature fool.
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wideguy
Aug 9, 2007, 11:56 AM
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robbovius wrote: climbs4fun wrote: I barely resemble the person I was at 25. I don't think I had a clue who the person I have become was until 30. ...doesn't end there either. now, at 51, the I view the person I was at 30 as an immature fool.
Keep us updated Rob. I'll be interested to know if there's a tipping point. Wake up one morning and go "Holy shit... I was alot smarter yesterday. Where are my pants?"
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robbovius
Aug 9, 2007, 12:51 PM
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wideguy wrote: robbovius wrote: climbs4fun wrote: I barely resemble the person I was at 25. I don't think I had a clue who the person I have become was until 30. ...doesn't end there either. now, at 51, the I view the person I was at 30 as an immature fool. Keep us updated Rob. I'll be interested to know if there's a tipping point. Wake up one morning and go "Holy shit... I was alot smarter yesterday. Where are my pants?"
I dunno man, this whole aging thing is an insidious creeping incremental decreptitude...I might not notice, or beable to determine when I was smarter. I might not remember. and I won't be able to remember, that I can't remember. it's like watching the hour hand move, and not being able to remember that you're watching the hour hand move.
right now, I feel like, mi mind was quicker then, but I didn't have the life experience (AKA "wisdom") with which to make the smartest/most effective decisions.
...like I ever make those anyway.
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kyote321
Aug 9, 2007, 12:53 PM
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don't give into that brainwashing. i went through years of that with my parents in different relationships.
i second bonnie doone being the best resonable priced wine. trader joes has some good ones too.
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macherry
Aug 10, 2007, 1:05 AM
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i am currently waiting for a friend to finish her nursing shift, so we can go out for cheap wings and beer night.
i'll have a quick drink while i'm waiting
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plund
Aug 10, 2007, 4:48 PM
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Ah yes, the fandamily pressure....
My Mom (VERY devout Catholic, so yes I'm permanently scarred) used to ask / hint / cajole / guiltify me into going to church (long after I'd realized it just wasn't my thing)...I finally asked HER why she wanted me to go. Did she want me to attend because it was MY belief, or just because she wanted me to? I'm sure I'm a great disappontment to her (at least in that area) but she doesn't apply pressure anymore -- just an occasional mention around Christmas or Easter. Now it's my baby sis (who has provided the first grandchild) who gets to deal with all the good stuff...
**DISCLAIMER** - single, never married, misanthropic 41-yr old speaking...
If you do get married for ANY reason(s) other than your own, you're asking for a huge heap of trouble (and probably deserve it)
Good luck.....hope the hang wasn't crippling...
PS - How was the first glass of water the day after?? AAAHHH...vino....two buzzes for the price of one...
edited for typos...
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limeydave
Aug 11, 2007, 1:15 AM
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plund wrote: .... If you do get married for ANY reason(s) other than your own, you're asking for a huge heap of trouble (and probably deserve it)...
I got married for my own reasons and I still got a huge heap of trouble.
Draw your own conclusions from my bitter twisted logic..
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thegreytradster
Aug 11, 2007, 2:36 AM
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In reply to: Still, married life isn't too bad.
Check back in with us in about 40 years.
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clausti
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thegreytradster wrote: In reply to: Still, married life isn't too bad. Check back in with us in about 40 years.
ppl are so negative.
i'm pretty effin glad my boyfriend's parents are still together, as are mine. ppl with divorced parents can be so soul-crushingly negative towards the entire concept.
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climbsomething
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clausti wrote: thegreytradster wrote: In reply to: Still, married life isn't too bad. Check back in with us in about 40 years. ppl are so negative. i'm pretty effin glad my boyfriend's parents are still together, as are mine. ppl with divorced parents can be so soul-crushingly negative towards the entire concept.
I do think simply registering at Bed Bath & Beyond would be cool though. We could use some new cookware and linens.
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caughtinside
Aug 11, 2007, 3:28 AM
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You could use some new linens?
You sure sound married to me!
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climbsomething
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caughtinside wrote: You could use some new linens? You sure sound married to me!
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curt
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clausti wrote: thegreytradster wrote: In reply to: Still, married life isn't too bad. Check back in with us in about 40 years. ppl are so negative. i'm pretty effin glad my boyfriend's parents are still together, as are mine. ppl with divorced parents can be so soul-crushingly negative towards the entire concept.
Well, whether marriage is "good" as opposed to "bad" depends 100% on being with the right person. You and Paul are both great people--but (to go ahead and state the obvious) only you guys can figure out if you will be great together. Also, keep in mind that any free unsolicited advice you receive in this area is worth exactly what you paid for it.
Curt
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zeke_sf
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climbsomething wrote: caughtinside wrote: You could use some new linens? You sure sound married to me! Heh. Actually, I'm just gross. I have several pets and a habit of getting nocturnal nosebleeds.
Nocturnal nosebleeds are a thing? Boy, that sucks. Are you sure your boyfriend isn't sleep-abusing you?
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macherry
Aug 11, 2007, 4:59 AM
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thegreytradster wrote: In reply to: Still, married life isn't too bad. Check back in with us in about 40 years.
well, after 21 years, it's still pretty good
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lagarita
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I'm going to apologize right now for the fact that I have't read any of the previous posts. But I have already killed a bottle of Cayon road cabernet sauvignon and am working on a bottle of Gyser peak sauvignon blanc. I know it totally goes against the lightest to fullest rule, but I had some guests over and they wanted white while I was drinking red and I can't leave an open bottle alone.
Hope ya'all are doing as well as I am......
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